Would you feel insulted if someone very ugly was trying to get with you?

What, that you unwantingly attracted the attention of a unattractive member of the opposite sex?

A bit more than just attention. I was just being nice

I was forced to come out of the closet. I told her I was edsexual

I have some personal experience with this topic. A former female coworker started to hit on me at work. She was twice my age, three times my weight, and had her own unique armpit stink you could smell when she walked by (she always wore sleeveless tops and no deodorant, apparently). Since I'm too nice to tell someone to just piss off, she didn't quite get my "thanks, but no thanks" messages. A couple weeks later I quit the job and moved off to college (totally unrelated to her). She sent me a going away present, but that was the last I heard from her.

I've mostly just laughed it off (is that mean?) but there is a part of me that wonders what it is about me that made me "in her league".

Has happened to me too and i was like ''erm?''

:rofl:

maybe you were just too kind and nice and she interpreted as something more than that. Come to think of it, it has happened to me before as well :|

See it has happened to most people at some point in their lives when they were approached by someone who thought they were in sorry to say it 'the same league'

A bit more than just attention. I was just being nice

I was forced to come out of the closet. I told her I was edsexual

How do you know what league you're in?

How do you know what league you're in?

It's easy. If you get treated like shyte when you approach a girl, you're not in her league.

If she already glares at you before you even get a word in, she's so far out of your league the mere idea of you addressing her is offensive to her.

The fact that you are breathing the same air as her disgusts her.

If she has a stand-offish aura that peels the skin of your body, then you are the lowest life-form on earth to her, and you're not even in the same sport as she is, let alone league.

Thx..didn't know that

How do you know what league you're in?

It's easy. If you get treated like shyte when you approach a girl, you're not in her league.

If she already glares at you before you even get a word in, she's so far out of your league the mere idea of you addressing her is offensive to her.

The fact that you are breathing the same air as her disgusts her.

If she has a stand-offish aura that peels the skin of your body, then you are the lowest life-form on earth to her, and you're not even in the same sport as she is, let alone league.

That about sums it up. Eh, women.

I have some personal experience with this topic. A former female coworker started to hit on me at work. She was twice my age, three times my weight, and had her own unique armpit stink you could smell when she walked by (she always wore sleeveless tops and no deodorant, apparently). Since I'm too nice to tell someone to just piss off, she didn't quite get my "thanks, but no thanks" messages. A couple weeks later I quit the job and moved off to college (totally unrelated to her). She sent me a going away present, but that was the last I heard from her.

I've mostly just laughed it off (is that mean?) but there is a part of me that wonders what it is about me that made me "in her league".

SimpathySilhoutte, thats what ''not in league'' means. You also keep saying ''why do girls go to clubs if they dont want to meet new people'' etc and the simple fact is: Girls like hanging out with their friends in a bar/club environment. Some girls just want to go out with their friends out in the town like going dancing and not having strangers coming up to them to chat them up or just randomers trying to talk to them when they just want to have some fun with their friends. And also maybe us girls dont want to meet new people or talk to someone we dont know. You make it sound like a bad thing that we can choose not to talk to every guy that approaches whether its ''just to talk'' or go further.

I do understand what SS is talking about though. It isn't really hard to tell somebody (men or women) politely that you don't want to talk to them, without destroying them completely.

If this happened to me, it would depend. If he was acting like a disgusting sleaze bag, then hell no, but if he was making an effort, I might actually feel for him. Other than that, I wouldn't put myself in that situation. But also, sometimes girls get the feeling it might be a joke, or at least I do. If someone is flirting with me and they are seriously unattractive, I get the feeling it might not be serious. Because the last time I remember a creepy guy flirting with me, he was terribly bad, so I thought it must have been a joke. Turns out I was waaaay wrong.

How about when you all are with your friends or acquaintences(sp?) and they pair you with someone unflattering. How does that make you feel? I feel pissed, because I think they do it on purpose.

How do you know what league you're in?

If you dare to look into the mirror while brushing your teeth or shaving your chin, then your in the OK-league :|

I dont own a mirror though

not insulted but really uncomfortable. it actually happened to me @ school ahah it's so funny to me!

ok so my friend grace told me that this guy had the biggest thing for me, even though i had NO idea who the hell this guy was. so i asked her what he looked like and such, and she said that to be honest he's hideous . haha so i laughed and so did she.

so i thought nothing of it.

buuut a couple weeks after learning of the weird guy that liked me <i still had no idea who or what he looked like> me and my friends had like this meeting thing in the gym and i guess that guy was there with his friends too. so me and friends were laughing and talking, and all of a sudden someone handed my friend Kirsten a note. she smiled, so i said 'oooh who's got a thing for you, bitch' haha adn she was like not ME but YOU. i was like huh....so kirsten passed the note around the table to my friends, and i read it and it was that creep that liked me! it said something creepy like 'you look so good in your maroon sweater'. i was like wtf....haha so my friends were all laughing @ me so then another note is passed, so my friend jen is like dude who IS he?? and i was like i have no idea! and the note said that he wanted to date me blah blah blah and he wrote his number on the note.

so by this time we're ALL laughing and totally joking around, so my friend melynda was al like i'm gonna write back. so i was like knock yourself outt...cause i can care less of that weirdo. so she wrote something adn passed it to the group of losers <>. but i had no idea what she wrote. we all knew the guy got the note cause all his friends were all like "OOOHHH!! she wrote back' blah blah blah -__- haha

so @ lunch my friend jen was like omgsh i have to tell you something! and so she told me what my friend melynda wrote on the note which said something like meet me by the ASB room. and jen said that the guy actually showed up with his friend, peeked inside the room. then since he didn't see me he and his friend left. and jen said that the guy was walking with his head bowed down and his friend was patting him on the shoulder saying 'it's ok.' when she told me we busted out laughin! i know it's mean and all but seriuosly, first of all i STLL have NO idea who this creep is and i'm not the type of girl who'd go out with anyone.....

