Unlucky in Love

i'm the unlukiest guy in this stuff i think still into the same girl after 4 years (unshared love)

so time will show what will come out of it

it's been 2 years since i've been able to fall in love with someone. i only fall in lust. every guy i meet is inadequate.

i feel like i'm incapable at falling in love with someone :|

it's always like a short term crush.

and then i'm like: do i want this? don't i?

and then i broke up with him. crushed him out of nowhere. <_<

and i'm scared i might do the same thing with the next one, now. since i'm not sure if i want him.

i use to be the same way until i look back and realized I fell in and out of love with someone... and I haven't felt the same way about anyone since.

Don't ask yourself if u want the person or not until you feel like breaking up with the guy. Maybe you should try not to focus on that aspect so much and try to just take things as they come. In reality, you don't have to love someone to be with them - you just need to get comfortable and be entertained. Kind of like having a good show on tv and sitting comfortably while watching it... then you don't want to move...

sounds reasonable...

Well, for me...after I had love for a considerable amount of time, being loved became, psychologically, the "new normal" and life was awful right after it was over. But after the recovery, needing romantic love and having unrealistic expectations of "heaven on earth" was no longer a significant factor in my mental model. I love when I am given the opportunity to do so. And I love and dedicate myself the best I can and fully enjoy the opportunity to do so. I do the best I can for the person I love. When I don't have this opportunity, I channel "the Love" into other productive tasks. Life is fleeting..too little time to be upset over gibberish.

I left my girlfriend for a silly guy, I regret it so much

Not any more, fingers crossed :brows:

looking at my old post, realizing that I haven't changed. I fall in and out of infatuation and call it love - but I know it's not.. because otherwise, it wouldn't be so easy to fall out of, right?

It depends on your definition of what "love" Truly is, it varies from person to person.

Infatuation to me is just you like the person and think about them, but have no real deep care and meaning towards them other then some little crush.

Love for me is when you're so connected to that person they're a part of you and you'd do anything to keep them in your life, and do anything for them.

But that's just my take, it could be that your definitions are different, but

same definitions - totally not in love, never have been either because I've been able to get over ppl so quick

You must have a really good rebound guy stashed away somewhere

When it comes to getting women in New York City, it's not complicated at all if you base your appeal on these four simple words a Cajun tourist once told me:

DEY WANT DAT MONEY!!! :voodoo:

If you got nothing better to offer.

If you got nothing better to offer.

Well...I guess a guy can get lucky. Heck, the title of this thread even mentions luck! Who knows?

did someone say ... MONEY

I met my very 1st girlfriend one day after my 31st birthday, beat that you so called unlucky ones

I have been in love one time and he cheated many times. I finally ended it a year and a half later. So I have been very unlucky

I'm alone, pushing 40 and broke. My modest success with women seems long gone. Looks bad for the Apple. (N)

but at least you had some modest success, my success has been zero for most of my life until 4 months ago.

I have been in love many times, but either the girls did not care about me or the had a boyfriend already.

The girl I was in love with before I finally found my girlfriend seemed as if she did not know if to say yes, at least for a very short time.

And I was madly in love, love like have never known it before, love at first sight, wholeheartedly and unconditionally.

It seemed to me as if all heavens were wrong if this time it should not work again, of course it did not work again. So in the end it was a love that made me hurt, because she was whoring around and I was in hell for years. Making me lose all hope and all faith.

I am in the wrong country for love... because my one and only girlfriend I met on the other side of the world (almost),

but I still would not know if I had never travelled there.