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Just a few questions, things that are newer to me that I have never experienced before so I wanted to get some other mature womens input.

1) My girlfriend will not kiss me after I perform oral on her? I am willing to kiss her after she does it to me. How do all of you feel about this?

2) She also will not going down on me after we make love, unless I wash it off before hand.

3) Lastly, it isn't directly sex related but it bothers me. If any nudity is on the TV she looks away (guy or girl), she also looks away if women are dressed skimpy (ex: 2 piece bathing suits). It almost seems to me like she is a homophobe, maybe afraid if she saw this stuff she may like it? What do you guys think? Also, another pointer, to maybe help you understand her, she wears shorts and a tank top over her bathing suit cause she said she doesn't like to show skin.

thanks in advance to all of the mature replies. your help is appreciated.

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i don't know... i guess she just feels weird about... maybe she feels like she'd actually be kissing herself down there in a way.

Or she doesn't like the ... 'taste' (i have no idea if there is some kind of 'taste' lol i'm not into girls so i haven't tried haha )

1) and 2) both sound like she feels a little uncomfortable with everything sexual... so does 3)

maybe she feels kind of dirty when doing it?

to 3) maybe she's just not comfortable with herself yet, with her body, showing skin, with sexuality. I mean... i can get uncomfortable when they show sex scenes somewhere lol

i guess it's just a question of comfort. I don't think it has to do with her sexuality, i guess it's just that she's not feeling comfortable with all of it yet.

Girls often have a completely different understanding of everything related to sex. I guess she's had way less exposure to stuff like that than you (i assume you've probably watched porn, touched yourself etc, maybe she just never 'experienced' sexuality like that).

I guess you just need to give her time, make her feel comfortable with herself and with sexuality. Show and tell her that you like her personality and her body and accept that she's uncomfortable. If she can experience a feeling of trust with you, it might get better. But accept it if she's just not comfortable and might not come around, as well.

Did that make any sense? I hope i could help you. I mean i'm not an expert lol but someone else can probably help you

and btw i think this thread actually belongs into the sex forum, so it might get moved there by an admin. so don't be surprised when it's suddenly gone.

So shes not as loose as some other women - dosn;t mean she dosnt love you

Well firstly, there are a lot of men and women who do not want to "taste" themself, so anything that gives this potetnial is off limits. Appparently, men and women are not cookie cut when it comes ot preferences in anything.. hehehe

And as for the nudity, it sounds like she is young... or at least young minded. There are people who just get embarrased about the body, no matter how natural it is. It is usually lack of seeing naked people or a taught behavior that makes someone embarrased or grossed out by the naked body. In some religions.. to look at nudity is thought to cause lusts that will lead to sin. But then there are people who can be in the same religions who go to nude beaches and communities with no problem.

It sounds to me like your girlfriend is very conservative. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone is different! I, personally, don't mind my fiance kissing me after he performs oral on me (it doesn't taste bad at all). My fiance, however, won't kiss me after I perform oral on him. It's the whole "kissing myself" thing. It doesn't bother me or offend me. I just go to the bathroom, brush my teeth and rinse with Listerine. Keeps my teeth healthy!

I have performed oral on my fiance after he's been in inside me. It doesn't bother me and he thinks it's hot.

Now, I have a few questions for you:

1) How old is she?

2) How long have the two of you been together?

3) Is she very religious?

I'm just asking because it could be a number of things. She either A) Is still young and not comfortable with her sexuality or certain sex acts. B) You haven't been together long enough for her to be comfortable with you. C) You're probably her first or one of her first sexual partners. or D) She's a religious girl OR a very conservative, modest girl. NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. The fact that she shies away from people scantily clad on the television indicates that's she's a very modest person and probably very religious as well.

Personally, I'm very open with my fiance. We constantly share fantasies. I love being naked and would love to visit a nude beach one day. Yes, I am a religious girl, but I know that I am human too.

If I were you, I would talk to her more. Have you asked her why she doesn't want to watch nudity or partial nudity on the television? Honestly, I wouldn't worry about the kissing after oral thing, everyone has their preferences and that might not be hers.

