Why does it seem like females are more critical of female looks than they are male?

This is something I've always wondered though I still put "seems" to not overgeneralize my experiences . But like I said I've always wondered that, but when comparing dude polls to babe polls and female threads to male threads in general I noticed the criticism from females seems much harder in female threads than male threads which made me figure I'd bring it up to see if anyone has any insight .

I agree with you Joe, women are 100 times harder on themselves than men are, and more critical. Look at hollywood, if a woman isnt stunning at some level, or for something, she doesnt get many Roles in anything. On the flip side look at men, travolta, hanks, or any actor, who might be slightly heavier now, greying, or balding, and he doesnt want for ANYTHING. I think Women are more critcal because, because media etc expects women to LOOK, ACT, and BE a certian way, and when your not, BYE BYE BIRDIE

I think it comes down to the fact, that (straight) woman when they see a man, they are either attracted to them or they aren't. Because a straight woman isn't attracted to a female, all the intricacies of the perception of beauty come into play because it isn't that instinctual need to procreate. It's like critiquing art. You can appreciate it, but because its not chemically induced attraction, there's nothing stopping you from just ripping it a new if you don't like it. Of course, society plays a big role as well, but I'm not touching upon that matter.

(I typed that up while in a rush, so excuse me if it makes no sense. )

Men, much more so than women, have biological urges to "spread the seed..." with less regard towards the ....perceived quality of mate.

Interresting Cult, thanks .

I agree with you Joe, women are 100 times harder on themselves than men are, and more critical. Look at hollywood, if a woman isnt stunning at some level, or for something, she doesnt get many Roles in anything. On the flip side look at men, travolta, hanks, or any actor, who might be slightly heavier now, greying, or balding, and he doesnt want for ANYTHING. I think Women are more critcal because, because media etc expects women to LOOK, ACT, and BE a certian way, and when your not, BYE BYE BIRDIE

Thanks for the input and yeah, that's true. Because as actresses get older its harder and harder to get regular work whereas like you said those guys are taken just as they are.

I think it comes down to the fact, that (straight) woman when they see a man, they are either attracted to them or they aren't. Because a straight woman isn't attracted to a female, all the intricacies of the perception of beauty come into play because it isn't that instinctual need to procreate. It's like critiquing art. You can appreciate it, but because its not chemically induced attraction, there's nothing stopping you from just ripping it a new if you don't like it. Of course, society plays a big role as well, but I'm not touching upon that matter.

(I typed that up while in a rush, so excuse me if it makes no sense. )

Makes perfect sense to me . I guess if I don't like a certain food to eat I can still appreciate the look of it well plated at a resturant or a lovely painting of it whereas someone who actually eats it has more practical interrests because though they appreciate the looks as well, ultimately action is on their mind. They may want a lot of cherries on top because they love cherries with it whereas I might prefer to see it with just one cherry because I think that looks better. So by not liking the food I guess I'm innately less practical I suppose.

boys hurt with their fists and girls hurt with their words.

when a boy see a beautiful breasts, girls often see an ugly face.

before, we just asked to girls to be an young beauty (and maybe rich). it was the best quality to find an husband and have kids. since centuries girls are obsessed by it and everywhere is the same. as i already said, this is not because the"beauty" can be different, than it's better.

girls and gays are always the worst gossip and hypocrites.

girls always need to share their experiences with their "friends"... they never stop and that's why they often "create" contests too.

by the way, they always hope they could convince themselves and others that they are better... so more "interesting"

it's a "self-advertising" no to say "i'm the best" but "she is worst" and when you critic someone in front of other people is always a good way to have "learn" informations about their tastes...

This is just generalizing, but women tend to be more attentive of the perceived character of the person.

What an EXCELLENT question Joe. i have actually pondered this many times...so therefore here is my long-winded answer...

Ok...i get complimented a lot...but when it comes from a female i apppreciate it 23439803932 times more..its rare nowadays to be called attractive by females (and they really mean it) and we are always soo judgemental & compare ourseleves to one another. It wasn until recently that females were seen soley as just "objects" for lust, and like littme miss sunshine said- women were MEANT to look a certain way,very proper and spent lots of time on their apperance . i mean like you said,look at hollywood today, in magazines and on tv, if a certain actress has put on pounds then its talked about so much. and if a man does? nobody really cares. plus women love beauty, they admire beautiful women and they know what their idea is of beauty...so when they someone that maybe a guy thinks is "hot" , they may not because they will see their flaws and the guys will looks past that. and i think jelousy may play a part too...(not me personally,as when i think someone is beautiful,i tell them) but...they are like predators and hate seeing the competition and say something liek "shes wearing so much makeup,shes average" or something. Everyone has their own opinion on what they think is beautiful ,however females see many layers and judge them very critcally whereas boys may just like what they see and accept it.

that probs made no sense...but its midnight && ive been up since 5am and have been at the beach all day. so my bad.

Why does it seem like females are more critical of female looks than they are male?

because it is. it is in our nature

Interresting .

This is just generalizing, but women tend to be more attentive of the perceived character of the person.

I think the average woman does pay more attention to detail, the only exception being men can detect a man's motive much faster when a woman is blinded by lust or love and women can detect a woman's motive even faster when a man is blinded by lust or love .

boys hurt with their fists and girls hurt with their words.

when a boy see a beautiful breasts, girls often see an ugly face.

before, we just asked to girls to be an young beauty (and maybe rich). it was the best quality to find an husband and have kids. since centuries girls are obsessed by it and everywhere is the same.

Interresting, I didn't think about that but yeah, in the old days or world beauty and money (and or privileged birth) were the top qualities to determine what kind of husband you could get. If you had money (in arranged marrieage situations) you could marry into a wealthy family and if you were poor but beautiful, you still stood a chance (at marrying high).

