Approaching a Female

I was at the mall tonight and I saw plenty of pretty females but I didn't talk to any of them... I realized I had a problem... I am not nervous about going up to them I just have no idea on how to start a conversation.. I'm not usually the person that will go up and just talk to a random person... I usually just wait for people to talk to me... My confidence level is low right now... Trying to get it back up... I think if I had a game plan for going up and talking to females it would really make a difference... Maybe I just over think things... Maybe you guys and girls could share your game plans for starting conversations with new people...

ask them for the time, guys do that all the time to me and then they try to talk to me. I'm not saying stuff about myself, I'm just saying that's what some guys do...but neverrrrr use a corny pick-up line unless you're seriously just trying to be funny. If your outside of the mall you could ask her for a cig.

step one: stop calling them females, it sounds creepy.

step two: build confidence or you wont get anywhere

step three: talk to them about something you can tell you have in common...like a book, a clothing brand, a shopping bag from a store you like..etc...its pretty lame but it breaks the ice

step four:

step five: profit

this is why hooking up at somewhere with dancing is the win...you get dry humped then you know she likes you...hard to get dry humped in the middle of a mall without pissing off security...tis be a good indicator of whether or not a girl likes you though.

I was at the mall tonight and I saw plenty of pretty females but I didn't talk to any of them... I realized I had a problem... I am not nervous about going up to them I just have no idea on how to start a conversation.. I'm not usually the person that will go up and just talk to a random person... I usually just wait for people to talk to me... My confidence level is low right now... Trying to get it back up... I think if I had a game plan for going up and talking to females it would really make a difference... Maybe I just over think things... Maybe you guys and girls could share your game plans for starting conversations with new people...

same problem man. i feel for you. my cousin gave me the idea about going up to them and asking them to help you find somewhere.(make sure its far away) act like your lost. if they agree, introduce yourself and thank them right then. if they dont agree, say thanks anyways, be a nice guy. on the way to the place yo cant find, try to find some common ground with them like discostu said. if things go well, when you get there, thank them again for their help and ask if theyd like to hang out sometime. i tried it, and it works pretty well.

give it a try. doesnt hurt.

practice. approach lots of women, dont worry about succeeding too much, just get used to doing it. accepting the possibility of failure is the first step to a good approach

planning any kind of line, or asking for the a cig, or simply introducing yourself or whatever isn't going to come off too well if you arent comfortable with yourself or the situation

its just like anything else, practice makes perfect

just do it. thats all i can say.

step one: stop calling them females, it sounds creepy.

step two: build confidence or you wont get anywhere

step three: talk to them about something you can tell you have in common...like a book, a clothing brand, a shopping bag from a store you like..etc...its pretty lame but it breaks the ice

step four:  

step five: profit

this is why hooking up at somewhere with dancing is the win...you get dry humped then you know she likes you...hard to get dry humped in the middle of a mall without pissing off security...tis be a good indicator of whether or not a girl likes you though.

o man discotou i love u . why cant all the guys on this forum bbe around me and not to mention the ladies as well. u guys are the shit. and just like discotou said, ask for a sig or talk about a book and the word femnale is creepy.

I was at the mall tonight and I saw plenty of pretty females but I didn't talk to any of them... I realized I had a problem... I am not nervous about going up to them I just have no idea on how to start a conversation.. I'm not usually the person that will go up and just talk to a random person... I usually just wait for people to talk to me... My confidence level is low right now... Trying to get it back up... I think if I had a game plan for going up and talking to females it would really make a difference... Maybe I just over think things... Maybe you guys and girls could share your game plans for starting conversations with new people...

I have exactly the same problem. I wish I could "jump over" the first 2 minutes. I would like to be sincere and honest but I'm supposed to start the conversation with nonsense.

I think men over-analyze this waaaay too much. As a girl, I will admit that I get hit on quite a bit and being blatantly hit on is uncomfortable, rude, and makes me want to hide.

Being sincere and honest is the best, Worshipper, however .. it's bad if by honest you mean "Damn, girl .. you got a fine butt!" It's not easy to walk up to a complete stranger and just talk. Breaking the ice is very important.

I think asking for the time is a great way, but just make sure you don't have a watch or a cell phone visible. It's easy because it is an innocent question, your mother or sister could easily walk up to her and ask the same thing. Then you could follow up that question by asking where a certain store in the mall is.

