Friends with benefits

If you were my daughters I'd have sent you all off with the nuns when you were kids.

Woo, first time posting here in years.

External reasons? Do tell, sweet child.

Hes a student from abroad and goes to my college and his parents pay thousands for him to study here (medicine) and hes family are really tough on him and so are his family who he lives with here and is expected to get top grades cos its costing his family alot of money hes in college more days than me and has far more work and he really wants to work in medicine so after college and study he doesnt have alot of time and when he does hes family don't really like him going out too much dunno wat to do, wat do u guys think?

I was had a girlfriend of 2 years that ended up going long distance for the 3rd and final year and believe me it is the worst situation possible. Since you guys are already experiencing serious problems and haven't even gone long distance I highly recommend just dropping him and moving on. It sucks hardcore but it's probably best for both of you.

I'm personally in a pretty bad situation when it comes to women in general. I'm in college and it seems like literally every girl ever just wants to do nothing but have sex. I've been able to get pretty much any girl that I've really wanted at parties, but all it leads to is having sex and nothing else...which has led me to realize that this type of behavior is just not my bag. All good, just go for a girlfriend, right? Not quite. I'm going to Marine OCS next summer (either doing human intel going MARSOC and basically turning into a ghost or doing JAG...both long term commitments with zero stability in regards to living arrangements.) I just recently put the pieces back together from pretty much losing the love of my life so I'm pretty hesitant to get into another relationship and having to deal with the inevitable emotional problems, but at the same time I feel like I need something. I'm pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I'm personally in a pretty bad situation when it comes to women in general. I'm in college and it seems like literally every girl ever just wants to do nothing but have sex. I've been able to get pretty much any girl that I've really wanted at parties, but all it leads to is having sex and nothing else...which has led me to realize that this type of behavior is just not my bag. All good, just go for a girlfriend, right? Not quite. I'm going to Marine OCS next summer (either doing human intel going MARSOC and basically turning into a ghost or doing JAG...both long term commitments with zero stability in regards to living arrangements.) I just recently put the pieces back together from pretty much losing the love of my life so I'm pretty hesitant to get into another relationship and having to deal with the inevitable emotional problems, but at the same time I feel like I need something. I'm pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I'm personally in a pretty bad situation when it comes to women in general. I'm in college and it seems like literally every girl ever just wants to do nothing but have sex. I've been able to get pretty much any girl that I've really wanted at parties, but all it leads to is having sex and nothing else...which has led me to realize that this type of behavior is just not my bag. All good, just go for a girlfriend, right? Not quite. I'm going to Marine OCS next summer

You don't live in the States by any chance, do you?

Most girls here in England are fairly frigid in comparison to what I've heard in the states. Any girl who acts like you described here is usually a nasty piece of work or is just the local bike, so there's really no compromise. It's just the extremes. It's all good if you're looking for a gf, but if you just wanna have some fun evey once in a while then it's pretty annoying.

Wow, Fred, that's just about right haha.

Rock, yea I'm in the US. I guess I shoulda specified United States Marine Corps Didn't realize this place was so international.

Woo, first time posting here in years.

External reasons? Do tell, sweet child.

Hes a student from abroad and goes to my college and his parents pay thousands for him to study here (medicine) and hes family are really tough on him and so are his family who he lives with here and is expected to get top grades cos its costing his family alot of money hes in college more days than me and has far more work and he really wants to work in medicine so after college and study he doesnt have alot of time and when he does hes family don't really like him going out too much dunno wat to do, wat do u guys think?

I was had a girlfriend of 2 years that ended up going long distance for the 3rd and final year and believe me it is the worst situation possible. Since you guys are already experiencing serious problems and haven't even gone long distance I highly recommend just dropping him and moving on. It sucks hardcore but it's probably best for both of you.

I'm personally in a pretty bad situation when it comes to women in general. I'm in college and it seems like literally every girl ever just wants to do nothing but have sex. I've been able to get pretty much any girl that I've really wanted at parties, but all it leads to is having sex and nothing else...which has led me to realize that this type of behavior is just not my bag. All good, just go for a girlfriend, right? Not quite. I'm going to Marine OCS next summer (either doing human intel going MARSOC and basically turning into a ghost or doing JAG...both long term commitments with zero stability in regards to living arrangements.) I just recently put the pieces back together from pretty much losing the love of my life so I'm pretty hesitant to get into another relationship and having to deal with the inevitable emotional problems, but at the same time I feel like I need something. I'm pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Yeah I wish I could just drop him, tried many times and failed miserably...it seems so far anyone else I get involved with on the side is only because I want my ex but we can't be together so I just get involved to move on but then end up dragging things out with people I don't really feel seriously about sounds terrible I know. Currently I'm still involved with my ex (FWB) and dating 4 other guys on the side, one is also an ex, 2 guys from college and the other one who I've been seeing for 2 months now. Thing is I don't want any of them if I'm truly honest with myself, I've screwed up BIG TIME. I just don't know how to tell 4 people I don't want to date them anymore...helllllp...

As for your predicament sounds tough. So sorry it ended with the love of your life I know how it feels, my ex the one I want is also the love of my life and hes pretty much me in guy form, my other half even though we weren't together as long as you and your ex.

I guess if you're going to be away for long periods of time and can't make long term commitments to a person (stating the obvious) you probs shouldn't get involved for the sake of yourself and the other person...although if you meet the right person who is willing to wait for you or accepts the situation I don't see why you can't forge a relationship with someone

Woo, first time posting here in years.

External reasons? Do tell, sweet child.