What an EXCELLENT question Joe. i have actually pondered this many times...so therefore here is my long-winded answer...

Ok...i get complimented a lot...but when it comes from a female i apppreciate it 23439803932 times more..its rare nowadays to be called attractive by females (and they really mean it) and we are always soo judgemental & compare ourseleves to one another. It wasn until recently that females were seen soley as just "objects" for lust, and like littme miss sunshine said- women were MEANT to look a certain way,very proper and spent lots of time on their apperance . i mean like you said,look at hollywood today, in magazines and on tv, if a certain actress has put on pounds then its talked about so much. and if a man does? nobody really cares. plus women love beauty, they admire beautiful women and they know what their idea is of beauty...so when they someone that maybe a guy thinks is "hot" , they may not because they will see their flaws and the guys will looks past that. and i think jelousy may play a part too...(not me personally,as when i think someone is beautiful,i tell them) but...they are like predators and hate seeing the competition and say something liek "shes wearing so much makeup,shes average" or something. Everyone has their own opinion on what they think is beautiful ,however females see many layers and judge them very critcally whereas boys may just like what they see and accept it.

that probs made no sense...but its midnight && ive been up since 5am and have been at the beach all day. so my bad.

I have more to say in general when I get back but it definitely makes sense . I also like the use ot the word "predators of hate " BTW .

Wow I think most people have made very good points of why this is.

I will tell you though, if you go somewhere that has not media, no real exposure to TV or movies or anything to do with image. There still tends to be strick critiquing. I think its natural for men to expect certain qualities in women. Perhaps for the mating it might be the hips for birthing and the breasts for feeding children .. and believe it or not the unconscious idea that she can have children. younger looking women with a certain look can be more attractive than women who do not have this which may cause critical opinions from one woman to another and jelaousy. I will say though, when it comes to a lot of these cultures .. women rarely have choice to the man they choose; its usually a mans or parents choice depending on culture.

People exposed to image type media are more programed that women do not age gracefully unless they look younger, have tight bodies or have a certain style to them .. where as men age gracefully regardless if they gain weight or grey. this can cause to be a lot critical on ones self as well as others if you are a woman so it kind of makes sense for women to be critical. as much as someone might not think to be part of this programming, the influence and imuunity to certain things is there as long as we are exposed.

If you also look at this as a relationship stand point and not as much image. If a man is not finding a woman who is attraced to him physically .. perhaps the man is looking for the wrong kind of women and perhaps looking for the wrong thing(s) in a woman. Women can seem a bit more critical in this since they are usually the ones approached and have to decline if they are not feeling what they want at the moment or if they do not pay attention or approach someone when expected.

Can it be just a lack of confidence? I mean... I was thinking about this the other day, and thought about the most envious person I have met in my life. This girl would constantly go on and on about other girls' (because obviously she rarely ever said something about any guy ) looks and behaviour (based on their looks mainly ) For example, she would be b****ing about why X has a boyfriend even though she is ugly and/or slutty She could base her opinion on somebody just hearing one thing about a particular person. And when she "finally" started dating one guy, she made sure everyone at school knew she has a bf, like as if she was popular enough to make other people care Idk, she was commenting on everyone as she was some kind of beauty queen.... and she was just.... average (no that oh so beautiful people should have a right to constantly criticize others about the way they look, but I hope you know what I meant, more or less).

I don't want to jump to wrong conclusions, but in HER case, I guess she was like this because a) she was rather poor, so she was jealous of other people's wealth/belongings b) her father left her family when she was very young what could lead to c) her mom being bitter and giving her daughter this kind of attitude? I put emphasis that this is in HER case, because obviously not every poor girl raised by a single mom will grow up as a jealous type of person.... I just thought I will give my insight on this...

Wait.... I just realized I mainly wrote why she was jealous AT ALL, rather than critical toward other girls :| /facepalm

Perhaps for the mating it might be the hips for birthing and the breasts for feeding children .. and believe it or not the unconscious idea that she can have children

and buttocks are the contraception ? XD because trust me, they watch them and they are always ready for anal sex! <_<

by the way, if men love young women this is for many reasons.

1 : because "old" men often love to be the "master" (even if they are a "pigeon"), pretend to have experiences. there are only the masochists who enjoy to be dominate by older women when they are 50 or 60 years old...

2 : because more women are older and more they are tiresome and disagree (sometimes nasty too)... :persuazn:

3 : because women can have sex without be excited but man can't... and they need a physical motivation because they can"t live without sex...

4 : because young women are like sport cars... good for the sham... with men there are often 4 kinds of competitions : the biggest penis, the fastest car, the smalest phone and the youngest girlfriend.

it's a bit like the peacock's wheel without the pea...

by the way, if media always use young women it's because they haven't kids (often) so they can used their money for shopping, make-up, clothes... they are often singles or it's just the beginning of their relationship so there are in "competition" with other young women and they always need to seduce their boyfriends, need to feel sexy. they don't have a "routine" and don't really know men's aspirations... so it's always easier to identify yourself to another young women... and young women are often sexier than old women... that's the reality of the fresh meat.

I felt some bullying about it. I have my clothes, and I change when I need, or buy when something I really love or need, but it is not always possible.

I like fashion, clothes, but not fashion victim like Alex Pereira, who has got good taste.

Some people have serious bad tastes not appropiate for the dates or events. 

But some people is too picky, more than in sex relathionships or lovers, with clothes of anothers, if it is new or not, cheap or expensive... and somethings are not so importants to me. I adore past atemporal looks, clothes, vintage, new and second hand, and I love my own wardrobe, more than some fashion temporal clothes or looks.