PinkCouture
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A child molester? Ergh. What happened to him??Did they have any reasons to do so?
or is it pure dread from something they are not used to? We do not have much black people here... but we have issues with Romans (gypsies) that are living in the outskirts of villages and cities - in a close society that is called "osada". They are very inadaptable, lazy and generally there is very high criminal level in their surrounding. It´s a long story... but this is the main reason why people here are very insecure when it comes to gypsies
I don´t know if you have such problems... the only experience I had with black people were always great. Not that I have met many of them
but those I did were lovely. Once I met a guy called Warry (I do not know how to spell his name, it´s pronounced like uary), a black man from France. Damn was he a linguist... he spoke French (naturally), English, Spanish, Italian, and two African dialects and God knows which else
his parents were from Africa. He helped me to get rid of my block (I couldn´t speak English!!) and since then I have no problem speak it anywhere and anytime
One of the kids he molested told her parents. They called the police to investigate and the police found enough evidence to arrest him. There were news trucks everywhere. One of the most exciting event in the neighborhood.
I live in a predominant white, middle-class neighborhood w/ a mix of Asians and Middle Easterns. We don't have many Black people living around here so it made people feel uncomfortable. Mainly microagressions. Personally I don't have issues w/ Black people. We are all humans 
When you mentioned gypsies I can't help but to think of the Irish Travelers. Sorry 
Thank youI'm pretty well
Good to hear What have you been up to these days?
Really, i've heard otherwise. So thats interesting to hearI was told the chinese can be quite stubborn in that area
Some can be pretty stubborn, but when it comes down to it if they want to make money they need to put their pride and stubbornness aside. If you prefer not to visit mainland China, you can visit HK. They have no issues speaking English there
On a slightly different note, I know this American girl who worked in HK for 3 years and barely learned a word of Chinese. Very odd!!!
And pink, I've never lived in a high crime area and have never fully understood the fascination with home defense and firearms among some Americans. I had an oldster gloat to me about his weapons, and I couldn't help but wonder if it was, in fact, born out of genuine need or rather some vague sense of pessimistic paranoia...:-D
Definitely a vague sense of pessimistic paranoia. It gives some people an illusion of control and safety 
Really, i've heard otherwise. So thats interesting to hearI was told the chinese can be quite stubborn in that area
Some can be pretty stubborn, but when it comes down to it if they want to make money they need to put their pride and stubbornness aside. If you prefer not to visit mainland China, you can visit HK. They have no issues speaking English there
On a slightly different note, I know this American girl who worked in HK for 3 years and barely learned a word of Chinese. Very odd!!!
Yeah that is odd. Hard language mind 
My orgional plan was to go from HK to Beijing. Maybe another time
I know what you mean by it getting hard to find people our age that are still single. Most of them are either taken, engaged, or married w/ children
I haven't. Based on the lack of success of some of the friends I know who have tried, I'm not sure I want to.
Thank youI'm pretty well
Good to hear
Eh, not a whole lot really. Plenty busy with work though <_<
What about yourself?
One of the kids he molested told her parents. They called the police to investigate and the police found enough evidence to arrest him. There were news trucks everywhere. One of the most exciting event in the neighborhood.I live in a predominant white, middle-class neighborhood w/ a mix of Asians and Middle Easterns. We don't have many Black people living around here so it made people feel uncomfortable. Mainly microagressions. Personally I don't have issues w/ Black people. We are all humans
When you mentioned gypsies I can't help but to think of the Irish Travelers. Sorry
I know people love a good street theathre. But glad he got arrested finally.
Yes, we are. I don´t think about colour of human, rather about his culture... because that´s what makes us different. It doesn´t matter if you´re white and been born in Africa and raised in their culture - just like a black man born and raised in Slovakia would be a Slovak with our culture. So the colour really doesn´t matter - it´s the culture that makes difference. The differences can get so huge that people either misunderstand or fear the others... culture, religions. Instead of actually trying to understand and enjoy the cultures of others, some try to persuade them to have another culture, be different than what they used to be for their whole lives... we should learn from each other and respect each other, and not fear or supress everything different.
