PinkCouture

Ughhh agreed pink. I mean one thing if you date supermodels......its just the way he conducts himself. Very ungentlmen like and obnoxious in every interview hes in......I am sorry but he just screams douche.

He acts like a pubescent boy every time he is around an attractive women. I don't care if he is "rock star", He is a grown man who needs to learn to control himself.

^Ohhh so thats why he constantly acts like a douche??? lollll Well hes got a great excuse for it then ()

That's exactly what it is, an excuse. He uses his ADHD as an excuse to explain his over-dramatic and obnoxious behaviors.

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Oh Lindsay, mentally demented people always have excuses.....

Some people are so demented it is no longer an excuse but a truth

^ I agree there is far too much turmoil in the world but not enough good judgement. At the same time some "solutions" are easier said than done. Also sometimes people's ulterior motives get in the way of making the best decisions. Even that is relative and/or subjective *sigh*

Aww, , it's a big bad world out there.....help, we're drowning in a sea of complexity!

Some people are complicated which explains why they are inclined to make every situation they are part of complicated.

As children we view our parents as super humans who knew everything and could handle anything. As we grow older we gain a better understanding of the world and are able to comprehend more information, we often realize are parents are not as extraordinary as we thought they were. They went from being super humans to just humans (and in extreme cases, less than that )

I am not saying I don't love my family b/c deep down I do. Sometimes it is hard to feel or express love for them when they consistently do and say hurtful things. Many of them have major unsolved issues. I think partially they don't know how to handle their issues so they let it fester. I also think they are in denial b/c they don't want to be perceived as weak nor do they want to feel weak.

I am not a fan of Freud but I do agree with him. Our first teachers are our family members and relatives. They are also the first people we have interpersonal relationships with. They are the foundation on how we perceive and approach the world. Some people are naturally resilient so even if they come from a dysfunctional family they are still able to do alright in life. A mix of nature and nurture

Exactly but family is the core of every human soul. I adore every person who is able to cross his own shadow and become a better person than his parents were

You take the good with the bad. It all balances out somehow in the end (Y)

Just like you and Andy said, imperfections make this world perfect

Exactly but family is the core of every human soul. I adore every person who is able to cross his own shadow and become a better person than his parents were

In addition to learning from our parents' mistakes, we should also incorporate the best of them into our lives. I know it can be a feat but there is always at least one positive thing about about everything

Just like you and Andy said, imperfections make this world perfect

We are wise beyond our years

We´re smartasses

Agree, there is always something positive about someone. Sometimes it´s just hard to see it

^ Indeed, there is always something positive about someone....such as they are positively a pain in the ass! Just kidding

Anyways, how have you been?

that one is priceless

I´m slowly getting better and better, after feeling like total moron and desperate useless person like a week ago I guess I just needed to glance off the mud to feel ok again. Some good things happening in my life also help Now I feel so full of energy to learn new things.

Recently I saw a huge book on Biology, but it costs 120€ and weights like a ton lol, so I need to consider it wisely if I´m buying it or not - but it does look great indeed. There are just so many things to learn.

How about you hun?

^ As long as you are aware that was just how you felt and you are not a total moron and a desperate useless person. We all go through times when we don't feel good. I am glad you were able to pick yourself and keep on moving

I didn't know you like biology Did you study it at Uni? If you really enjoy learning about it I think the book is a good investment. I hope you have a car so you don't have to carry it home all by yourself

I have been ok. Been feeling sick again so I am going to take it easy this week and hope I feel better. What are your weekend plans?

Some people are so demented it is no longer an excuse but a truth

Indeed, but still, they shouldn't be given special treatment at an unacceptable level of expense to others

Some people are complicated which explains why they are inclined to make every situation they are part of complicated.

Some 'Complicated' people engage in intellectual noise, inefficiency and dementia with a wave, and a sleight of hand. When this happens, it is certainly not wisdom, real intelligence, or anything remotely insightful or useful

Some people are so demented it is no longer an excuse but a truth

Indeed, but still, they shouldn't be given special treatment at an unacceptable level of expense to others

I agree. Although I do believe in giving chances and being empathetic and sympathetic, a line has to be drawn somewhere. Especially, like you said, it is "at an unacceptable level of expense to other".

Some people are complicated which explains why they are inclined to make every situation they are part of complicated.

