Have you dated someone of another race?

ALL of my boyfriends have been of another race I've dated British, Swedish, Lithuanian and Irish....my current boyfriend's Irish....born, raised, AND still lives in Ireland ....and of COURSE he has a sexy accent!!! (just answering your question b4 u ask regarding his accent )

Ummm race not, but nationality yes:)

I myself am oriental (mongolian to be exact) and very recently went out with a gorgeous punjabi indian guy and everything was perfect till we started chatting about previous bf/gf and i let slip some information and now he doesn't want to 'date' me as he feels i still have feelings for my ex he is right about my feelings but i wish he would give it a chance as feelings grow with time

. Well, seek the best closure and peace you can about feelings for ex and take it from there .

Thanks for the good advice

Since my last post when I went out with that gorgeous Indian guy, I went out with this amazing guy who's a muslim and almost 3 yrs older than me and we went out for 2 months and things were getting serious but we broke up yesterday and I'm totally heart broken I was falling in love with him and he said he was really falling for me and that I'm the first girl out of all the girls hes been out with that he really cared about and said as in the future he would have to marry someone of his religion and because I'm not, we both knew in the future we would have to break up anyway. He said if he kept going out he would fall for me even deeper and vice versa and he didnt want to get hurt but most of all hurt me we hugged and kissed for ages and ended on very good terms and plan to be friends and stay in each others lives but I'm just depressed now

I heard this really great quote awhile ago and been trying to think about that whenever I feel sad and it is ''Never be sad for what is over, be happy that it was once yours'' and its true in this case, we were both very happy in the time we were together and had alot of fun and I would rather have known him and had him in my life than not known him to save myself the heartache and he said he feels the same. Hope that quote helps someone else like its helping me

I hope this pain I feel goes away soon...

You poor girl! I hope that your heartache will heal soon, and on a good note, at least you two ended on very good terms Shame that the pressure to marry a girl in the same religion caused him to split with you

As for me, I guess race isn't really a problem because I think its the inside that matters. I am Chinese, born and raised in Hong Kong until I was 5 and then my family moved to the UK and I have been living there since. When I visit HK, most of my relatives always pop this question up: So who would you go for? A Chinese boy or a white boy?

My answer?

I would date a guy who I find attractive.

I guess its a bit of a cliff hanger answer because I didn't exactly answer their question but at the same time I don't think they need to know THAT much about my love life

I do know that (after reading something discussions on FB on this group) when a asian girl goes out with a white guy the relationship tends to carry a stigma (will not go into it because its simply too much). But at the end of the day, it depends on the personality.

Lol, I am chinese by race but I am westernised so for me to date a guy who was born and raised in HK all their life is a little difficult since the social culture here and there is quite different....

But back to the question, race isn't a problem at all, its the personality that counts more

You poor girl! I hope that your heartache will heal soon, and on a good note, at least you two ended on very good terms Shame that the pressure to marry a girl in the same religion caused him to split with you

As for me, I guess race isn't really a problem because I think its the inside that matters. I am Chinese, born and raised in Hong Kong until I was 5 and then my family moved to the UK and I have been living there since. When I visit HK, most of my relatives always pop this question up: So who would you go for? A Chinese boy or a white boy?

My answer?

I would date a guy who I find attractive.

I guess its a bit of a cliff hanger answer because I didn't exactly answer their question but at the same time I don't think they need to know THAT much about my love life

I do know that (after reading something discussions on FB on this group) when a asian girl goes out with a white guy the relationship tends to carry a stigma (will not go into it because its simply too much). But at the end of the day, it depends on the personality.

Lol, I am chinese by race but I am westernised so for me to date a guy who was born and raised in HK all their life is a little difficult since the social culture here and there is quite different....

But back to the question, race isn't a problem at all, its the personality that counts more

Awww thank you I'm slowly starting to feel better but I have this constant urge to pick up the phone or to text him and its so hard not too And I agree with you as I'm Mongolian and was raised in the UK too most of my life so am more westernised so I too would probably find it hard to go out with someone from my country. And its not a cliffhanger really, you answered the question as honeslty as you could and I too would date someone so long as I was attracted to them and not because of what other people thought.

