Friends with benefits

OMG That is horrible.. But I love it..

So you're looking for that very special friend then? :brows:

Again... I'm living this!! Oh my God.

This is different but its getting dangerous.

ANOTHER guy from work... we've been like this for almost a month now, he first apologized to me because he had a girlfriend and "I would never put you, not her in this not-so-nice situation" but I told him that it was ok, that he was not supposed to apology because we didn't do nothing!! But he emailed me every day and wrote me every night, and always talking normally about life, then he started like he couldn't help it, that it was hard to him only having me as a friend, that he was ok with only a kiss!! Ok, everything fine, because at the very end, it was him that said "No, we shouldn't do this". BUT, he asked me out, as friends, and actually, the date was a friends date!! It was nice! He baheved and it was a nice date

Second date: Kisses and more kisses, but that was because I said I wanted to kiss him too! And that I had nothing and nobody to worry about nor hide from but he did... a girlfriend, his first "serious relationship". But I was sorta heartbroken from a previous relationship, so I did not care, and kissed him. Since then, It's hard to behave when we're together. He's always looking for my kisses and so do I, even when I try not to.

BUT, it's getting dangerous. I do wanna sleep with him, he's a great toucher, a great kisser, he's got THE penis! But, No, I cant have sex with him. That would be the end of everything and after that, he would say goodbye to me, from one way or another. I'm not emotionally involved with him, Thank God Im not, it's just the physical-sexual attraction... like kisses are not enough anymore. He said himself that we should stop seeing ourselves in public places, or just dating, because we get too close, too hot, and he doesn't want to insist me on something I dont wanna do.

Anyway... I don't want him to break up with his gf, I just wanna keep him as a friend with benefit, I'm not emotionally interested in him, I LOVE when he takes my hand, but I'm not that fool. I'm curious of how are we gonna end up this game.

So you're looking for that very special friend then? :brows:

Actually, I think I am more the type that can only have sex when it means something .. maybe sometime I will tell you about my experience with friends with benefits.

Again... I'm living this!! Oh my God.

This is different but its getting dangerous.

but he has a girlfrienddd!! .. why are you doing that? don't sleep with him unless you don't care about him. Or find a way to get them to break up before you do it.

is it evil... that i would want to break up a guy's recently made up relationship to get him back for what he did to me less than a week ago? think not... :evil: i'm sure they are bound to break up again anyways

i had a girl that i was friends with benefits with a while back. It was a perfect setup, well until she had to move to another country

at least neither of u developed feeling for one another... that's really all that matters. there's always benefits over the phone, ya dig :brows:

haha via Skype. We were just very compatible in the sack.

so ... about the guy i "liked" who didn't tell me that we were short term friends with benefits and decided to run off with his (ex)girlfriend.. our intentions are to "borrow" his phone to get her number and send an online text to her with some juicy gossip about how he spent the xmas vacation juggle to 2 of us.

good luck with that Rogue

hmm so your gonna play the middle man? oi, should be interesting to see how that turns out lol

i think it depends on the type of friends you are, like if you have known them for a while or just kinda met em and your aquainted. I have a girl i met a year ago or so and we were trying to see if something developed, it didnt turn out to well since i was like one of the 3 guys she was "talking" to. We dont hang out anymore as friends, we just text one another to see how things are going. besides that we just text or call one another when we want to Hook Up. its worked out pretty well for me so far

I'd say go for it. If you both feel a sexual attraction and have discussed it, you both obviously feel comfortable with the idea.

So you're looking for that very special friend then? :brows:

Actually, I think I am more the type that can only have sex when it means something .. maybe sometime I will tell you about my experience with friends with benefits.

Yeah its the same for me too, I'm personally not a fan of one night stands and prefer doing that intimate stuff in a relationship. I'm in an odd situation...me and my ex are currently friends with benefits but the thing is we still love each other and its starting to confuse me because when we do get together it doesn't feel like we are just being physical it feels like old times and although I am dating several other guys (4 others atm) I just want to be with my ex We broke up and got back together twice and have external reasons that are stopping us from being together and I feel like I want to move on with my life but because after we broke up we became friends with benefits I didn't have the chance to just see him as a friend I ''occasionally play with'' I love him so much still and he has said he feels the same I don't know what to do atm...help

External reasons? Do tell, sweet child.

External reasons? Do tell, sweet child.

Hes a student from abroad and goes to my college and his parents pay thousands for him to study here (medicine) and hes family are really tough on him and so are his family who he lives with here and is expected to get top grades cos its costing his family alot of money hes in college more days than me and has far more work and he really wants to work in medicine so after college and study he doesnt have alot of time and when he does hes family don't really like him going out too much dunno wat to do, wat do u guys think?

I never like the sound of a well intentioned but utterly overbearing family. Surely a sensible compromise can be reached? If not then it all sounds like a bit of a non-starter to me.

Yh its just hes family are such assholes and they just want him to do just studyng till hes finished university and everthing till then its their way or the high way. This is the reason we broke up, got back together and broke up again only now we are in this weird friends with benefits warp and on still act like a couple without the official commitment. Today on the phone he was telling me he loves me and everything feels so right, I seem to always somehow end up with guys who are somehow unavailable in some way its always them who find me not the other way round lmao.

If it weren't for his family we would still be together

Damn

We cannot continue being friends with benefits, he's going to be a dad and he's getting married

Damn

We cannot continue being friends with benefits, he's going to be a dad and he's getting married

That sounds complicated.. sorry to hear that for you.

But I think this is a good time to bring in my point of views.. Friends with benefits always leaves things open to have them find someone else. And having this can hurt someone in this arrangement.

AND

If you make this choice to make a friend with benefits you really need to know the cost of your decision.

Damn

We cannot continue being friends with benefits, he's going to be a dad and he's getting married

That sounds complicated.. sorry to hear that for you.

But I think this is a good time to bring in my point of views.. Friends with benefits always leaves things open to have them find someone else. And having this can hurt someone in this arrangement.

AND

If you make this choice to make a friend with benefits you really need to know the cost of your decision.

Was hard at first, but when you vent and stay away from him -even when you see him every day-, it's easier to let go.

But I have to say that it wasn't really my choice. We started like friends and he started and i followed him, not knowing this was gonna go this far (kinda feelings included).

But you're right, we have to know and assum the costs of what we do!