Side note: Some research has linked mouth washes such as Listerine with mouth cancer. Keeps the teeth healthy though.

Side note: Some research has linked mouth washes such as Listerine with mouth cancer. Keeps the teeth healthy though.

Really? That's weird. But I suppose anything can give you cancer these days.

put an condom on your tongue... it will be easier and if you put the condom in the wrong sens the cunnilingus will have a mint taste XD

the first cunnilingus who gives a fresh breath

by the erotisme is very important.

for example you can do it under an hot shower. put candels in the bathroom, so it create an intimity and maybe she will be more confortable because you can't see all her flaws. she has a complex with her body and shes to understand that everybody have a different vision of the beauty.

you can make her shampoo, make caress, you can use fruits oils for the bath/shower.

so you make a massage and start to lick her skin, blablabla, you perform your cunnilingus and when it's endded, you put your mouth under the water and you "clean" because stop the act to brush your teeth can break the "moment"

and do you see a big difference between your tongue and your penis ?

it's just that's "dirt" to "kiss" (or other) somebody after an oral sex. i think the problem doesn't come from the taste but the personnality. some people are ok with it and other people hate that.

i think that you should ask her. that's the easier way.

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Just a few questions, things that are newer to me that I have never experienced before so I wanted to get some other mature womens input.

1) My girlfriend will not kiss me after I perform oral on her? I am willing to kiss her after she does it to me. How do all of you feel about this?

2) She also will not going down on me after we make love, unless I wash it off before hand.

3) Lastly, it isn't directly sex related but it bothers me. If any nudity is on the TV she looks away (guy or girl), she also looks away if women are dressed skimpy (ex: 2 piece bathing suits). It almost seems to me like she is a homophobe, maybe afraid if she saw this stuff she may like it? What do you guys think? Also, another pointer, to maybe help you understand her, she wears shorts and a tank top over her bathing suit cause she said she doesn't like to show skin.

thanks in advance to all of the mature replies. your help is appreciated.

1) Strange if you're kissing her and ok with doing that after shes performed oral on you but dislikes it the other way round I personally don't have a problem with stuff like that although I was surprised this guy I'm dating who likes to pull me over for a snog when I was uhum doing oral for him but then again I'm comfortable with my sexuality so...yeah personal choices I guess

2) I guess I can see how that might be unappealing but then again its her body, so I'm guessing shes not really comfortable with herself in some way or as someone previously mentioned it could be the taste? Or her own taste?? I don't know for sure but I think alot of girls don't really mind it

3) I doubt shes a homophobe but sounds like she might be a prude or she had an up bringing that didn't really accept the body and sexuality is a normal healthy thing? Just talk to her about it

It seems that she feels kind of insecure about her bodily fluids and finds them gross... There are women who don't like being licked down there just because they feel they smell "bad" there...

There are women who don't like being licked down there just because they feel they smell "bad" there...

lol, maybe they should try washing there then.

Nope, man. There seriously are women who have a feeling that they do smell bad even when super-clean. They somehow assume that men must be also put off by the smell of their ding-dong.

1.- I always hear this from my friends but I don't know why they dont' like doing it! I mean.. after he does oral sex to me I'm fine with a kiss, actually... it doesn't really matter if is a loooong and tongue included kiss.. First time I was like "Oh, can we do that?" But as long as it is with MY guy, I am completel open minded. I like him to enjoy with me, to get all dirty. Just give her a lil' bit of help to be more open and that's it!

2.- <_< as I've said before, as long as it's with MY guy, I don't care!

3.- Well.. maybe she's leasbian and that explains all writte before.

2 - to be honest i probably wouldn't if there wasnt a condom.

But as long as it is with MY guy, I am completel open minded.

2.- <_< as I've said before, as long as it's with MY guy, I don't care!

lol, I don't understand why you're emphasising it being with your boyfriend so much, I mean who else would it be with? It's not exactly a surprise to hear that girls would only have sex and do other stuff with a boyfriend only.