Some 'Complicated' people engage in intellectual noise, inefficiency and dementia with a wave, and a sleight of hand. When this happens, it is certainly not wisdom, real intelligence, or anything remotely insightful or useful

Hmmm...that is an interesting and insightful point you made. I will need to think more about it I hope that is not how you feel about me

Hmmm...that is an interesting and insightful point you made. I will need to think more about it I hope that is not how you feel about me

Certainly not, Pink, I don't like underhanded tactics, I prefer that it's face to face This conversation isn't complicated. But it may become complicated. In time

I review the latest academic papers on financial and economics topics from time to time. The authors of these analytic materials have a lot of mental 'horsepower' so to speak. More so than I do. They're the elite in this sense. But they're quite often 'too smart'. A financial economics paper is often little more than intellectual noise. The goal becomes not a search for the useful or the insightful, but whether or not the product becomes an elegant display. I've known many people that can be called 'Intellectual silly' at times. They have so much information in their brains, and from so many sources that it seems that their analysis and decisions can be overwhelmed & hampered by conflicting and convoluted signals. They are sometimes prone to overvaluing the irrelevant if they're not careful enough. This is, to my experience, most common with individuals with powerful memories but don't filter enough, don't grasp the big picture enough, or retain enough emotional discipline.

^ As long as you are aware that was just how you felt and you are not a total moron and a desperate useless person. We all go through times when we don't feel good. I am glad you were able to pick yourself and keep on moving

I didn't know you like biology Did you study it at Uni? If you really enjoy learning about it I think the book is a good investment. I hope you have a car so you don't have to carry it home all by yourself

I have been ok. Been feeling sick again so I am going to take it easy this week and hope I feel better. What are your weekend plans?

Weekend - as always - was spent at the cottage. We finally started to render the fasade, so the house is beginning to look actually... good and not like an eternal building site. We also cut the grass again. It was very rainy this weekend - but after months of dry weather it´s more a blessing than a disaster.

Sick again? Sorry to hear that having headaches?

And no, I did not study biology. I have studied management for like two years but neglected it because it made no sense. Until I met my fl I was more into drawing and writing and languages than biology or anything else. Then we started dating and after a year or so I stopped drawing and writing and started getting interested in biology, psychology and astronomy and now I´m like - I want to know everything because there is so much to learn and so many books to read and it drives me mad that I don´t have enough time and that it is actually impossible to know everything.

Example - Recently I finally finished reading a third book from Freud, and started to read John Taylors´ Black Holes, and I have already found another two books from Freud I want to read plus this biology one I told you about, two Spanish books to practice the language, and another two kindle-versions of Darwins´ The Voyage of the Beagle and On the Origin of Species are waiting for me and I can´t wait to read them.

And all I´m asking myself is "What the hell have I been doing up to now?"

Certainly not, Pink, I don't like underhanded tactics, I prefer that it's face to face This conversation isn't complicated. But it may become complicated. In time

I review the latest academic papers on financial and economics topics from time to time. The authors of these analytic materials have a lot of mental 'horsepower' so to speak. More so than I do. They're the elite in this sense. But they're quite often 'too smart'. A financial economics paper is often little more than intellectual noise. The goal becomes not a search for the useful or the insightful, but whether or not the product becomes an elegant display. I've known many people that can be called 'Intellectual silly' at times. They have so much information in their brains, and from so many sources that it seems that their analysis and decisions can be overwhelmed & hampered by conflicting and convoluted signals. They are sometimes prone to overvaluing the irrelevant if they're not careful enough. This is, to my experience, most common with individuals with powerful memories but don't filter enough, don't grasp the big picture enough, or retain enough emotional discipline.

Unfortunately face-to-face conversations here are limited. Damn computer monitor! <_< I know I sometimes unintentionally babble and ramble. Just wanted to make sure I was not doing it to the point that was annoying you

I think most situations in our everyday lives are not complicate but emotions make them seem complicated. That is not to say emotions are bad b/c they do serve a purpose. It is important to take a brief moment to examine the situation, look at the big picture and find the root cause.

I must admit I sometimes feel I have so many thoughts, ideas, and information in my brain that I don’t always know how to organize, express or present it all. It can be quite overwhelming

Weekend - as always - was spent at the cottage. We finally started to render the fasade, so the house is beginning to look actually... good and not like an eternal building site. We also cut the grass again. It was very rainy this weekend - but after months of dry weather it´s more a blessing than a disaster.

Sick again? Sorry to hear that having headaches?

And no, I did not study biology. I have studied management for like two years but neglected it because it made no sense. Until I met my fl I was more into drawing and writing and languages than biology or anything else. Then we started dating and after a year or so I stopped drawing and writing and started getting interested in biology, psychology and astronomy and now I´m like - I want to know everything because there is so much to learn and so many books to read and it drives me mad that I don´t have enough time and that it is actually impossible to know everything.

Example - Recently I finally finished reading a third book from Freud, and started to read John Taylors´ Black Holes, and I have already found another two books from Freud I want to read plus this biology one I told you about, two Spanish books to practice the language, and another two kindle-versions of Darwins´ The Voyage of the Beagle and On the Origin of Species are waiting for me and I can´t wait to read them.

