Is she being inconsiderate?

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Bita_P94
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#1

Hi there everyone smile.png

A childhood friend of mine is going to university near my mum's house, so my mum offered her free accommodation. She took my room and I was absolutely fine with it, since I attend uni in another city anyway. Whenever I came back to visit Mum, I would just sleep on the sofa for a few days then go back to my uni city.

The trouble is this - my friend said that she would be going to China during the summer to meet her fiance's family, so I assumed I would be getting my room back. I have a dissertation to write over the summer, as I am a master's student so having my own space is essential (not to mention that I'm quite introverted). Now all of a sudden she's not going to China anymore and I am stuck with no room. I have a big family, so the house is full during the summer holidays. I feel suffocated and very, very frustrated; this doesn't feel like home anymore and I would rather be elsewhere.

She also has family in London, who she isn't going to be staying with either, apparently.

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Lyla
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#2

Maybe your mom wants the two of you to spend the entire summer in the same room...

 

Honestly, if this isn't a set up by her to make you a couple, it's really weird. And your old friend is inconsiderate too. She should thank the free accommodation for the whole year and go home or somewhere else while you're there. 

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#3

I think she has no shame about it, and is taking advantage of your mother kindness and I think she is planning to stay there as long as possible. Tell her to get out from your damn room and to go to sleep at the sofa.