Unlucky in Love

Has anyone here cursed their luck when it comes to matters of the heart?? i have, i do and god knows i will!! i think i may even succeed learning how to catch a fly using chopsticks before i can even get a guy i like to approach me!! perhaps some1 could advice me on where i am going wrong in this pursuit!! i am kinda old-fashioned in the sense i would not want to be the one who asks a guy out but i do drop more than just subtle hints to guys i fancy!! perhaps these hints are a tad bit too aggressive that they feel intimidated?? i don't know...can someone just advice me on how i should drop hints and whether or not i should change my mind set in asking guys out?

I'm going out on a limb here asking complete strangers advice on dating...so please be kind!!

Hi

Well... i don't know what hints you're dropping but i think i would approach a guy more likely if there was something that cought my eye.

Like him smiling when i look at him, him laughing lovely or maybe him being obviously sad.

At least with girls it always makes me want to go up to them and ask them if they'd like to dance when i see them unhappy.

But i mean... i'm not into girls

I hope this helps you but probably not :trout:

thanx will try smiling next time.....will see if it works or not!!

Wow..

where do I start with this one.. I understand the wanting a man to approach you.. I would prefer a real man and a real man would have (excuse me) balls enough to approach a girl to say something to let a girl know he likes her.. but unfortunately in the real world and worse off the world nowadays.. the guys are in need of some assistance.. here's something that may help. Flirty smiles and expressive looks help but if that isn't enough ... flash him your goods.. JK... don't do that..

see if there is someone you know that he knows.. have them ask how he feels about you.. this is sooo cliche but I found it sometimes works.. if you know he likes you and you like him.. hopefully he has what it takes to ask you out or somthing.. if not just try to talk to him until he does.. if he doesn't .. OMG .. there are actually guys who make it this far.. I guess you made a new friend ..

If you want to do this all on your own.. stick it out with the flirty looks.. do not over do it.. you definitely do not want to seem needy or like soemthing I think you are not.. try to maybe talk to the guy with a little flirty comments.. I am telling you I think the biggest thing you will have an issue with is the ability some men have about being completely clueless.. my goodness, I have seen this too much..

Sorry I may seem like I am bashing here a little but I am not.. I have experience some really dense men regarding friend I know and on occasion myself....

Here's something, when I go dancing .. I am always told by my friends that I go with that no one will ask me and that they found it is better to we ask to dance.. well I never had to ask anyone to dance and in a night I never went without a dance partner for any songs.. so there are men that ask they just need something to ask I guess sometimes..

I hope something here helps.. not sure if I am a very good advisor in this area.

but if that isn't enough ... flash him your goods.. JK... don't do that..

guys only want to sleep with me or the ones that actually persue me are completely not within my taste. i am tainted also because whenever i like a guy he never likes me back, and if he does, it's not for long ...

people will say i am good looking and that they don't understand why i am single. I end up either being single or having a lot of short 'relationships (well actually, just seeing people). I have noticed that i've been like this since my ex from 2005 broke up with me.. i think it's a trust issue, or I just don't think anyone who likes me is good enough and i am not attracted to them physically or emotionally.

it's like how they say in spanish:

the pretty girl wishes she had the luck of the ugly girl.

meaning you wish people could look and judge you on something beyond the way you look.

I don't even think i am that good looking, i'm not that concieted.. don't get me wrong lol... now i am just babbling.

guys only want to sleep with me or the ones that actually persue me are completely not within my taste. i am tainted also because whenever i like a guy he never likes me back, and if he does, it's not for long ...

people will say i am good looking and that they don't understand why i am single. I end up either being single or having a lot of short 'relationships (well actually, just seeing people). I have noticed that i've been like this since my ex from 2005 broke up with me.. i think it's a trust issue, or I just don't think anyone who likes me is good enough and i am not attracted to them physically or emotionally.

it's like how they say in spanish:

the pretty girl wishes she had the luck of the ugly girl.

meaning you wish people could look and judge you on something beyond the way you look.

I don't even think i am that good looking, i'm not that concieted.. don't get me wrong lol... now i am just babbling.

i thinQ i'm overlucky and i am creeped out

Walk around naked.

Walk around naked.

Go ahead and test that one out for us and let us know how that works out Toob...

LOL

Do you have any idea who you're saying that to?