And all I´m asking myself is "What the hell have I been doing up to now?"

I am so jealous you have a cottage to visit. I hope to be able to own a nice cottage someday. You have to show me the pictures of the cottage after the rendering!

I have a medical condition that ever so often bothers me. It is nothing serious. Just annoying and uncomfortable. But I do get headaches sometimes Usually at night. Thank you for your concern

So much to learn, so little time. We can only do the best we can If you want to learn something on the fly you can always read study guides or “reference books” like Cliff Notes, Spark Notes, “For Dummies…”, “The Complete Idiot's Guide to…”, etc. The downside is they only provide the basic gist of a topic and don’t go very in-depth Or you could pick specific topics of a subject to learn about. Let’s use Biology as an example, there is anatomy, botany, cell biology, molecular biology, psychobiology, and so on

I was a psychology major in college but I don’t think I have read more than one of Freud’s books. Perhaps it was because I was on a Social Psych and Psych of Women track. We all know how Freud felt about females

If you want to learn a language I suggest taking a class instead of learning from a book. It is better to have an actual person you can converse with and be there to make sure your pronunciation is correct

I am so jealous you have a cottage to visit. I hope to be able to own a nice cottage someday. You have to show me the pictures of the cottage after the rendering!

Of course I will I already have some, but need to upload them at home as soon as I have some free time. Lots of kittens again You would like to have one?

I have a medical condition that ever so often bothers me. It is nothing serious. Just annoying and uncomfortable. But I do get headaches sometimes Usually at night. Thank you for your concern

I hope you´ll feel better soon that reminds of my allergy - it causes me problems from time to time, pretty annoying as well. I´m deaf on my left ear since I was little, and the allergy causes not only constant smirking and sniffling and tons of napkins used during winter, but also an increased preasure in my right ear, which is nothing pleasant at all. Sometimes it even hurts

So much to learn, so little time. We can only do the best we can If you want to learn something on the fly you can always read study guides or “reference books” like Cliff Notes, Spark Notes, “For Dummies…”, “The Complete Idiot's Guide to…”, etc. The downside is they only provide the basic gist of a topic and don’t go very in-depth Or you could pick specific topics of a subject to learn about. Let’s use Biology as an example, there is anatomy, botany, cell biology, molecular biology, psychobiology, and so on

Yeah, so little time What I don´t like about these study guides is, exactly like you said, the fact that they do not provide the deeper insight to the core of the whole issue that´s why I decided to just learn on the different subjects alone, from well specified books (not easy to find though).

I think I´m buying that book and see later

I was a psychology major in college but I don’t think I have read more than one of Freud’s books. Perhaps it was because I was on a Social Psych and Psych of Women track. We all know how Freud felt about females

How did Freud feel about females? So far I have read 3 of his books but did not notice anything evident there were two cases where he cured women and he seemed to treat them just like he treated men but I will pay more attention in the next books

If you want to learn a language I suggest taking a class instead of learning from a book. It is better to have an actual person you can converse with and be there to make sure your pronunciation is correct

I have been taking Spanish classes for four years and just need to take a rest for now and learn alone. I was never a talkative person, not even in classes I´m more writing-oriented but alcohol always opens my mouth lol, when I´m drunk I speak like native one

Unfortunately face-to-face conversations here are limited. Damn computer monitor! <_< I know I sometimes unintentionally babble and ramble. Just wanted to make sure I was not doing it to the point that was annoying you

I think most situations in our everyday lives are not complicate but emotions make them seem complicated. That is not to say emotions are bad b/c they do serve a purpose. It is important to take a brief moment to examine the situation, look at the big picture and find the root cause.

I must admit I sometimes feel I have so many thoughts, ideas, and information in my brain that I don’t always know how to organize, express or present it all. It can be quite overwhelming

Pinky, I meant frontal tactics, a frontal engagement if you will Saves the trouble, and any possible ambiguity. Anyway, I'm not decadent enough to do that often, LOL. Don't worry, You're doing great, Pink, and I hope that this conversation is entertaining to you as it is for me.

As for what you're saying about your thoughts, would you consider yourself a writer then? Writers are more like that. You know, I am more of a 'filter'. Conclusions often come first, and then my 'reasoning' comes later. It's odd, and people who have worked with me notice this. So it often takes me more mental effort to verbalize or write down my thought process than coming up with the conclusion of the thought process itself. Then, if my thought process has flaws, I change my assumptions with new information and the whole cycle starts over again. And again.

