Friends with benefits

been there, done that. not good... feels vague afterwards.

but im not close with this friend

There is this boy at work thast is so attractive!! Well.. last week, it was friday, we were at a sort or "party" at the company, but I was bored, and he noticed that, so he asked "What are you gonna do later?" And I said "Nothing", and he said "Oh well.. my friend is picking me up in an hour if you want to come with us" I went to them but he invited more people of work.

We went to that place where people sits, drinks, relaxes, dance, etc.. and since we arrived the place, we sat together, and we were just talking and talking about life and everything. Drinking.. not too hard (Vodka, with orange juice and grenadine) and I don't know why, this subject came up, and we ended up kissing all night. Kissing and kissing.. every 20 minutes he would go like "You know what you're doing, right? You're aware right? I really hope you're not drunk". Then he made me promise that I would remember everything the next day.

We both did. But as he's not from the city (he works here, and he rented a room here, but he's originally from a town that's 4 hours away).

It was tough to see him at work and not being able to kiss him and everything..

Anyway.. the point is that we talked about the estatus between us. We're not boyfriend and girlfriend.. last thusrday, I called him, and we were at the mall, just talking, and we kissed again (I tried not to do it, but.. what the hell?). We're able to go out some days after work and stuff... I love, I totally love kissing him, but I sometimes I reject him since I feel like we should really get together.

Is it bad? Kissing that guy from work everytime you go out even when you're not a couple? I mean.. it's not like we're having sex. I've thought about it, and (since I enjoy it a lot) why not? If the results are not the ones I wanted... shame, but in the midtime, let's just enjoy ourselves.

ok this is why you shouldn't do this, no because it's wrong (because sex is good) but because:

person A and person B decide to become friends with benefits

A only likes B in a benefitial way

B begins to fall/become attached to be over time

A gets bored

B continues to develop feelings for A

A meets someone else more interesting and wants to get into a MONOgamous (Ican'tspell) relationship with *****DRUM ROLL**** Person C!!! (beat you didn't know there was a person C)

A leaves B for C

B is alone and unhappy

*in B's mind* C is an asshole.... How could C take A from B....

B lives horribly ever after!

What has the world come to?

ok this is why you shouldn't do this, no because it's wrong (because sex is good) but because:

person A and person B decide to become friends with benefits

A only likes B in a benefitial way

B begins to fall/become attached to be over time

A gets bored

B continues to develop feelings for A

A meets someone else more interesting and wants to get into a MONOgamous (Ican'tspell) relationship with *****DRUM ROLL**** Person C!!! (beat you didn't know there was a person C)

A leaves B for C

B is alone and unhappy

*in B's mind* C is an asshole.... How could C take A from B....

B lives horribly ever after!

What has the world come to?

And B is a girl, most of the time. Good story..

I take it allll back ... there is this guy that is playing hard to get with me .. either that or he's not interested because he's close friends with my ex and his friends hate me. ....but I still want to sleep with him.

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I like you

thanks.. i like me too... so why doesn't he like me also? loool

I only start posting on bz again once I've gotten a new obsession...

thanks.. i like me too... so why doesn't he like me also? loool

I only start posting on bz again once I've gotten a new obsession...

uh-oh.

So now your obsession is this guy?

I'm not into the idea much.... I don't think it'd wrong if you both agree with it, it's just not for me I guess

I feel the same way.

I think the main problem is that one person will always want more eventually, which might lead to both your "arrangement" and the friendship itself ending.

So now your obsession is this guy?

let's cut out the friends and get straight down to what's most important .... the benefits

let's cut out the friends and get straight down to what's most important .... the benefits

You know what they say in sales? Features tell, benefits sell.

i think you can but you cant get jealous if she/he starts dating another person.

i'm kinda in this situation now

omg that's awful