Would you feel insulted if someone very ugly was trying to get with you?

Ok, this idea came to me from the 'Approaching females' topic when SimpathySilhouette asked the girls in that thread why girls get offended when they get approached by guys in a bar/club etc and i thought well its more the way the guy might approach you and plus if hes really fugly and is trying to chat you up and take you home, the girl might feel like ''woah i must be either quite unattractive or quite easy looking'' any other girls agree??...

And i know some of you will think that its really harsh but i know it is and i feel bad for saying it so don't bother saying ''thats really harsh..your a bitch etc'' here cos well i know it is harsh.

I don't think I would take it as an insult but would it would be very awkward.

I think I would try to leave or move somewhere else as mean as that sounds, I've seen alot of girls do that also.

It's just that since the other person is obviously is attracted to something you have while you're not which turns into a turn off for me personally if they keep trying to talk to you with more intentions. I don't think what you said is bitchy at all, it's more like reality.

Well, excuse me, but if the goal posts have been moved back so far that it's okay to be mean to someone just because they don't meet your standards of beauty, then I'm not sure I still want to be part of the game.

I said only with more intentions, if it's just a convo then I would be fine talking to them, it could change my mind.

Sorry, that's a cop out. How do you know what his intentions are? More times than not, you'll just assume that he's out to seduce you.

I don't think I would take it as an insult but would it would be very awkward.

I think I would try to leave or move somewhere else as mean as that sounds, I've seen alot of girls do that also.

It's just that since the other person is obviously is attracted to something you have while you're not which turns into a turn off for me personally if they keep trying to talk to you with more intentions. I don't think what you said is bitchy at all, it's more like reality.

I totally agree (Y) if they want to just talk but like i said before its abit unlikely in a bar/club that they just want to talk so i would make my excuses and leave or go somewhere else but i wouldnt be mean unless they were really forcing things and being scary then i would tell them to ''bugger off''

It takes time to figure out what the intentions really are. Im not saying everyone is out to seduce the other person everytime, the only thing you could do is guess really, as much as you want to find out what they are.

Personally I have met real jerks off the bat you could tell there intentions, I try not to judge anybody while they approach me I know how hard it is already to approach someone, so it might just be them being a little nervous.

Nice topic ABBfan

I think its really idiotic to think that way ( 'woah i must be either quite unattractive or quite easy looking''), so unattractive people cant date ?!! A man's value is from the inside of his wallet

JK

It takes time to figure out what the intentions really are. Im not saying everyone is out to seduce the other person everytime, the only thing you could do is guess really, as much as you want to find out what they are.

Personally I have met real jerks off the bat you could tell there intentions, I try not to judge anybody while they approach me I know how hard it is already to approach someone, so it might just be them being a little nervous.

Well said I try not to judge someone without knowing them but its difficult sometimes not too.

Nice topic ABBfan

I think its really idiotic to think that way ( 'woah i must be either quite unattractive or quite easy looking''), so unattractive people cant date ?!! A man's value is from the inside of his wallet

JK

Thanks now i know what you look for in man...his big package :brows:

Wouldn't feel insulted, but I'd be disappointed personally that I couldn't garner the attention of someone better looking.

Wouldn't feel insulted, but I'd be disappointed personally that I couldn't garner the attention of someone better looking.

Thats exactly what ive been trying to say

Wouldn't feel insulted, but I'd be disappointed personally that I couldn't garner the attention of someone better looking.

Thats exactly what ive been trying to say

Of course that doesn't mean I can't talk to them or anything like that and treat them like human beings.

Well, excuse me, but if the goal posts have been moved back so far that it's okay to be mean to someone just because they don't meet your standards of beauty, then I'm not sure I still want to be part of the game.

Then what game will you be playing Herve? Admit it, there are few other games you can play However, you could join me in my lonely lonely little world. I have a seat reserved for you right next to me :|

Sorry, that's a cop out. How do you know what his intentions are? More times than not, you'll just assume that he's out to seduce you.

And more times than not, they'd probably be right That or he wants a lock of your hair

I think its really idiotic to think that way ( 'woah i must be either quite unattractive or quite easy looking''), so unattractive people cant date ?!! A man's value is from the inside of his wallet

:rofl:

Well, excuse me, but if the goal posts have been moved back so far that it's okay to be mean to someone just because they don't meet your standards of beauty, then I'm not sure I still want to be part of the game.

Then what game will you be playing Herve? Admit it, there are few other games you can play However, you could join me in my lonely lonely little world. I have a seat reserved for you right next to me :|

Sorry, that's a cop out. How do you know what his intentions are? More times than not, you'll just assume that he's out to seduce you.

And more times than not, they'd probably be right That or he wants a lock of your hair

I'll stay on the sidelines until someone asks me to rejoin the game.

I disagree with that. I honestly have gone up to women for no other reason then to strike up a conversation and got burned for it.

Even when they are by themselves and you think they'd enjoy the company, you still get shot down worse than a 'nam pilot over Laos.

Well, excuse me, but if the goal posts have been moved back so far that it's okay to be mean to someone just because they don't meet your standards of beauty, then I'm not sure I still want to be part of the game.

Then what game will you be playing Herve? Admit it, there are few other games you can play However, you could join me in my lonely lonely little world. I have a seat reserved for you right next to me :|

Sorry, that's a cop out. How do you know what his intentions are? More times than not, you'll just assume that he's out to seduce you.

And more times than not, they'd probably be right That or he wants a lock of your hair

I'll stay on the sidelines until someone asks me to rejoin the game.

I disagree with that. I honestly have gone up to women for no other reason then to strike up a conversation and got burned for it.

Even when they are by themselves and you think they'd enjoy the company, you still get shot down worse than a 'nam pilot over Laos.

Goooooooood! I own the sidelines Now come and sit with me :|

I meant on the whole, like chances are, out of the number of guys that approach a certain female at a bar on any given night, most of them are after more than talk. Maybe a bit of dirty talk It might be a useful generalisation to make if you're out for the night with your friends and you don't want to be hassled by anyone else

I get that Ed, but some of these women were alone. You'd think they'd enjoy the company.

Oh well, maybe it's just the combination of my hidious physique and annoying personality. And the fact that they can read that personality in a nano-second.

I get that Ed, but some of these women were alone. You'd think they'd enjoy the company.

Oh well, maybe it's just the combination of my hidious physique and annoying personality. And the fact that they can read that personality in a nano-second.

Well there's a reason they're alone...nobody wants to go out with them.

I get that Ed, but some of these women were alone. You'd think they'd enjoy the company.

Oh well, maybe it's just the combination of my hidious physique and annoying personality. And the fact that they can read that personality in a nano-second.

you're not hideous! and you're absolutely not annoying :brows: Anyway, they're missing out on good Herve so next time it happens to you just give them a big

Well there's a reason they're alone...nobody wants to go out with them.

I have some personal experience with this topic. A former female coworker started to hit on me at work. She was twice my age, three times my weight, and had her own unique armpit stink you could smell when she walked by (she always wore sleeveless tops and no deodorant, apparently). Since I'm too nice to tell someone to just piss off, she didn't quite get my "thanks, but no thanks" messages. A couple weeks later I quit the job and moved off to college (totally unrelated to her). She sent me a going away present, but that was the last I heard from her.

I've mostly just laughed it off (is that mean?) but there is a part of me that wonders what it is about me that made me "in her league".

:rofl:

maybe you were just too kind and nice and she interpreted as something more than that. Come to think of it, it has happened to me before as well :|