You're talking to the owner of the worlds largest and most powerful yogurt canon.

i thinQ i'm overlucky and i am creeped out

spill some luck over here then!

Do you have any idea who you're saying that to?

You're talking to the owner of the worlds largest and most powerful yogurt canon.

SO you are someone who will run naked quirting your yogurt everywhere?

^ ^

:kiss:

I would say let yourself heal before you try to see someone new..

I would say let yourself heal before you try to see someone new..

i've liked someone (or been stuck rather) for over a year.

Despite the fact that I've had 2 boyfriends at the same time.

I use to see the other guy around all the time and it made it

hard for me to move on or not think of him. We've only messed

around even though he's never deserved anything from me.

I actually think he has a terrible personality and it clashes with

mine so much that (apart from the fact that I am terribly

physically attracted to him) there is something about him that

literally drives me insane. It's like I need to talk to him or I need

to see him whenever it's possible, namely every couple of months.

I figure I'll get over it some day, because no matter how much of an asshole he is or how my friends think i'm crazy for liking him .. it never goes away.

I would say let yourself heal before you try to see someone new..

i've liked someone (or been stuck rather) for over a year.

Despite the fact that I've had 2 boyfriends at the same time.

I use to see the other guy around all the time and it made it

hard for me to move on or not think of him. We've only messed

around even though he's never deserved anything from me.

I actually think he has a terrible personality and it clashes with

mine so much that (apart from the fact that I am terribly

physically attracted to him) there is something about him that

literally drives me insane. It's like I need to talk to him or I need

to see him whenever it's possible, namely every couple of months.

I figure I'll get over it some day, because no matter how much of an asshole he is or how my friends think i'm crazy for liking him .. it never goes away.

I would say let yourself heal before you try to see someone new..

i've liked someone (or been stuck rather) for over a year.

Despite the fact that I've had 2 boyfriends at the same time.

I use to see the other guy around all the time and it made it

hard for me to move on or not think of him. We've only messed

around even though he's never deserved anything from me.

I actually think he has a terrible personality and it clashes with

mine so much that (apart from the fact that I am terribly

physically attracted to him) there is something about him that

literally drives me insane. It's like I need to talk to him or I need

to see him whenever it's possible, namely every couple of months.

I figure I'll get over it some day, because no matter how much of an asshole he is or how my friends think i'm crazy for liking him .. it never goes away.

:shock: How in the world do you juggle this? :|

I would say let yourself heal before you try to see someone new..

i've liked someone (or been stuck rather) for over a year.

Despite the fact that I've had 2 boyfriends at the same time.

I use to see the other guy around all the time and it made it

hard for me to move on or not think of him. We've only messed

around even though he's never deserved anything from me.

I actually think he has a terrible personality and it clashes with

mine so much that (apart from the fact that I am terribly

physically attracted to him) there is something about him that

literally drives me insane. It's like I need to talk to him or I need

to see him whenever it's possible, namely every couple of months.

I figure I'll get over it some day, because no matter how much of an asshole he is or how my friends think i'm crazy for liking him .. it never goes away.

:shock: How in the world do you juggle this? :|

No kidding

Rogue... I will say though.. about the driving you insane part.. you know opposites attract.. they may not allows enhance each other's personalities but they can attract with some serious heat .. not that I have any experience with this.. .. I will say that you may let go of this guy when you do find someone that finally compliments your personality and gives you the same heat. MAYBE..

it's strange. everytime we run into each other we either completely ignore each other or go into this flirtatious hard to get mode where it's like we start from scratch every time we see each other (except we already know each other's names, so we would ask each other that again). It feels like something out of a movie.

thanks for the tip, I've been trying to look for another guy who puts me in the same heat but that I can stand having a conversation with. The times I've sat down and spoken to this guy have completely turned me off, he tries to act cocky all the time and gloats about himself - but the reality it makes me want to throw up knowing that he is actually really unsure and insecure of himself. So I shut him up by messing around with him. It's hard to resist someone who has an amazing body and is an amazing kisser.

We only have really intense physical chemistry, that's about it. One of us always caves in, the game is to see who gives in first.

I can relate to the physical chemistry .. it is sort of the heat I was mentioning.. and yes when you have little in common and less of the same goals and such, the conversation can be quite painful which only leaves you with alternative.. the chemistry. As nice as that chemistry feels good in the end we ned a full package. I hope you find the right person for you.