After that, you kind of have to play it by ear. If you see her in the food court, tell her that her food looks delicious and then ask her what she ordered and from where.

I think school ( high school, but college in particular ) and church is the easiest place to meet people. They already have something in common with you.

Just relax and be yourself.

I think men over-analyze this waaaay too much.  As a girl, I will admit that I get hit on quite a bit and being blatantly hit on is uncomfortable, rude, and makes me want to hide.

Yes, I analyze things. That is who I am. I would kill to be hit by women. Of course, men can be very rude.

Being sincere and honest is the best, Worshipper, however .. it's bad if by honest you mean "Damn, girl .. you got a fine butt!"  It's not easy to walk up to a complete stranger and just talk.  Breaking the ice is very important.

Well, being honest does not mean you have say everything. Breaking ice is something I just can't do, unfortunately...

Women want men to find their body attractive, right? How would you women like to hear from us men that we find your butt nice?

I think asking for the time is a great way, but just make sure you don't have a watch or a cell phone visible.  It's easy because it is an innocent question, your mother or sister could easily walk up to her and ask the same thing.  Then you could follow up that question by asking where a certain store in the mall is.

After that, you kind of have to play it by ear.  If you see her in the food court, tell her that her food looks delicious and then ask her what she ordered and from where.

Hiding the real intention feels underestimation of intelligence. It is so obvious what is going on. I would like to admit right in the begining I'm trying to hit her, but that is considered rude in our culture.

I think school ( high school, but college in particular ) and church is the easiest place to meet people.  They already have something in common with you.

School was the worst place. All the other boys were more handsome and everyone were inmature and rude. It was hell. Who goes to church?

Just relax and be yourself.  

Well, I'm relaxed and being myself... ...and without a girl. My theory is that when I meet the right person I sense it immediately and the communication will be very easy. I wonder where that woman is if she even exists...

I don't want random men telling me I have a nice butt. I dress modestly for several reasons, one of them being to avoid the wrong kind of attention. I want a man to like me for who I am, not for my body.

Anyway, I was just offering general advice. I'm not a Love Doctor and different things work for different people.

Thanks... I read all the responses and it seems like I'm just gonna have to do it... I like the asking a question idea... I know I can't be afraid of rejection but I think that is my biggest problem... I always see girls at school falling for the "bad guy" and I'm not that type of person... I'm not going to become a "bad guy" for any girl... The "bad guys" have one thing though that I don't and thats confidence...

I don't like bad boys. <_<

I know some women don't like bad boys but I see alot of girls that do and its a shame because I know I could make the girls alot happier than any of those guys...

I don't want random men telling me I have a nice butt.  I dress modestly for several reasons, one of them being to avoid the wrong kind of attention.  I want a man to like me for who I am, not for my body.

Anyway, I was just offering general advice.  I'm not a Love Doctor and different things work for different people.

Yes, a man should like you for who you are, but I'm afraid it is your body/beautiful face that makes men come to you in the first place. That sucks but what can you do?

Your advices were good, I'm just a hopeless case...

The only advice I can give is..be yourself. Sounds cheesy, but that`s what I love in a man.

Yea Passion I agree... If a girl doesn't like me for me then I don't want to be with them anyway...

The only advice I can give is..be yourself. Sounds cheesy, but that`s what I love in a man.

I always try to be myself because that's what I want. I hope I meet a girl like you someday...

Yea Passion I agree... If a girl doesn't like me for me then I don't want to be with them anyway...

If the girl doesn't like me for what I am then there won't be any hope for the relationship to work/last.

That`s right Adam. If someone loves you, they should love you for who you are.

Thanks Worshipper And it`s essential to have a bit of confidence. Being cocky, and way to confident is a bit of a turn off to me..by a 'bit of confidence' I mean that men should believe in themselves.

Thanks... I read all the responses and it seems like I'm just gonna have to do it... I like the asking a question idea... I know I can't be afraid of rejection but I think that is my biggest problem... I always see girls at school falling for the "bad guy" and I'm not that type of person... I'm not going to become a "bad guy" for any girl... The "bad guys" have one thing though that I don't and thats confidence...

that was my problem adam....i was afraid of rejection and i personally never met anyone i really liked until yesterday and i asked that girl out and we had a great time lastnight.