The Anti-Relationship Thread

Because she simply isn't mature enough for a real man.

Just a lot of things have been going on and I feel like I'm just being used.

Wait, is this the Anti-relationship thread or the Relationship Resolution thread?

A bit of both

It's mostly just Toobs though

It's the Anti-Effin-Relationship thread dammit.

Women just like to fuck with our minds little bros. It's when they discover we have feelings they like to play with them like little toys.

When you ever want to break off because you can't take the pain anymore, YOU are the asshole because YOU won't let THEM play with your poor little heart... which they aren't even sure they want. What the hell is that deal little bros?

TooBoku likes 5'5" brunettes with olive eyes, a lean figure, and larger than average boobs that are smart, assertive, but can still roll with the punches and have a good time.

Toobs, you described me! No, seriously. I figured it out. You're just waiting for me to become single.

Don't worry, doll, you'll find your dream girl.

No No No No No No No.

There's this girl that i hadn't talked to for 3-4 years, that i started talking to again after all this time. She's very pretty, and lives on the other side of the country now <_<. And once again like a dumby, i'm starting to fall for a girl I that i don't know everything about her i should know. Anytime i let my mind go free for about 5 minutes, she pops into my head, and i repress my thoughts of her back into the depths of my mind. The worst part for me is, she said she might be moving back here then i'll really never stop thinking about her. I myself don't want to fall for her, but my body and mind want to. I've done this too many times already, and I always end up leaving myself vulnerable and getting hurt, and i really don't want this to happen again.

It's nothing against her, no no no. She's very pretty, single, smart, funny, and has a baby. Like i said before, i don't know everything I should know about her, to even start thinking of wanting to be in realationship with her. And I know if she moves back here, like Toobs offered with his girl, i'm going to offer to help her move in, and she'll probably say i don't have to help, but i'll tell her that I should so she can take care of her baby and not worry about everything else. Then i'll end up falling for her, and trying to see her every day or something like that it's just how i am. And knowing how my life goes, she'll feel nothing in return, eventually getting a new guy in her life or telling me she has no feelings, in which i'll either go bonkers on her and we'll never talk again or I'll get really really unhappy again, and she might still want to be friends, and she'll never know how I feel about her, cause i'm too shy to say anything.

I hate feelings, and i hate people.

She has a baby :| I think that's all you need to know lol

Yeah dude, don't get yourself messed up with that.

Ya she does have a baby. And the woman i can't stop thinking about is also older then me by 2 years. She's 20, and i'm 18(in 3 days) and besides that I love kids. Still, i can't stop thinking about her now, though i know i shouldn't. And it really doesn't bother me that she has a baby, I don't really see the big deal if she has a baby. And i really don't care that she has a baby, why should that stand in the way of anything?

Hello, it was supposed to be The Anti-Relationship thread, right?

Well you said it yourself... you're 18... just barely an adult. She's 20, still young herself but she also has a baby.

If you want to screw up the prime years in your life getting involved with someone with a child then I dunno.

#1 - Maintaining this relationship doesn't only involve you with her personally, but the child too. Don't even think about it if you're not prepared to deal with all that. If you're thinking serious, you're not just dating the girl, you're dating all aspects of her life.

#2 - You have your own future to take care of. Your decisions in the next few years will have a heavy impact on what happens to you years and years after. If you plan on going post-secondary and there's babies involved, you're in for enough difficulties to make you seriously question if things are worth it.

#3 - Not that theres anything wrong with you. You're an awesome guy but she probably isn't that into you. Damaged goods.

TooBoku likes 5'5" brunettes with olive eyes, a lean figure, and larger than average boobs that are smart, assertive, but can still roll with the punches and have a good time.

Toobs, you described me! No, seriously. I figured it out. You're just waiting for me to become single.

Don't worry, doll, you'll find your dream girl.

One day H, one day.

Haha seriously, I have the worst timing in the world. Why can't women ever come when I'm ready? Yesterday I went downtown with some friends to get my mind off this girl for a while and there, right beside me on the streetcar. Dammit. Exactally as described. 5'4" version of Summer Glau/Devon Aoki with sandy brown hair and a perfect tan... and I was trying to muster up the balls to talk to her but I couldn't. Not that I was too shy or anything but my mind wouldn't leave my complication and how much it would hurt me if she went around doing the same. I gotta stop thinking so much dammit.

Ya she does have a baby. And the woman i can't stop thinking about is also older then me by 2 years. She's 20, and i'm 18(in 3 days) and besides that I love kids. Still, i can't stop thinking about her now, though i know i shouldn't. And it really doesn't bother me that she has a baby, I don't really see the big deal if she has a baby. And i really don't care that she has a baby, why should that stand in the way of anything?

Limer, as someone who is 6 years older than you and who has dated a guy with not one, but TWO kids, I'll give you some advice. STAY AWAY.

When I was 20 years old, I met a nice guy who I liked at the gym. He told me on our first date about his year and a half year old son. I, like you, absolutely love children, so this didn't bother me. Plus we were just dating so I didn't really want to miss out on a potentially great guy just because he had a son.