Hes a student from abroad and goes to my college and his parents pay thousands for him to study here (medicine) and hes family are really tough on him and so are his family who he lives with here and is expected to get top grades cos its costing his family alot of money hes in college more days than me and has far more work and he really wants to work in medicine so after college and study he doesnt have alot of time and when he does hes family don't really like him going out too much dunno wat to do, wat do u guys think?

I was had a girlfriend of 2 years that ended up going long distance for the 3rd and final year and believe me it is the worst situation possible. Since you guys are already experiencing serious problems and haven't even gone long distance I highly recommend just dropping him and moving on. It sucks hardcore but it's probably best for both of you.

I'm personally in a pretty bad situation when it comes to women in general. I'm in college and it seems like literally every girl ever just wants to do nothing but have sex. I've been able to get pretty much any girl that I've really wanted at parties, but all it leads to is having sex and nothing else...which has led me to realize that this type of behavior is just not my bag. All good, just go for a girlfriend, right? Not quite. I'm going to Marine OCS next summer (either doing human intel going MARSOC and basically turning into a ghost or doing JAG...both long term commitments with zero stability in regards to living arrangements.) I just recently put the pieces back together from pretty much losing the love of my life so I'm pretty hesitant to get into another relationship and having to deal with the inevitable emotional problems, but at the same time I feel like I need something. I'm pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Yeah I wish I could just drop him, tried many times and failed miserably...it seems so far anyone else I get involved with on the side is only because I want my ex but we can't be together so I just get involved to move on but then end up dragging things out with people I don't really feel seriously about sounds terrible I know. Currently I'm still involved with my ex (FWB) and dating 4 other guys on the side, one is also an ex, 2 guys from college and the other one who I've been seeing for 2 months now. Thing is I don't want any of them if I'm truly honest with myself, I've screwed up BIG TIME. I just don't know how to tell 4 people I don't want to date them anymore...helllllp...

Oh please, helllllp? Admit it, you date them for the sex factor.

I have slept with only one of the guys that I'm dating but I've been seeing him for 2 months, I meant 'heeelp' with how to go about telling someone I don't want to date them anymore cos I've never really done it before.

I have slept with only one of the guys that I'm dating but I've been seeing him for 2 months, I meant 'heeelp' with how to go about telling someone I don't want to date them anymore cos I've never really done it before.

Btw, I was just teasing about the sex factor thing, but if you've only slept with one of them - which I find a little surprising - then fair enough.

On a side note, why are you dating so many guys in the first place if you don't really want to? Like why do you need 4. I can totally understand if you want them for sex, but if you've only shagged one, then wth?

Why do you need help with going about how to tell someone you don't want to date them anymore? This was probably not your intention, but asking for 'help' in that respect (almost) sounds like you want help in fabricating a believable story so you can avoid telling the truth.

Here's what you do, and it's not something anyone else can really help you with: tell the truth.

All too often we say things to 'dampen the blow', or to simply make people feel good, even if we don't mean it. I think that just being honest with people; telling the truth, but doing it in a respectful way, without being rude - that can make a big difference. So just try it, be straight.

that can make a big difference. So just try it, be straight.

okay okay, i get it. that one was really bad lol :D''

lol, M; Only you would pick up on that, haha

the issue I see here is ..

you need to learn to say 'no'..

It is not a hard word once you get used to it.. don't wait until your married to say it.. just kidding..

but trully the only help you can give yourself is be stronger with telling these guys what you want.

lol, M; Only you would pick up on that, haha

sorry haha it was too tempting

the issue I see here is ..

you need to learn to say 'no'..

It is not a hard word once you get used to it.. don't wait until your married to say it.. just kidding..

but trully the only help you can give yourself is be stronger with telling these guys what you want.

well i personally find it hard to say

it always troubles me to have to tell people that i'm not into them like that...

lol, M; Only you would pick up on that, haha

sorry haha it was too tempting

the issue I see here is ..

you need to learn to say 'no'..

It is not a hard word once you get used to it.. don't wait until your married to say it.. just kidding..

but trully the only help you can give yourself is be stronger with telling these guys what you want.

well i personally find it hard to say

it always troubles me to have to tell people that i'm not into them like that...

Thats how i feel too M i at first started dated several guys cos i thought i did like them and plus it was my way of not getting too attached to one person cos i got hurt from the breakup of my last serious relationship but it was silly of me and cos ive never ''dumped'' anyone, its usually ended mutually, drifted apart or me getting broken up with so its abit tricky atm..

Thats how i feel too M i at first started dated several guys cos i thought i did like them and plus it was my way of not getting too attached to one person cos i got hurt from the breakup of my last serious relationship but it was silly of me and cos ive never ''dumped'' anyone, its usually ended mutually, drifted apart or me getting broken up with so its abit tricky atm..

well i personally find it hard to say

it always troubles me to have to tell people that i'm not into them like that...

If you do not learn to say no .. you will be walked on.. trust me I know.

well i personally find it hard to say

it always troubles me to have to tell people that i'm not into them like that...

If you do not learn to say no .. you will be walked on.. trust me I know.

I did not say that ^^ lol it was M

well i personally find it hard to say

it always troubles me to have to tell people that i'm not into them like that...

If you do not learn to say no .. you will be walked on.. trust me I know.

I did not say that ^^ lol it was M

Yes, I blame M, too! :evil: :evil: :evil:

well i personally find it hard to say

it always troubles me to have to tell people that i'm not into them like that...

If you do not learn to say no .. you will be walked on.. trust me I know.

I did not say that ^^ lol it was M

Yes, I blame M, too! :evil: :evil: :evil:

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Tried it the girl was all I don't think we can still just talk after this She couldn't think between doing stuff and just talking without doing anything <_<

All i know is i still want to do stuff and she doesn't