curiosity... sex with a wheelchair person

I'm starled that you're posing such a question, dear topic maker

My reply to your question is: why the heck not?

there is a quadriplegic guy who was a lawyer, got married and had children. SO I guess anything is possible. Love should never be about physical stuff but more what you are wanting to do for someone else.

and same thing for people born without legs and arms like Prince Radian... (he had 4 children).

well, be in an armchair doesn't mean to be definitively paralisi and you can be in an wheelchair for a plenty of different reasons (and sometimes you can move your legs without problems... but you can't walk) and you can have a "normal" sexuality.

of course, everything depends of the problem but the "wheelchair" (or sickness...) can block the partner. amputation, atrophy, deformity can be a big problem because people need to change their own vision of human body... they need to accept it and this is not so easy.

i think the wheelchair can create problem because the partner think (and sometimes this is the true) that the person in wheelchair is not as independant as a normal person (physicaly and psychologicaly) .

they think they must be "responsable" and sometimes this is too much for them...

as you said Azgirl, of course, love shouldn't take care of physical... but i think there is two different kind of relationships.

the first when there are 2 normal people. they are very in love, they build their life together and one day, one of them has a problem... and the second when you meet someone with a physical problem. when someone can't walk, so can't be alone to take his bath/shower, can't go at the toilets, sometimes can't put his pants, trust me this is not so easy and build a relationship with a dependant person!

there are few months ago, in france, there was a scandal about it. there was a woman of 36 years old (if i'm not wrong, or this is something like this) and she was born without arms and with an atrophied leg and she is a big fan of the french actress Sophie Marceau and she talked on a french forum with a kid of 14 years old (now he is 16). they became friends and few months later he invited her (in his dad's house). they spent few days together and they are fallen in love.

so now she left her husband and she started a relationship with the kid. the kid's dad was furious and ask him to leave the house because he didn't understand his son.

and now the justice has condemned her (of course because of the age...) but without lie, i'm pretty sure that her physical problem is the reason. how a kid of 15 years old can really understand all the work and the responsability of a relationship with someone who can't take a shower or go at the toilet without help... ?

maybe in a bit "old school" but i think, as the respect, love should have limits and it doesn't be the synonyme of "stupidity" .

when your partner's body can change your (and his) lifestyle, people should take care of their decisions and understand where they go.

by the way, people shouldn't be scared to ask questions.

Most of the time the homes are set up for people who have disabilities so taking care of them is not like it used to be. And actually you might be surprised how much you can do when you are just paralyzed from the waist down. It is incredible what people can do who have disablilties. There is a couple different stories of women born with no arms here in Arizona. One is a pilot of airplanes and the other has 7 kids she is raising with not letting her disability change how she raises them.

Anyway, isn't 15 the legal age for France? I would not agree with a 36 year old going with a 14 or even a 16 .. Honestly I am not sure what they would have in common that much. He must be really mature or she is really immature. OR since it is France maybe its just physical love. But it is interesting that a younger person would go for someone like her. Not many young people want to be tied down so early and then also have the responsibility like that. but I guess it would mean we would have to learn more about love to understand what attracts.

You know, as I already said, I lived in hospital (and I have many legs problems…) so I think I really know the problems… and the solutions.

of course people can make incredible things... but they often need money!

because yes, you can adapt your house... but it’s expensive !!! (and can take a lot of your personal time every day too)

when you know how life can be hard for normal people... you can imagine how hard it could be with someone in a wheelchair...

by the way, a woman without arms can walk, use a stairway, eat, take a shower, go at the toilets, paint a picture (for example i'm a big fan of the english artist Alison Lapper) even drive a car without problem... but someone in a wheelchair has more troubles... this is absolutely not the same situation.

there are 5 years old, when i was at the driving school i asked a question about the "freeway" because in france, when your car is break down, you are obligated to call a garage from the freeway's phone because if you use a cellular phone, they refused to send a mechanic. so when you can't walk and you are alone on the freeway, what you can do ?

apparently, it was the first time that someone ask this question... and they never answered because there is no solution.

To concluded, normal life is not really adapted to people with wheelchair. if you have money, the routine can be "nice" but sometimes difficult. if you're poor... you run to the misery.

in paris, i “know” a woman born with the inverted knees. she is not airplanes pilot, just an homesless.

she walks like a spider in paris' streets. wear a box with her mouth and ask money.

a bit like this guy in the video : http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/80451971/

and all the people i know or i saw with this same problem are all homeless!!!

of course, this is less interesting to make a documentary about deformed homeless people than a documentary about a airplanes pilots without arms…

yes, the legal age is 15 years old (for sex) and until 18 years old, there is a "detournement de mineur" because one of them is minor but usually, if the kid is agree there isn't real punishment.