Irish Travelers? Tell me more
It's been that way since 1860. I believe that the last relatively 'self-sufficient' communities were atomized farm/land owners (pre-industrial revolution). Then the 'free market' of price action was displaced by the visible hand of planning, organization, and management. There are small business owners that do a multitude of tasks, but they are, in the aggregate, economically insignificant.Specialization is strongly the case in technical employment, engineering, and scientific work of an advanced economy. The risk of innovation or cheap, high quality overseas labor (particularly Russian and Chinese) unexpectedly displacing one's job function is always there. I am a generalist in my practice so I'm not as vulnerable as others.
People are not that "specialized" here, it´s mostly the other way round - one man doing dozen things, especially when employers don´t want to employ too much people, so you have to be handy in many things actually... and people in villages are mostly very self-sufficient when it goes to food. Not in cities, though.
I like the access to information, but the other part of me would prefer if my country had a more balanced economy- industrial & service. I'd gladly supply taxes and higher payments for goods and services in order to subsidize productive technological/ industrial policies.
I´d love people to be less vulnerable and more nature connected we´re creating our own decay, if you ask me.
----I think Pink is joking a little but the very poor and beggars in New York City are overwhelmingly black. Blacks tend to be lower on the socioeconomic scale but overall, I am uncomfortable with classifications..since ghosts of the past have a play in all things. And one could raise the bar and be a true hierarchical elitist, and insult the bottom 95% of Europeans & Americans for being mouth-breathers, expendable Wage-Labor & petite capitalists (at best) that never achieve self-actualization...
Why are the poor and beggars overwhelmingly black? You told me USA is the country with no racism (or the lowest racism level) - I guess it´s much more complicated...
People are not that "specialized" here, it´s mostly the other way round - one man doing dozen things, especially when employers don´t want to employ too much people, so you have to be handy in many things actually... and people in villages are mostly very self-sufficient when it goes to food. Not in cities, though.
There has been a corporate 'war' to continuously initiate business process redesign and productivity improvements for the last thirty years. It's a continuous job killer as more and more older type jobs become less and less value-added. The 'creative' part of the 'creative-destruction' process of economic development has not kept pace with manpower reductions. Nevertheless, one of the problems widely reported and widely experienced here, regardless of the higher than normal unemployment level, is finding sufficient people with the right deep, specialized skills.
I´d love people to be less vulnerable and more nature connectedWhy are the poor and beggars overwhelmingly black? You told me USA is the country with no racism (or the lowest racism level) - I guess it´s much more complicated...
I said in the NorthEast, which are blue states. Children that attend American public schools are taught by the liberal American school system.. liberal ethics. Overall, the modern liberal establishment is our Big Brother. It is right wing economics + left wing sociology and guides 'social' beliefs. A frequent TV- news & talk show watcher would undoubtedly fit the profile of a mainstream Democrat. Anti-racism, fairness, social justice, etc. are strongly emphasized. If anything, I see the existence of 'Racism' as being exaggerated by race-oriented interests or when liberal/foreign politicians attack Republicans & Red State Americans.
I don't see 'Racism' as a huge problem as it was before Civil Rights struggle because most of the problems today are pretty much culture-inflicted or caused by poor job structure. The manufacturing age + the labor shortage + Union power pre-1970 gave living wages and a lower-middle class lifestyle for even the bottom tier of workers. The right wing, anti-industrial economics of Reagan, Clinton (particularly), and Bush II eras have contributed to the decay and imbalance of employment opportunities with policies that accelerated the dramatic decay of unions and the industrial sector.
Just the other day a city politician fought to increase the minimum wage in New York City from $7.25 /hr to $8.50/hr. That's nice and all, but for the very many that work at that level they're still poor.
Most African-Americans are integrated into American society and economy & are reasonably successful there. But there is the 20% or so that have not fully adapted to the necessities of modern life. Ideologues like Reverend Al Sharpton service them. I've ridden the New York subways & rail thousands of times for over a decade and the overwhelming impression I have of poor blacks is that they have cultures, some scholars would claim,that developed as a refuse from slavery, Johnson's War on Poverty and HUD administration. These paradigm shifts re-enforced, re-created, and sustained those very habits.
Likewise, one could easy raise the bar, and condemn, as I have seen people do..that middle class born Europeans and Americans are second rate 'mouth breathers' (that live too soft, too easy, no entrepreneurial spirit, mere aspiring 'time-servers', self-entitled & worthless....) with insufficient mathematical capability, work ethic, and technical skills compared to the top- quality (and fanatical) labor that is produced in India and Russia. So, from their standpoint, the majority of these populations are obsolete or are approaching obsolescence.
