Attraction and physical appeal in a relationship

Anyway, for me:

Turn ons:

Tall, thin or athletic

Long hair

Sophisticated, graceful demeanor

Intelligent, loquacious, loving, honorable- devoted

Quality of Character, Inner curiosity: "Has struggled" "Has fought for something"

courage and personal discipline

Lifelong learner, dynamic personal development

compatible interests..

Turn offs (or just plain intimidating):

Overweight

Unpredictable quality of character, indirect- all talk little action, betray trust

Ultraliberal or ultrareligious

Uninterested in real world knowledge, obsessed with the primitive

Cursing, high level of emotional instability, possessing "hatreds".

I sometimes find it a bit weird if I read from so many people that they don't care about looks. I mean, if they are A-sexual it's another story but... so many A-sexual's?

Ok, let's say there is somebody who you think is extremely attractive and a quite nice person. And then there is somebody else - looks OK but is such a wonderful person. I can understand if you prefer the second someone. But if this person would be rather unattractive to you... I don't get it. Because a classical relationship consists not only of sympathy and emotional connection but also sensuality in so many ways... Being very close to your adored one, kissing, sexuality... I couldn't do that with girls that I don't really find attractive. Nada. 

Another problem to me is that it often sounds like people should be not care about the outside of someone in love. Everybody should be like that and if people even care about looks they're already superficial assholes. No, No, No.

Yes, if they generally judge about people based on their looks they are superficial idiots. And beauty is only perception! So judgement based on that doesn't work anyway. 

There is also the sentence "Love at first sight". I think many people have experienced the intense emotions that an utterly attractive person can cause in you. But that's not love to me. A serious love relationship can't be built on only that. In my world this would be 50%. The other 50% come with the connection to the person behind the "surface", so it is a 50/50 thing to me. 

And if there would be somebody I really appreciate, a wonderful person that is not attractive to me... what's about friendship? Soulmates!  For example: I love music! And the music of some composers (Thomas Bergersen, Hans Zimmer, Phil Lober...) really touches me and I love them in a way for writing such wonderful, heartfelt music. A deep connection. Still no reason for cuddling and kissing, right?  

puh, I'm done. What do you think?

I believe in love at first sight, I think the physical atraccion is very important, but the personality too. 

Some persons can be asexual, no always is a biological condition, it cans be a decission and it is possible to change it.