and to this day me and my friends laugh about it. i know...it's petty and mean...i'm sorry........

so that's my story....sorry it's insanely long

ohh and i totaly forgot. so my friend melynda called the guy's cell cause he wrote down his number on the note that he gave me

so she called him and he didn't answer. BUT he thinks that it was ME who was trying to call him, so my friend said that he keeps calling her and stuff and we laugh about that too hah

OMG your writting novels

I think passing notes like that with your friends around screams BAD MOVE.

hahahaaa i know it's super looong haha

dude passing notes screams pathetic! dude this is high school...not 3rd grade -__-

and they still do that in college too

the best way is always talking to people in person

This has happened to me once, I felt sorry for the guy so I went out with him (becoming my first boyfriend). The most kindest boy I have ever met, my last boyfriend was so mean disgusting, and just a pig :yuckky: and he was quite good-looking too damn you <_<. From my expreinces I've kind of let easy on the judge boys on their looks thing. But sometimes I just want a goodlooking one too.

I don't feel like I look unattractive or easy if someone I am not attracted to tries to chat me up and I have never felt insulted when someone whom I was not initially attracted to has flirted or hit on me. I say it that way because even if I might not be attracted to someone at first sight, I do become attracted to them later on if they are nice and friendly people. I have been more offended by being approached by nasty bullies rather than men that I did not find physically attractive. Especially when they knew me from school and saw that I was a kind and generous person. Why would someone like me want to date a mean jerk? In fact, a few of them bullied my friends and yet seemed to expect me to say 'Yes' more than anything else!

I have some personal experience with this topic. A former female coworker started to hit on me at work. She was twice my age, three times my weight, and had her own unique armpit stink you could smell when she walked by (she always wore sleeveless tops and no deodorant, apparently). Since I'm too nice to tell someone to just piss off, she didn't quite get my "thanks, but no thanks" messages. A couple weeks later I quit the job and moved off to college (totally unrelated to her). She sent me a going away present, but that was the last I heard from her.

I've mostly just laughed it off (is that mean?) but there is a part of me that wonders what it is about me that made me "in her league".

SimpathySilhoutte, thats what ''not in league'' means. You also keep saying ''why do girls go to clubs if they dont want to meet new people'' etc and the simple fact is: Girls like hanging out with their friends in a bar/club environment. Some girls just want to go out with their friends out in the town like going dancing and not having strangers coming up to them to chat them up or just randomers trying to talk to them when they just want to have some fun with their friends. And also maybe us girls dont want to meet new people or talk to someone we dont know. You make it sound like a bad thing that we can choose not to talk to every guy that approaches whether its ''just to talk'' or go further.

There's a difference between not wanting to talk to someone you don't know and being viciously mean to someone for no other crime than that person trying to start a conversation with you. Also, are you really saying that men NEVER should approach women in a bar/club because they likely want to be left alone?

Well, no worries, no woman will ever have to worry about disgusting little moi bothering her at a club or a bar, since I'm done with approaching unknown women.

I have some personal experience with this topic. A former female coworker started to hit on me at work. She was twice my age, three times my weight, and had her own unique armpit stink you could smell when she walked by (she always wore sleeveless tops and no deodorant, apparently). Since I'm too nice to tell someone to just piss off, she didn't quite get my "thanks, but no thanks" messages. A couple weeks later I quit the job and moved off to college (totally unrelated to her). She sent me a going away present, but that was the last I heard from her.

I've mostly just laughed it off (is that mean?) but there is a part of me that wonders what it is about me that made me "in her league".

SimpathySilhoutte, thats what ''not in league'' means. You also keep saying ''why do girls go to clubs if they dont want to meet new people'' etc and the simple fact is: Girls like hanging out with their friends in a bar/club environment. Some girls just want to go out with their friends out in the town like going dancing and not having strangers coming up to them to chat them up or just randomers trying to talk to them when they just want to have some fun with their friends. And also maybe us girls dont want to meet new people or talk to someone we dont know. You make it sound like a bad thing that we can choose not to talk to every guy that approaches whether its ''just to talk'' or go further.

There's a difference between not wanting to talk to someone you don't know and being viciously mean to someone for no other crime than that person trying to start a conversation with you. Also, are you really saying that men NEVER should approach women in a bar/club because they likely want to be left alone?

Well, no worries, no woman will ever have to worry about disgusting little moi bothering her at a club or a bar, since I'm done with approaching unknown women.

Firstly i said ''some'' in my previous post, not ''all''. Meaning ''some'' girls don't like being approached by some unknown guy and might just want to hang out with people they know in a club environment and secondly i don't understand why your getting so offended, this topic wasn't aimed at you or anyone in particular. You asked a question in a previous thread and i just said what i thought on the topic. Some people here agree and some don't and thats fine but you keep writing posts acting like i'm aiming this thread at you. I'm not saying you or anyone else should stop approaching girls in bars or whatever, i just said i don't particularly like it when strange guys i don't know approach me etc. Its one person's opinion. My opinion. Plus when guys approach me i'm not vicious to them, i just say ''i'm sorry i can't'' or ''i'm already with someone''. And where did this whole being ''vicious'' to guys thing come from? You sound like you had a bad experience cos i never said if some guy who isn't particularly good looking should get treated by the girl like shit. Your not reading my previous posts and writing things back which is confusing to me and making accusations.

PS no one here said you were ''disgusting'', ''ugly'' or anything mean etc. You said that yourself. So please could we just put that aside now?