And one could say that the upper classes have totally betrayed true liberalism and the Progressive spirit.
As for corporate opportunities, there is a 'diversity' movement that has been in place since the Clinton era...and in many companies...essentially enforcing rules that a certain % of general managers, executives, and directors cannot be all 'rich white men'. I think that corporate leadership, thus power, in the financial and non-financial sectors are reasonably diverse at this time. And the corporate and financial world is much less an 'old white boys club' than it was in say, 1920.
Really, i've heard otherwise. So thats interesting to hearI was told the chinese can be quite stubborn in that area
Some can be pretty stubborn, but when it comes down to it if they want to make money they need to put their pride and stubbornness aside. If you prefer not to visit mainland China, you can visit HK. They have no issues speaking English there
On a slightly different note, I know this American girl who worked in HK for 3 years and barely learned a word of Chinese. Very odd!!!
Yeah that is odd. Hard language mind
The girl I was a talking about took 2 years of Japanese in school. Another bizarre thing was her Japanese actually improved after working in HK 
It is indeed a challenging language to learn b/c there isn't an alphabet. However once you get the hang of it , it is like second nature.
When & where do you plan to go on holiday next?
I know what you mean by it getting hard to find people our age that are still single. Most of them are either taken, engaged, or married w/ childrenI haven't. Based on the lack of success of some of the friends I know who have tried, I'm not sure I want to.
This dating thing can be quite nerve-wracking. It is so difficult to find the mutual connection & chemistry. We are still technically young so we got time 
Eh, not a whole lot really. Plenty busy with work though <_<What about yourself?
What do yo do for work?
I have been busy with work and dealing w/ some personal stuff. Same shit different day.
I might be coming down w/ the flu. It really sucks b/c I got a flu shot a few months ago
I know people love a good street theathre. But glad he got arrested finally.Yes, we are. I don´t think about colour of human, rather about his culture... because that´s what makes us different. It doesn´t matter if you´re white and been born in Africa and raised in their culture - just like a black man born and raised in Slovakia would be a Slovak with our culture. So the colour really doesn´t matter - it´s the culture that makes difference. The differences can get so huge that people either misunderstand or fear the others... culture, religions. Instead of actually trying to understand and enjoy the cultures of others, some try to persuade them to have another culture, be different than what they used to be for their whole lives... we should learn from each other and respect each other, and not fear or supress everything different.
Irish Travelers? Tell me more
I think people who have lived sheltered lives are uncomfortable with diversity b/c it is not something they are familiar with. They automatically become defensive, hypervigilant, and protective. This clouds some of their logic and ability to access situations fairly.
As for the Irish Travelers: http://www.bellazon.com/main/index.php?s=&...t&p=2719969 Like I said, IRONY!
Why are the poor and beggars overwhelmingly black? You told me USA is the country with no racism (or the lowest racism level) - I guess it´s much more complicated...
I said in the NorthEast, which are blue states. Children that attend American public schools are taught by the liberal American school system.. liberal ethics. Overall, the modern liberal establishment is our Big Brother. It is right wing economics + left wing sociology and guides 'social' beliefs. A frequent TV- news & talk show watcher would undoubtedly fit the profile of a mainstream Democrat. Anti-racism, fairness, social justice, etc. are strongly emphasized. If anything, I see the existence of 'Racism' as being exaggerated by race-oriented interests or when liberal/foreign politicians attack Republicans & Red State Americans.I don't see 'Racism' as a huge problem as it was before Civil Rights struggle because most of the problems today are pretty much culture-inflicted or caused by poor job structure. The manufacturing age + the labor shortage + Union power pre-1970 gave living wages and a lower-middle class lifestyle for even the bottom tier of workers. The right wing, anti-industrial economics of Reagan, Clinton (particularly), and Bush II eras have contributed to the decay and imbalance of employment opportunities with policies that accelerated the dramatic decay of unions and the industrial sector.
Just the other day a city politician fought to increase the minimum wage in New York City from $7.25 /hr to $8.50/hr. That's nice and all, but for the very many that work at that level they're still poor.