i'm agree with you and i think maybe it's the both. she hasn't arms, no "legs" too (because i'm not sure she can walk or jump with her atrophied leg... ) so it must be pretty hard to have a normal life and a job… her maturity is different from the maturity of someone of her age. maybe I’m wrong but i think she can't work and her life must turn around her family, husband, music, movies… a bit like a kid/teenager.

and the boy, apparently, is more mature than the guys of his age...

i just found it on internet : http://newsblaze.com/story/20100206132919a...b/topstory.html

strange because there they say she hasn't legs...

i don't think this is so strange because the kid has no job, no kids, no car, no bills, no real responsibility and he certainly has a financial help because he is minor, so he can take care of her and because they are “oppressed”, their love is stronger and their relationship is “new”… fortunately, here in france, people with this kind of health problem can have a “free” help and have a financial help from the government… but you know, with time and responsibility, all these troubles will be harder

^didnt you see the award winning motion picture Forrest Gump?! (Lt.DAAAAAN!)

i recently did a presentation about Paraplegia for uni and people who are impaired from the waist down can often suffer from something called impotence. Definitely not every single person who in confined to a wheelchair has it, but its definitely something that many of them have to deal with. It all depends on what parts of their spinal tissue are damaged, even though they have limited mobility some of them still have some amount of function *down there*, including legs and toes

if they don't function their leg and toes at all, would they function their private part? would it their private part has to function to be able to urine, how would they pee if their private part won't function?

I met a beautiful woman in a wheelchair a few years ago.

I felt weird afterwards. It was odd, because the chemicals in my brain were telling me that beautiful women aren't usually in wheelchairs.

you think only ugly people should to be in a wheelchair?

I don't think that is what he meant. It's just that when you think about really good looking people, you never think about someone in a wheelchair. Go through babes and hot guys section here, and find me a thread about someone who is disabled in any way.

their is a model she can hear and talk, i forgot her name.

so yeah good looking people could be disable too, not just ugly people.

It depends which parts of their spine are damaged, if the part of the spine that correlates with their genitals are undamaged then it should be fine Sometimes the spine is just slightly damaged and they can actually move and feel but it is just much lower quality sensations and much more difficult to move

That is why some quads or paras have problems with incontinence (pooping themselves) and some do not

hope this was enlightening

It depends which parts of their spine are damaged, if the part of the spine that correlates with their genitals are undamaged then it should be fine Sometimes the spine is just slightly damaged and they can actually move and feel but it is just much lower quality sensations and much more difficult to move

That is why some quads or paras have problems with incontinence (pooping themselves) and some do not

hope this was enlightening

what? i did not knew that some paralyze people can't poop.

Like I said...it depends. Every case is different.

You'd be surprised on how open people are about these things. If she has been in a chair for a long time; it's not something that is a secret really.

You should ask her rather then just assume.

I finally find out that she could have sex, I was in a gathering with friends and family and somebody had the balls to ask her if she could have sex, and she said yes that she can do it.

Regarding the first question posed here that has already been explained here. It is possible to have sex with a wheelchaired person though a lot of comorbidities like anhedonie and impotence might lead to lessened desire to do so from the impaired person.

On the issue of the second topic about my personal opinion with sex with a wheelchaired person I'll probably offend several people. But oh well, that shouldn't be a reason not to say something so I'll just go ahead. I would NEVER have sex with a guy in a wheelchair if I did not know him before that. Maybe if I had gotten to like him before the incident (congenital causes would already be there since birth) there might be a slight chance I would be willing to engage in such a thing, but if I only see him after a crippling event I would never do it with him.

Although I'm actually for judging on character and not on looks I just find the physical weakness and crippling effect so repulsive that I couldn't fathom myself being attracted to such a person.

"wheelchaired person" --"disabled person", which sounds better people? <_<

of course you could, just have to be careful & respectful to them & their wishes

Regarding the first question posed here that has already been explained here. It is possible to have sex with a wheelchaired person though a lot of comorbidities like anhedonie and impotence might lead to lessened desire to do so from the impaired person.

On the issue of the second topic about my personal opinion with sex with a wheelchaired person I'll probably offend several people. But oh well, that shouldn't be a reason not to say something so I'll just go ahead. I would NEVER have sex with a guy in a wheelchair if I did not know him before that. Maybe if I had gotten to like him before the incident (congenital causes would already be there since birth) there might be a slight chance I would be willing to engage in such a thing, but if I only see him after a crippling event I would never do it with him.

Although I'm actually for judging on character and not on looks I just find the physical weakness and crippling effect so repulsive that I couldn't fathom myself being attracted to such a person.

in same time, you have sex with the person, not with the wheelchair and when the guy is in the bed, he can look totally normal.

when people talk about someone in wheelchair i have the feeling they only think "definitively paralysed" "can't move" and "without feelings" and that's so wrong.

you can meet someone in a wheelchair and few weeks or months later he could walk normally.