Are you in love?

if he's not still with you, then he obviously isn't perfect. not for you. if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be, and it's better to know that sooner than later, no matter how much it hurts and sucks, because it means that you're one step closer to being with someone better. and believe me, until you find The One, there is always someone better out there

you are right. it's just that it's terrible when you are so in love and all of a sudden you come across an unexpected separation, so there's a battle between my heart and my mind, even my soul.

It's a very difficult moment for me, because I feel very lonely, but I guess the best would be to take it not as a failure but as learning.

I believe in love at first sight and true love, and in my opinion it's not a question of looking for the person you like/want, but waiting for the one that's meant to be with you, your soulmate. Time will tell me if the person I love now is that soulmate or not, so, I totally afree with you, Rhett. Thanks for your kind words

you seem to have the right attitude about it. the most important thing is that if this is the person you're meant to be with, then you will be with that person, and otherwise, that tells you a lot. and you can look at that as a cosmic 'soulmate' kind of thing, or just a pragmatic compatibility thing. if it's not this person, that means there's someone out there waiting for you, Carolina

I hope there will be someone out there waiting for me, either the man i told you about or a new person to discover. The problem I have is -like rouge red said- I'm kinda shy and unusual, so it's not very easy for me to start new relationships, and when I start one, it's because I'm in love and I put my mind, body and soul to make it work. Well.... like anybody else.

I guess I'm being a cry baby. It's just that I'm heartbroken and disappointed, and I can't help thinking about "bad choices". I believe in one's choice, not in fate, because if everything is ruled by fate, then life would have no sense, so what worries me is that a bad choice that could change my life dramatically. What if you (or the other person) take the wrong way and you lose the love of your life, your true happiness ?

life is about choice. beginning with whether you accept fate or not.

if you believe your path is of your making, then all of your choices matter, even the slightest ones, because they impact bigger ones and cause chain reactions in your own life, not to mention the lives of others. but that is a fundamental of humanity, our ability to mean something, to make a difference.

and making a difference should be a good thing, when you can manage it. is this guy making a positive impact on your path? you on his? if not, then you must diverge -- which may not mean for good, but at least until your paths are ready to converge again.

that's all philosophy, and it can't trump your feelings. you must find the right compromise between your heart and your logic, and figure out whether you are better off with someone else or not... but know that as lonely as you might feel, there is always someone else, always. impossible to say whether the next person will be better, but they will be there.

Rhett is waiting for Caroline .. I'm sorry, I had to ruin a deep and meaningful conversation that ended serveral days ago...

Welcome back, btw, Alexa.

Rhett is waiting for someone, and Caroline knows who it is (and it's not Caroline)

Rhett, Caroline:

who is it?

oh look, someone else who knows

I do? uhm, must have missed it.

yes, we believe you.

Welcome back, btw, Alexa.

thanks but...when did I leave ?

I've stopped by ever so briefly a few times, you know

you will get over it... and find another lady worth I love gemma ward's crush.

Hope you are right, I really do.... not looking good though. She's everywhere I look.

Don't look.

^it helps.

I'm taking your advice, I change rooms at work when she's around... I don't talk to her no more... It's kind of working, I don't think about her half as much now !! I used to on breaks with her but I'm not doing that now....

oh goodie. Just mind your business and some time later you will notice "hey, I'm not thinking about her!". Kind of shock. But a good shock.

I haven't been in love for such a long time now, I hardly remember what it feels like. :|

same...