Most African-Americans are integrated into American society and economy & are reasonably successful there. But there is the 20% or so that have not fully adapted to the necessities of modern life. Ideologues like Reverend Al Sharpton service them. I've ridden the New York subways & rail thousands of times for over a decade and the overwhelming impression I have of poor blacks is that they have cultures, some scholars would claim,that developed as a refuse from slavery, Johnson's War on Poverty and HUD administration. These paradigm shifts re-enforced, re-created, and sustained those very habits.
Likewise, one could easy raise the bar, and condemn, as I have seen people do..that middle class born Europeans and Americans are second rate 'mouth breathers' (that live too soft, too easy, no entrepreneurial spirit, mere aspiring 'time-servers', self-entitled & worthless....) with insufficient mathematical capability, work ethic, and technical skills compared to the top- quality (and fanatical) labor that is produced in India and Russia. So, from their standpoint, the majority of these populations are obsolete or are approaching obsolescence.
And one could say that the upper classes have totally betrayed true liberalism and the Progressive spirit.
As for corporate opportunities, there is a 'diversity' movement that has been in place since the Clinton era...and in many companies...essentially enforcing rules that a certain % of general managers, executives, and directors cannot be all 'rich white men'. I think that corporate leadership, thus power, in the financial and non-financial sectors are reasonably diverse at this time. And the corporate and financial world is much less an 'old white boys club' than it was in say, 1920.
I am going to make some general comments regarding racism b/c it is a complex and lengthy topic with many layers. Although people in general are more accepting of those who are of racially different, racism still very much exist. Now instead of being blatant, people are subtly behaving in racist ways. Sometimes it is conscious, sometimes it is not, but the point they still do and say things that are racist. It is more in a form of microagression. Here is a video for anyone who is interested:
So Jennka, USA is NOT the country with no racism, and yes it is complicated. Americans like to tell themselves they are not racist b/c it is a stigma. In reality many of us are suppressed racists.
Another thing I want to say is, racism (or any type of prejudice) is different for different groups. Racism towards an Asian person looks and feels different than racism towards a Hispanic person. It is frustrating to lump racism into one huge group assuming it is the same for everyone. I am sure the experiences and certain feelings are similar, but what it looks like in action is often different.
Now to give perspective on Jennka's question: "Why are the poor and beggars overwhelmingly black?" Minorities in general don't always get the same opportunities, benefits and resources as the majority. And when they do receive opportunities, benefits and resources it is often limited ("glass ceiling", "glass elevator"). As much as I don't want to say it but it is true, we live in a White Male dominated society. If you are not a White Male, you would have some challenges (degrees varying).
There is essay, "White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Backpack," explain thinsg pretty well: https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=ca...Z358VatQ3ZMiJYw
I don't think we can ever live in a society that is free of prejudice/racism. However I do think it is possible to be more aware of own prejudices by acknowledging & accepting them. Once we are aware & willing to accept them we can better deal with them appropriately and start to think in more logical and flexible ways
I know what you mean by it getting hard to find people our age that are still single. Most of them are either taken, engaged, or married w/ childrenI haven't. Based on the lack of success of some of the friends I know who have tried, I'm not sure I want to.
This dating thing can be quite nerve-wracking. It is so difficult to find the mutual connection & chemistry. We are still technically young so we got time
I suppose we do!
The thing that is different for me is that I rarely meet anyone I'm attracted to. Or at least attracted enough to give it a go... 
Why are the poor and beggars overwhelmingly black? You told me USA is the country with no racism (or the lowest racism level) - I guess it´s much more complicated...I said in the NorthEast, which are blue states. Children that attend American public schools are taught by the liberal American school system.. liberal ethics. Overall, the modern liberal establishment is our Big Brother. It is right wing economics + left wing sociology and guides 'social' beliefs. A frequent TV- news & talk show watcher would undoubtedly fit the profile of a mainstream Democrat. Anti-racism, fairness, social justice, etc. are strongly emphasized. If anything, I see the existence of 'Racism' as being exaggerated by race-oriented interests or when liberal/foreign politicians attack Republicans & Red State Americans.I don't see 'Racism' as a huge problem as it was before Civil Rights struggle because most of the problems today are pretty much culture-inflicted or caused by poor job structure. The manufacturing age + the labor shortage + Union power pre-1970 gave living wages and a lower-middle class lifestyle for even the bottom tier of workers. The right wing, anti-industrial economics of Reagan, Clinton (particularly), and Bush II eras have contributed to the decay and imbalance of employment opportunities with policies that accelerated the dramatic decay of unions and the industrial sector.
