What are your thoughts on Virgins that want to wait till marrige.

That's what my mom says!

Beh who am I kidding. I'm only saying that to get you to hook up with me

I think I'm a little young for you. I'm not gonna deny this though you are quite the hottie.

Why thankyou

Goddamn jailbait <_<

who's jailbait? Babe, I know I'm not jailbait.

Err... I'm going to end this conversation before it gets any more awkward. But send me an email when you turn 18... or 15... whatever the legal age is down there

Whatever you want

No, she bought me the promise ring because I wanted one. She tells me that losing your virginity isn't that great but if you want to wait then I'll support you.

I think it's just plain stupid. No sex compatibility, no real relationship!

ok well (assuming u're straight) u meet the most wonderful guy ever (for you) and u r compatible in every other way except sexually. would u leave him?

Actually I think I would, I could be good friends with the person, but not in a relationship, and if then I don't think it would last. But I can't say for sure of course.

this whole issue of being 'sexually compatible' isn't really an issue when you wait for marriage. i'm speaking from experience here, since i lost my virginity once i was married. if you're with someone who loves you for you, and not what they're looking for physically(though i will admit it is important) and you love them the same way, you'll be willing to work on it to make sex better for the both of you. otherwise, you're both being selfish and it won't work out. all i'm saying is that sex is just like everything else in marriage, you've gotta work on it to make it work.

Seems like a reasonable statement there.

I've dated 2 girls that wanted to wait for marriage. And I didn't force them into anything.

1 one those girls I dated for over a year also.

I think it's just plain stupid. No sex compatibility, no real relationship!

ok well (assuming u're straight) u meet the most wonderful guy ever (for you) and u r compatible in every other way except sexually. would u leave him?

Actually I think I would, I could be good friends with the person, but not in a relationship, and if then I don't think it would last. But I can't say for sure of course.

ok so this is my conclusion. do whats right for YOU! lol simple as that. i think arguing about is just pointless

Call me a loser but I just saw Twilight... I don't know how girly the book is... I might be interested in reading it.

T'was a crappy movie over all but there's some good quality metaphors in there that can be explored.

Really worth a look at if you want to delve into this whole abstinance 'til marriage thing... whether it was inteded by the author or not.

Edward Cullen is my hero.

As for the whole waiting thing... I can appreciate it and actually wouldn't have any problem dating a girl who wanted to wait - except for the fact I have a severe case of "commitmentphobia". But yeah... I wouldn't think about it as a restriction. I'd think about it more as an invitation to be gentleman. I kinda wish I waited actually...

It's cool to wait, and certainly fucking around young isn't the best idea, but reality is reality. Waiting for marriage isn't realistic. You're going to go to college, probably. You're going to go to parties, you're going to get drunk. You're going to meet guys you really like. Love comes at you, or at least lust, and the reality is, you're going to end up closing a deal before you get married.

It's just reality. I'm not saying you should go fuck a random loser. But if you're in love with someone... it's going to happen sooner or later.

unless u look like steve urkel... in which case someone might find it in their hearts to adopt u as their sexual charity case, or.. u might find it in your wallet to pay for a prostitute

I've dated 2 girls that wanted to wait for marriage. And I didn't force them into anything.

1 one those girls I dated for over a year also.

are u saying u slept with at least one of them? please joking

@Tooboku, you're not the only with a commitment phobia. I'm pretty much the same. Waiting till marriage sounds pretty horrible to me. I don't like the idea of being tied to someone (supposedly) for the rest of my life. I guess that's because I've never met anyone I loved that much.

As for holding off sex...I'm having a mixed opinion on it. On one hand I think it's good to wait, especially in today's society where youngsters behave like bunnies, and the average kid grows up watching videoclips with skimpy clad women slutting it up. It's refreshing to see there are still people around who don't hump the first chance they get. On the other hand I think marriage is a bit extreme. Sure, it all depends on who you are and when you want to marry (it's easier when you have a steady boyfriend who you love very much and you marry at say, the age of 22 than if you're like me: single, commitmentphobe and not planning on marrying until atleast a decade from now. )

But I also think you create high expectations (whether you're aware of it or not). THE moment has finally arrived: you're married and you'll be having sex for the first time in your life, you want it to be magical and more often than not, first times are a disappointment. You don't have any experience, you're insecure and kinda clumsy. And it probably hurts, too.

I don't have anything against people who sleep around. I just think that both sides need to want it for the same reason. If one is doing it for more than lust, someone's bound to get his/her feelings hurt and that's when it gets ugly. Also, being a virgin until your brain catches up makes it easier to avoid STD's. Still, that depends on who you are. <_< A lot of people who wait till marriage get knocked up in the first year.

For me, I think waiting until it feels right works. Doesn't have to be marriage. I just don't want lust and love to be two separate things. Not judging anyone who feels differently (like most of my friends) but that's just the way I feel. I don't like putting rules up when it comes to this. It would be unrealistic for me to do so anyway. I just don't want to be stupid about it.

*looks at above ramble* Geez, that's reaallly long. Uh well. I'll shut up now

It's cool to wait, and certainly fucking around young isn't the best idea, but reality is reality. Waiting for marriage isn't realistic. You're going to go to college, probably. You're going to go to parties, you're going to get drunk. You're going to meet guys you really like. Love comes at you, or at least lust, and the reality is, you're going to end up closing a deal before you get married.

It's just reality. I'm not saying you should go fuck a random loser. But if you're in love with someone... it's going to happen sooner or later.

unless u look like steve urkel... in which case someone might find it in their hearts to adopt u as their sexual charity case, or.. u might find it in your wallet to pay for a prostitute

I've dated 2 girls that wanted to wait for marriage. And I didn't force them into anything.

1 one those girls I dated for over a year also.

are u saying u slept with at least one of them? please joking

I slept with the one that i was with for over 1 year. I think till marriage was too long for her

good job.. u made her realize that she was insane to thing she could wait that long. No, maybe not, maybe she just couldn't resist your charms... or she just feel into temptation

at the end of the day, all i know is that it's harder to practice abtinence after u've had sex already - once u have it then it's worse than lays, you can't just hump once..

hahahaha

She even initiated it too.

the virgins are the horniest