asexual
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have any of you guys ever meet an asexual person? would any of you guys date on an asexual person?
is anybody here asexual?
A friend of mine is asexual 
Not a big deal
One of my best friends back in college was somewhat asexual. He just didn't care. I mean, he had no porn on his computer. He barely surfed porn websites. He never talked about anything sexual or related to relationships on his own. He never tried to date anybody. Or even consider it. He did try to conceal his "asexuality" in conversations and when he did, it generally came out a bit awkward.
There are two articles in The Guardian regarding this topic:
I probably wouldn't mind having a asexual friend, male or female, as long as the relationship was platonic. However, you can't really date somebody like that, unless you make it clear that it is just a friend date. it's impossible to go on a "real" date with somebody wants intimacy in a traditional way and a person who is not interested whatsoever.
I guess dating an asexual girl wouldn't be that bad if she was still willing to have sex to please her partner even though she had no desire.
I don't think that's fair to the other person, male or female. If you are showing no desire, joy, or any emotion while having sex, you're gonna make your partner feel bad, inadequate, etc. People who have no asexual should not have sex to please another person. If you are not getting anything out of it, why do it?!
Why? For the benefit of your romantic partner. I am sure that my girlfriend or the majority of women out there do not experience explosive orgasms when they blow their men. Yet they still do it, because their partners enjoy it.
That is totally different. You are talking about a sexual act that woman might not enjoy. However, you're girlfriend gets pleasure she has sexual intercourse and/or when you perform oral copulation on her, right? We are discussing asexual people, who take no pleasure in sex whatsoever.
I think that "asexual" is such a broad definition that saying "asexual people, who take no pleasure in sex whatsoever." is wrong. From what I read about the issue, I only see one thing in common among asexuals, they do not experience sexual attraction. It doesn't mean they can't get pleasure from sex, it simply means that other people don't turn them on or make them horny. With that said, some asexual people still masturbate and find it pleasurable, some have sex with their significant others and find that pleasurable as well. They just have sex for reasons other than "I'm horny, lets f**k!" If they know why they choose to have sex, what to expect from it, and it meets their expectations, they can get pleasure out of having sex.
So like I already said, as long as the person is honest about their asexuality, both partners understand that their sexual relationship will not be like a "normal" one and both know what they are getting out of that relationship I don't see any problem with that. At the least, I don't see any reason how that relationship would be unfair to either partner or why they should not have sex.
Ahh, I guess a person can have sex from a totally emotional standpoint, or other reasons. Though they are not physically attracted to anyone, maybe they like the fact that other people do find them physically attractive. I saw the movie about the relationship between Ernest Hemingway and Martha Gellhorn. She said while she didn't enjoy sex, she felt that it was selfish to withold sex from a man because it mattered so much to them. The men got pleasure from having sex with her, and she got the pleasure from" being wanted, I suppose, and the sort of tenderness (not nearly enough) that a man gives when he is satisfied."
Most of the time I just have sex because I need someone to boost my ego. I don't come in expecting to have my mind BLOWN away.
A large portion of the time, I am satisfied with my partner being satisfied.
I personally would not date an asexual person simply because as I have said, their physical attraction to me is part of what gets me off.
P.S. Martha Gellhorn seemed flawless.
Ahh, I guess a person can have sex from a totally emotional standpoint, or other reasons. Though they are not physically attracted to anyone, maybe they like the fact that other people do find them physically attractive. I saw the movie about the relationship between Ernest Hemingway and Martha Gellhorn. She said while she didn't enjoy sex, she felt that it was selfish to withold sex from a man because it mattered so much to them. The men got pleasure from having sex with her, and she got the pleasure from" being wanted, I suppose, and the sort of tenderness (not nearly enough) that a man gives when he is satisfied."
I'm not sure i'd be confortable to have sex with someone who doesn't want to, but say yes anyway because I want it.
It just feel pressured to me and weird. I don't know.
I'm not sure i'd be confortable to have sex with someone who doesn't want to, but say yes anyway because I want it.
It just feel pressured to me and weird. I don't know.
The Asexual Visibility and Education Network hosts the world's largest online asexual community as well as a large archive of resources on asexuality: http://www.asexuality.org/home/
Throughout much of his career, Morrissey maintained in interviews that he was asexual and celibate.
I feel sorry for anyone that doesn't enjoy sex. I love it, whether it is romantic and loving sex with a partner or just fun recreational sex with a guy that I find hot.
That will be impossible for me to date someone who is asexual. I am a succubus.