Just the other day a city politician fought to increase the minimum wage in New York City from $7.25 /hr to $8.50/hr. That's nice and all, but for the very many that work at that level they're still poor.
Most African-Americans are integrated into American society and economy & are reasonably successful there. But there is the 20% or so that have not fully adapted to the necessities of modern life. Ideologues like Reverend Al Sharpton service them. I've ridden the New York subways & rail thousands of times for over a decade and the overwhelming impression I have of poor blacks is that they have cultures, some scholars would claim,that developed as a refuse from slavery, Johnson's War on Poverty and HUD administration. These paradigm shifts re-enforced, re-created, and sustained those very habits.
Likewise, one could easy raise the bar, and condemn, as I have seen people do..that middle class born Europeans and Americans are second rate 'mouth breathers' (that live too soft, too easy, no entrepreneurial spirit, mere aspiring 'time-servers', self-entitled & worthless....) with insufficient mathematical capability, work ethic, and technical skills compared to the top- quality (and fanatical) labor that is produced in India and Russia. So, from their standpoint, the majority of these populations are obsolete or are approaching obsolescence.
And one could say that the upper classes have totally betrayed true liberalism and the Progressive spirit.
As for corporate opportunities, there is a 'diversity' movement that has been in place since the Clinton era...and in many companies...essentially enforcing rules that a certain % of general managers, executives, and directors cannot be all 'rich white men'. I think that corporate leadership, thus power, in the financial and non-financial sectors are reasonably diverse at this time. And the corporate and financial world is much less an 'old white boys club' than it was in say, 1920.
I am going to make some general comments regarding racism b/c it is a complex and lengthy topic with many layers. Although people in general are more accepting of those who are of racially different, racism still very much exist. Now instead of being blatant, people are subtly behaving in racist ways. Sometimes it is conscious, sometimes it is not, but the point they still do and say things that are racist. It is more in a form of microagression. Here is a video for anyone who is interested:
So Jennka, USA is NOT the country with no racism, and yes it is complicated. Americans like to tell themselves they are not racist b/c it is a stigma. In reality many of us are suppressed racists.
Another thing I want to say is, racism (or any type of prejudice) is different for different groups. Racism towards an Asian person looks and feels different than racism towards a Hispanic person. It is frustrating to lump racism into one huge group assuming it is the same for everyone. I am sure the experiences and certain feelings are similar, but what it looks like in action is often different.
Now to give perspective on Jennka's question: "Why are the poor and beggars overwhelmingly black?" Minorities in general don't always get the same opportunities, benefits and resources as the majority. And when they do receive opportunities, benefits and resources it is often limited ("glass ceiling", "glass elevator"). As much as I don't want to say it but it is true, we live in a White Male dominated society. If you are not a White Male, you would have some challenges (degrees varying).
There is essay, "White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Backpack," explain thinsg pretty well: https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=ca...Z358VatQ3ZMiJYw
I don't think we can ever live in a society that is free of prejudice/racism. However I do think it is possible to be more aware of own prejudices by acknowledging & accepting them. Once we are aware & willing to accept them we can better deal with them appropriately and start to think in more logical and flexible ways
I´m just so confused now... need to think this through.
But I agree, that the racism is different for different groups - I´ve seen this myself several times and heard it from many friends.
The next thing - maybe I´m lucky, but so far I´ve never experienced this "white male dominated society" - ok, I´ve heard many people talk about it, but those were mostly women who could never do better than just complain about everything and say how things can´t be done instead of how they could be done, or lazy women who just complained to excuse their own incapability to do better, or some gypsies / Romes like to shout it into the television but when you give them work, they either steal or not go at all (and lately say things like "he wanted me to wake up early in the morning!!" and such insanities) becasue it´s better for them to use the social system, not work and still do better than most of the low class working people.
Maybe I just don´t notice these things, dunno. I know many people who made it from the poor (and even gypsies) to the high class society and really good job, so I think when one wants something and works really hard, anything is possible. I know... you may call me silly. I´m not rich, never attended to be, and I´m satisfied this way, and I know many (other 
) people who are middle class or lower classes and are happy that way and would not change it ever.
