Why are you single?
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I' m single because I' m only love with heart and head and it isn' t happen everyday. It' s complicated, expressment if he is married o has a girlfriend, and I don' t want intrude in the relation. Other thing is they break up or leave it. I like tall good looking men with university studies, but not easy fall in love.
And I think if you love somebody, you love him/her how is in all the aspects.
Was in a ten year relationship. Thought she was the one and blah blah blah. Unfortunately it ended and I've had no interest in anything serious since. A casual date here or there is all I have the energy for at this point.
When I like them, they don't like me, when they like me, I don't like them.
I don't like going to bars or being set up on blind dates either.
As I get older it's going to get harder to compromise on things because I've been set in my ways for so long. That's just how it is.
On 7/5/2013 at 4:15 PM, Cult Icon said:who needs a warm, soft woman when you can kill fascists with your IS-2???!!!!
On 12/04/2016 at 3:34 PM, Myfashexp said:Because Stormy won't shave his sideburns
Cause all the pretty female dachshunds have male dachshunds already <_<
I saw a lot of persons not respect his/her boyfriend/girlfriend, it' s a pity!
As far as I'm aware there's been no one of the male population, whether he was someone I liked or not, who has been interested in me. I live in a new state now, and unfortunately all the guys my age are at college. I've never had any interaction with a guy that was anything but platonic. Meanwhile, literally all of my friends have been in a relationship at least once.
So few of my relationships have turned into something truly long-term that I'm now almost accustomed to having my place to myself.
I'm not even sure I'd want a relationship where we move in together at this point. Unless I meet someone who totally changes my mind, which isn't impossible.
Interestingly enough, I'm now also at the age where a significant amount of my friends are either divorced or have ended their long-term, adult relationship.
So it's not like I have a particularly idealistic image of the marriage dynamic either.
SympathysSilhouette, I think as you; I believe in good fairy tales, but a lot of people, when they are married o have a long relathionship, they forget the love and respect. And it is really sad.
4 hours ago, Tania82 said:SympathysSilhouette, I think as you; I believe in good fairy tales, but a lot of people, when they are married o have a long relathionship, they forget the love and respect. And it is really sad.
Do you think that's due to extreme comfort with one another?
On 6/2/2016 at 4:41 PM, DolceGabbanaLove5 said:As far as I'm aware there's been no one of the male population, whether he was someone I liked or not, who has been interested in me. I live in a new state now, and unfortunately all the guys my age are at college. I've never had any interaction with a guy that was anything but platonic. Meanwhile, literally all of my friends have been in a relationship at least once.
Unless you're fat, Men are far less selective than women. Exponentially, even.. Most men have no idea what a beautiful woman is. You probably have to put yourselves in the right situations more often.
14 hours ago, SympathysSilhouette said:So few of my relationships have turned into something truly long-term that I'm now almost accustomed to having my place to myself.
I'm not even sure I'd want a relationship where we move in together at this point. Unless I meet someone who totally changes my mind, which isn't impossible.
Interestingly enough, I'm now also at the age where a significant amount of my friends are either divorced or have ended their long-term, adult relationship.
So it's not like I have a particularly idealistic image of the marriage dynamic either.
Why is that?
8 hours ago, Stromboli1 said:
Do you think that's due to extreme comfort with one another?
I don ' t know, because all the couples are different, in a lot of cases yes, and the money, fame and image is important for a lot of them: family, rich families, etc But it is true that more of them have lovers.
Just watched this, such funny satire:
"Flocks" of men are willing to stake their own existence and die for an opportunity to mate with a beautiful woman that they never met.
We certainly don't live in that sort of world anymore but I still see it all the time, albeit in less 'terminal' forms.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uwb4rKCw1FI
13 hours ago, Tania82 said:I don ' t know, because all the couples are different, in a lot of cases yes, and the money, fame and image is important for a lot of them: family, rich families, etc But it is true that more of them have lovers.
Unless one is a passionate scholar, writer, or artist, I definitely think that living in the countryside and owning a farm requires getting married or having a close relationship. There is a lot of mother nature but few people unless one is willing to travel a lot.
In cities and in densely populated suburbs, the situation is different. The definition of 'honor and dignity' for the times has been self-seeking materialism, status and pleasures, heavily driven by cultural conditioning. I also think working a lot, moving from job to job and frequent relocations can play havok on relationships. I believe that work that is also service/intellectual in nature also damages relationships as the mind becomes heavily distracted. Anyway, good relationships must be actively maintained and if not fought for. That's too much for many people and they don't see the cost-benefit in it.
Personally I am too independent minded to put in the work to maintain a marriage. I need to find someone who can tolerate my tendencies, and not feel neglected, and then heartbroken. I cherish and am just not the type to sacrifice my individualism and freedom.
The prospect of children or possibility of divorce still feels like a giant trap to me. It would chain me to specific places I believe and make great demands on my limited time.
15 hours ago, Tania82 said:I don ' t know, because all the couples are different, in a lot of cases yes, and the money, fame and image is important for a lot of them: family, rich families, etc But it is true that more of them have lovers.
I'm just saying maybe couple's niceties fade over time like holding the door open of the car when they were dating for example.
2 hours ago, Cult Icon said:Unless one is a passionate scholar, writer, or artist, I definitely think that living in the countryside and owning a farm requires getting married or having a close relationship. There is a lot of mother nature but few people unless one is willing to travel a lot.
In cities and in densely populated suburbs, the situation is different. The definition of 'honor and dignity' for the times has been self-seeking materialism, status and pleasures, heavily driven by cultural conditioning. I also think working a lot, moving from job to job and frequent relocations can play havok on relationships. I believe that work that is also service/intellectual in nature also damages relationships as the mind becomes heavily distracted. Anyway, good relationships must be actively maintained and if not fought for. That's too much for many people and they don't see the cost-benefit in it.
Personally I am too independent minded to put in the work to maintain a marriage. I need to find someone who can tolerate my tendencies, and not feel neglected, and then heartbroken. I cherish and am just not the type to sacrifice my individualism and freedom.
The prospect of children or possibility of divorce still feels like a giant trap to me. It would chain me to specific places I believe and make great demands on my limited time.
Trust me that you'll be more open minded and willing to sacrifice when you meet the one. 
I do believe that it's harder for people to get married after being single for a long time because they become set in their ways and it's very hard to add another person into that.
My brother has been married twice and divorced twice. Marriage doesn't scare me at all, but seeing both of his marriages fail kind of make me apprehensive though. I know every relationship is different, but at least I learned what not to do and handle differently by looking outside of the bubble how his marriages crumbled. I know it's a shitty way of looking at things, we do learn vicariously too.
Well, to me it is important the studies, the age, the higiene, the physical attractive and the connection. I can not be with a old man more than 40 years old and not with a boy who only has 20 years old! But not always there are chemical, and the coexistence, the phylosophy... I don' t mind if he is separated o divorced, for me, better.
On 5-6-2016 at 2:56 AM, Cult Icon said:
Why is that?
I guess I'm just so used to having my own place and having it to my own by this point?