So can I ask what this stigma is?

I've noticed that half of the people I've gone out with were white/british/mixed race and the other half asian etc. I try not to go out with guys who have a ''thing'' for asian/oriental girls as I feel like I don't know if they are going out with me because they are into the physical appearance or its for me the person?

Spot on, what you said about the "thing for asians" is only a little part of the stigma.

This group in Facebook makes a good point BUT I do think that the people there keep going round in circles and arguing about some stupid points. I can give you the link and trust me, its good read at first but after a while it gets repetitive and you will think "well, if these guys are so unhappy then why don't they go out and actively change the situation, however that may be?"

SOOO, here goes:

Some people view when an asian from an asian country goes out with a white guy is because she has a "white knight syndrome" so that she could marry him and be whisked away to a better world (and with a better husband who has $$$ compared to her fellow countryman) and live happily ever after. And the countryman feels threatened (like these american asian men in FB claiming that those white guys in the US are taking their women away...) and therefore dislike women who has that sort of tendency. They (the men and some women in the FB group) think that its slightly racist to deliberately go out with a white guy because the af (asian female....Sorry, abbreviations are useful in this topic!!) likes the white males' hair colour, eye colour etc. And another stigma is that when an asian woman marries an expat its because she is after his money or that the "old, crinkly and well into his 60s" expat can't get laid and is having a mail order bride instead.

Another part of the stigma is that some white men are having "yellow fever" and is totally into the oriental race and you are right about it, they probably want to go out with you because of your skin colour, and also it allows them to show you off like some oriental meat clinging off his arm.

I can understand the american asian guys fustration since some women out there do deliberately only date white men for the money or for the looks but I don't think its fair to condemn or generalise other women who so happen to date white men.

But I don't think the looks count and I am so glad that you are in a similar situation as me Its hard talking to boys from my home town let alone going out with them, their social culture is quite terrible...(that is ANOTHER matter) and I often feel that there is a barrier we both can't cross even being friends! That is not to say that I don't LIKE asian men, but if I have to then I much prefer to go out with a westernised one without having to disagree his social morals and opinions in every millisecond of his speech.

Awwww sweetie, it must be hard not to think about that guy! Its such a shame that he did what he did But time will heal your pain and you are going to meet a great guy again in the future Maybe having some girlfriends round for dinner or something? They provide the best company ever and its a way to avoid feeling lonely.

Cheer up

I have a Crush on this girl I met at the Bus Stop by my house, we talked and she seems really nice... she's asian, and HOT... very very attractive. We got to 1st name terms now... her names Mal. She hasn't mentioned a B/F yet, and Im sure she would have by now... I got a Car now and have been picking her up at the Bus stop every morning and taking her to work.... something might just happen there, if I even grow a pair and ask her out!!! hahaha

Youve got her, all you gotta do is ask. Go Kev! Im sure you'll love her flat asian chest and buns

I have a Crush on this girl I met at the Bus Stop by my house, we talked and she seems really nice... she's asian, and HOT... very very attractive. We got to 1st name terms now... her names Mal. She hasn't mentioned a B/F yet, and Im sure she would have by now... I got a Car now and have been picking her up at the Bus stop every morning and taking her to work.... something might just happen there, if I even grow a pair and ask her out!!! hahaha

Youve got her, all you gotta do is ask. Go Kev! Im sure you'll love her flat asian chest and buns

Youve got her, all you gotta do is ask. Go Kev! Im sure you'll love her flat asian chest and buns

Lol, not ALL asians have "flat asian chest and buns"....

Youve got her, all you gotta do is ask. Go Kev! Im sure you'll love her flat asian chest and buns

I went on a date with a Japanese guy once... it was aweful

Would I date another guy from another race? Of course Hot guys come in many races

Only of a different race, I've only dated Asian girls. IMO Koreans are the hottest Asians

haha I like Japan but I won't date with Japanese guys

Is he a hot guy Toni

Heya Ana B Fan!

Here is a good article about the stigma...

http://www.villagevoice.com/2006-11-07/news/yellow-fever/1