I guess it´s just about perception, dreams, will, and hard work - but I do not deny the existence of racism, of course. It´s just too much complex theme, complicated in one way, easy in the other. I thank you both for these deep explanations... I have to think about it a little bit.
Real problems are job market structures, and other economy related issues.
I largely think that in New York Metro, 'racism' is a very exaggerated, tired 'problem', Pink, a lame excuse for personal failure, a refuge of liberal college education,sociology courses, literature writers, and reading the New York Times, Harpers, & New Yorker. No amount of government intervention or literature writing will change that. It's exaggerated. It doesn't match what I have seen in the real world. This is however, a white dominated country by a white majority. which is expected. Indeed, it was not so progressive thirty years ago.
On average, Asian-Americans (including Indians) make more money than most whites, btw. So do foreign nationals that come here through the brain-drain. Now, there is a talk of a 'glass ceiling' for women, and 'bamboo ceiling' for Asians in big corporations, and even a cottage industry of executive career consultants that help them win internal politics against the old white men that have been rotating around C-suites for the last ten years of their career. Wait twenty years, and the dead will rotate out of the cycle.
I am going to make some general comments regarding racism b/c it is a complex and lengthy topic with many layers. Although people in general are more accepting of those who are of racially different, racism still very much exist. Now instead of being blatant, people are subtly behaving in racist ways. Sometimes it is conscious, sometimes it is not, but the point they still do and say things that are racist. It is more in a form of microagression. Here is a video for anyone who is interested:So Jennka, USA is NOT the country with no racism, and yes it is complicated. Americans like to tell themselves they are not racist b/c it is a stigma. In reality many of us are suppressed racists.
Another thing I want to say is, racism (or any type of prejudice) is different for different groups. Racism towards an Asian person looks and feels different than racism towards a Hispanic person. It is frustrating to lump racism into one huge group assuming it is the same for everyone. I am sure the experiences and certain feelings are similar, but what it looks like in action is often different.
All humans are a mass of biases, some more than others. I don't even think 'Race' anywhere approaches the unfair vitriol one would produce against an ugly, physically awkward, or overweight person.
I don't think we can ever live in a society that is free of prejudice/racism. However I do think it is possible to be more aware of own prejudices by acknowledging & accepting them. Once we are aware & willing to accept them we can better deal with them appropriately and start to think in more logical and flexible ways
And one could stop using 'Race' as an excuse for oneself...and realize that there's no such thing as 100% cosmic justice, equality, or fairness in this world. And that women and minorities have made enormous strides over the last thirty years, mostly out of their own merit and P & L contribution. There are better excuses than 'Race'.
Really, i've heard otherwise. So thats interesting to hearI was told the chinese can be quite stubborn in that area
Some can be pretty stubborn, but when it comes down to it if they want to make money they need to put their pride and stubbornness aside. If you prefer not to visit mainland China, you can visit HK. They have no issues speaking English there
On a slightly different note, I know this American girl who worked in HK for 3 years and barely learned a word of Chinese. Very odd!!!
Yeah that is odd. Hard language mind
The girl I was a talking about took 2 years of Japanese in school. Another bizarre thing was her Japanese actually improved after working in HK
It is indeed a challenging language to learn b/c there isn't an alphabet. However once you get the hang of it , it is like second nature.
When & where do you plan to go on holiday next?
It's funny you should ask that. Just this morning i was speaking to a german girl that i met in Bali. Only spent about 3 days together. But since we've been back we have always flirted with idea of going traveling together in a sorta dream esque way Anyway today she was like wanna come along with me this summer, we might do India. And i am kinda considering it. In the mean time i might do a teaching course, maybe i can work out there for a bit. Certainly more chance working there then here Although i do have a wedding to attend to in the summer ( not my own that be funny...saying i do then fucking off with a german girl stright afterwards ) So who knows what will happen
I suppose we do!The thing that is different for me is that I rarely meet anyone I'm attracted to. Or at least attracted enough to give it a go...
LOL...I feel totally the same way! I am not anything close to being a babe but I want a guy who is semi-decent looking, fit, well-groomed and not messy. I feel like such a hypocrite at times