For instance, on this forum I answer posts in a way that may be peculiar to others: I first write a single condensed line, fully answering each point. It's a stand alone entity, but unfortunately ambiguous due to its brevity and lack of intricate detail. I pause. Then I stare at the blank space, and fill it up with more and more material. Somehow, it all connects. Elsewhere, ...with writers- especially, for instance, this banker I used to have a working relationship with...he would go on and on about an issue and get to the conclusion at the very end. I, however, function in reverse. That's why I'm not a good lecturer, but rather am much better at Q/A sessions and conducting interviews.

My mother, who has a MA in English Lit, and regularly gets an 80% success rate for her newspaper articles thought like my colleague as well.

How did Freud feel about females? So far I have read 3 of his books but did not notice anything evident there were two cases where he cured women and he seemed to treat them just like he treated men but I will pay more attention in the next books

Chiming in here for a short essay ... ... Basically it's just that his views are outdated nowadays, I guess they were completely appropriate in his time. He thought that all women are only there to raise kids, like marriage and motherhood is the only thing they should do. Women should be docile and follow their husband in every decision. They have to serve men.

Since they are emotional, they cannot think logical. Also - and this is what makes him pretty unpopular in women movements - as he considered men to stand above women he thought every women wants a to have a penis to get on the same level and cope with their inferiority.

When he was asked if equal rights for both partners in a marriage (and in general) wouldn't be better, he said that equality is just not possible, there has to be differences and the superiority of men is the lesser evil.

Sidenote: He had 6 women at home to see to his every need (wife, daughter, "female friend" and three female servants) ...

Chiming in here for a short essay ... ... Basically it's just that his views are outdated nowadays, I guess they were completely appropriate in his time. He thought that all women are only there to raise kids, like marriage and motherhood is the only thing they should do. Women should be docile and follow their husband in every decision. They have to serve men.

Since they are emotional, they cannot think logical. Also - and this is what makes him pretty unpopular in women movements - as he considered men to stand above women he thought every women wants a to have a penis to get on the same level and cope with their inferiority.

When he was asked if equal rights for both partners in a marriage (and in general) wouldn't be better, he said that equality is just not possible, there has to be differences and the superiority of men is the lesser evil.

Sidenote: He had 6 women at home to see to his every need (wife, daughter, "female friend" and three female servants) ...

Thank you Mel

It´s really weird because I have read exactly the opposite things oh man. Well, he never states his opinions on female / male superiority in his books of course - not in those I have read so far - he just takes both of the sexes as a studying material and his pacients.

As for the penis thing - and this is the most ridiculous fact - he actually states that those are men who want to be women there were several cases he cured when the neuroses originated in the childhood because the child was so in love with his father that the only logical way he saw to be closer to him was to be like his mother, in this physical love relationship - which requires to transform himself into woman (thus the castration complex which Freud blames to be one of the most important factors in antisemitism and sexism). Every woman he cured in those books I have read so far, he always spoke about them as "extremelly intelligent and sophisticated" (funny is that intelectuals are more inclined to the neuroses than regular intelligent people)

I agree that in his era, it was a common view on women that their most important function was to raise kids and take care about the family (which is kinda logical as women are mostly far more family oriented than men and they, well, create the family and were always those who created home. My fl once said, that woman makes a home, she gives the home a soul, a tenderness a man could never create. I agree here - generally said.)

I also agree that women tend to be more emotional and less logical than men (generally once again), especially when I look around and am disgusted by how women treat themselves (being just beauty oriented with no further persistence to take knowledge in science, math, biology, etc...) thus I consider every woman who oversteps her shadow a true diamond. I have met several women like that (on this forum too ) and I value them immensely and hope they will rise children that are just as wise and intelligent and daring to learn as they are.

And Mel, you have to agree that sometimes the superiority of men really IS the lesser evil I have seen several relationship where the superiority of women was evident - it was a pure hell.

Equality is an utopia, it´s impossible. There has to be differences because we were born this way. Those are actually the differences that make this world spinning - if all men were like women and women were like men, where it would lead? I´m proud that I´m a woman, and I value and love men, I value and respect the differences between us. I consider them vital for the healthy relationship.

Two strong individuals can make a strong and healthy couple - as long as they learn to respect each other. In my relationship, it´s always 60 to 40 as for the "leadership" - sometimes it´s me taking these 60, and sometimes it´s fl taking these 60. One leads, the other follows, but it´s never the same person who leads (I hate dictator-like relationship, no matter who´s the leader). Hating on women or men will take us nowhere.

I will continue in reading Freud´s books and will pay more attention to this issue, maybe I´ll notice the notion you are talking about more

Just wondering, he might just not met the right woman

It is definitely better to have a person teach you a language than to learn from a book. On the other hand, living in the country helps too although that's obviously a lot more expensive and also a huge step in general. I've learned a lot of Japanese through anime though .

Movies, books and music really helps a lot