Well, three months later we're still dating and he confesses to me that the mother of his first child also has a second child with whom he thinks he might be the father of. He claimed that he didn't believe the baby was his and that his ex-girlfriend had slept with someone else. I really didn't appreciate the lie, but I stuck with him (I was a moron). He ended up doing a paternity test and it was proved he was the father of the second baby. This was not the last lie he would tell me.

I absolutely LOVED his two sons. They were very little and I immediately assumed the maternal role whenever my boyfriend had the boys over. I loved caring for them, feeding them, bathing them. It was wonderful. However, my boyfriend was not wonderful. He was controlling, mentally and emotionally abusive, and borderline physically abusive (he slapped me across the face with a stack of mail he had in his hand ... I was out of the relationship shortly after that incident).

Anyway. I stayed with him as long as I did because I loved those little boys as if they were my own. I played with them, put them down for naps, and just adored them. But I had to leave because this guy was absolutely toxic. There was a lot of other stuff that went on with him, but it doesn't matter now. I was not healthy being with him

Just be really careful when children are involved. I stayed in a bad relationship because I loved those little boys. I would hate other people to do the same and waste a year of their life with the wrong person. You are young. You need to enjoy your freedom. You have your whole adult life to worry about children later. If you love kids so much, find relatives or co-workers who have kids that you wouldn't mind babysitting for. I am always offering to babysit for my co-worker's 14-month old daughter. And at least at the end of the night you get to give them back.

I think the point of my little rant/ whatever you wanna call it, is being wrongly diverted to the baby, though as has been shown to me that seems to be a big issue.

I DO NOT, want to fall for this girl. Not because of the baby (again i know ) but for the purpose of she's another woman that I don't know enough about to have feelings for, yet I'm having feelings towards her. I know enough about her on the surface to get a good feeling of who she is, and she is very attractive, but I don't know her full personality yet, which I should know before even thinking about anything. She seems like a very nice person, easy to talk to, the sense of humor I like, yet like i said, I just don't know too much deeper about her then that. And i know if i fall for her, I'm either gonna say/do something stupid, and we'll never talk again, or I will leave myself open to a world of hurt which has happened too many times already for my liking. Unfortunately for me, i take even the simplest things way too hard and personally. Gah, I hate feelings.

Well you said it yourself... you're 18... just barely an adult. She's 20, still young herself but she also has a baby.

If you want to screw up the prime years in your life getting involved with someone with a child then I dunno.

#1 - Maintaining this relationship doesn't only involve you with her personally, but the child too. Don't even think about it if you're not prepared to deal with all that. If you're thinking serious, you're not just dating the girl, you're dating all aspects of her life.

#2 - You have your own future to take care of. Your decisions in the next few years will have a heavy impact on what happens to you years and years after. If you plan on going post-secondary and there's babies involved, you're in for enough difficulties to make you seriously question if things are worth it.

#3 - Not that theres anything wrong with you. You're an awesome guy but she probably isn't that into you. Damaged goods.

Damaged goods? Oh, please do explain Toobs, as I don't think i know exactly what you mean.

^ I think what Toobs meant by "damaged goods" is that she's already had a baby with someone else, she has baggage. With a baby comes the father of the baby and trust me, there will always be drama when the father (or mother) of the baby is involved. Do you really want to get with someone who already created life with someone else? Probably not, at least not at 18.

I think the point of my little rant/ whatever you wanna call it, is being wrongly diverted to the baby, though as has been shown to me that seems to be a big issue.

I DO NOT, want to fall for this girl. Not because of the baby (again i know ) but for the purpose of she's another woman that I don't know enough about to have feelings for, yet I'm having feelings towards her. I know enough about her on the surface to get a good feeling of who she is, and she is very attractive, but I don't know her full personality yet, which I should know before even thinking about anything. She seems like a very nice person, easy to talk to, the sense of humor I like, yet like i said, I just don't know too much deeper about her then that. And i know if i fall for her, I'm either gonna say/do something stupid, and we'll never talk again, or I will leave myself open to a world of hurt which has happened too many times already for my liking. Unfortunately for me, i take even the simplest things way too hard and personally. Gah, I hate feelings.

If you knew her full personality, she'd be pretty shallow.

Anti-relationship thread?

And Toobs.. everyone who has ever had a relationship and chose to move on can be considered "damaged goods" from the baggage that is added and the pieces of them that maybe left with the relationship..

I wish more girls would chose wiser with who they have children with. If chosen a little more wise perhaps there would be less singles parents.. IDK

Anyway, where is the anti-relationship thread?

good post az! die relationships!

limer, stop pondering about whether you can start a relationship with this girl and start thinking of ways to start an anti-relationship!

good post az! die relationships!

limer, stop pondering about whether you can start a relationship with this girl and start thinking of ways to start an anti-relationship!

easy on the poor guy .. for someone in his situation it is common to ponder on getting the relationship society has told him he needs to find.

You know what is interesting. I have found that people who stay single for long periods of time are the ones who think too much.. maybe all his ponding is making his life an anti-realationship life .. IDK

Anyway, relationships can be so over rated sometimes; I agree. But it does depend on which kind of relationship we are talking about :brows: to completely kill them all .. ;D