Did You Win?

I would never take pleasure in knowing that a person I once loved is miserable.

But then again... if your ex ends up with a fool by her side, I guess you might feel weird about that and think something like: "geez, thank God we didn't get married" or something. Feeling weird is OK, wishing your ex the worst - is not.

Sounds terrible but if someone i used to go out with broke up with me i do get some satisfaction from knowing they're feeling crap but if it was me that broke up with someone I wish them all the happieness in the world

I wonder about this topic a lot with my ex actually. I can't help but feel like I've won but at the same time I miss the crap out of her so I can't see how I did.

When we broke up, I basically started working out to take my mind off of things. Well, now I'm 15 pounds of muscle heavier and preparing to be an officer in the Marine corps. Long story short, I'm in a shitton better shape than I was when I was with her. She saw me 6 months after the fact and when she saw me she started blushing and stumbling over her words. She said I looked completely different and couldn't believe how much muscle I had put on. Later that night she even asked me to take my shirt off so she could see how different I looked. Now, I'm about 10 pounds heavier than that and I get a LOT of attention from women for it. Not only that, but my sexual life has basically turned into a game of have sex with the hottest girl at the party I'm at...and I'm pretty good at the game...the only downside is that it is bringing pretty much zero happiness out of it. Pretty much every girl I've gotten with I would say is a lot more attractive than her, and yet at the same time the sex still sucked just because there is no deeper connection.

She picked up smoking (cigarettes and weed for that matter), gained some weight and texts me all the time.....but has a boyfriend. It's pretty hard to tell how she's doing with the whole deal. It seems like she's ok because she's dating other guys, but she still texts me like every damn day. I can generally tell when things are going bad for her dating wise because it goes from texting me a lot to texting me the entire day non-stop.

Things get even more complicated when you factor in why we actually broke up. We broke up due to distance and her feeling like since we dated for so long and so early that we are missing out on the chance to date in college. She kept talking about how she wished we would have met later in life and she was so in love with me that she was actually in therapy for months before doing the deed. So who won in it all? I dunno. I'm having a great time in college, but at the same time I'm pretty emotionally miserable down deep because I lost that connection. Things get even worse since I'm joining the Marines and they aren't exactly known for their great impact on relationships.

The funniest part is that I have a reputation with my friends for being a ladies' man, and yet at the same time my sex life makes me feel like crap. Yay for irony. Now I'm in a stage of swearing off all women and considering them all to be the spawn of Satan, so we'll see how that goes.

Same.

My ex