Why are you single?

ooooh.... that's rough.

the bro code says no dating your best friend's sister unless you actually end up marrying her.

I just broke up with my girlfriend the other day. We were together for almost 3 years and I was ruined the night we decided to part. That was our "second" break-up - the "first" one didn't really work out and after one or two days we decided that we can try some more. But after 2 months of doing nothing, we just had to let go. Thing is, my ex is a very "adventurous" kind of person and she likes getting her hands busy - she's finishing her studies (she studies biology and she has lots of things to do in the lab) and in August she's going to Finland for the ERASMUS student exchange program. She'll probably come back in January, but well, you never know what's gonna happen. She was already offered PhD studies in the Polish Academy of Science (PAN) and it's a huge chance for her to achieve success which she really wants/needs. She wanted me to go to Finland with her, but here's the problem - I didn't really want to go, so I'm staying. The problem is that I am not that kind of person who can easily sort things out and I was really afraid that if I went to Finland with her I would have a very hard time fining ANY kind of job because I don't know the language (while she speaks Finnish quite well) and I wouldn't have ANY prospects of working there apart from physical labor - which I've never done in my life and, all in all, I'm too lazy to try it. I couldn't teach English there, because Finns employ only native speakers and don't take foreign students for practice. So, eventually, I decided not to go. I thought it would be good for us - she'll fly away, leave me and my thoughts, let me and her tidy things up in our minds so that we could start all over and have a decent relationship again when she comes back - because the first 2 years were really great (well, the first year was perfect, NO arguments and so on). But I think that this decision of mine was what ruined it all between us. Curtains up - we finally saw how many things make us different from each other - interests, plans, ambitions. I want to stay in Poland and start a job HERE, because I have prospects HERE. She wants to be on the move - travel the world, gain experience and everything. She hates boredom, and I think that eventually, she got bored with me because we were only watching TV, taking a walk in the park, going to pubs... And she needs more things - sports, gym, adventures... I don't want to be remembered as the lazy, unambitious guy... I think that it just wasn't true love... Because I wasn't ready for sacrifices, and she couldn't accept my point of view, that I want to be here and not move (at least now). It's really weird because we broke up less than a week ago and thoughts are still stirring in my mind. Sometimes I just feel like I wanna cry. So I do. But at other times I resort to talking to my friend and I already have thoughts that I could invite her to dinner or something and have a new girlfriend not too long after the break-up. And I think it wouldn't be fair as far as my ex is concerned because I loved her, after all (even if that wasn't REAL love that means sacrifice at all costs) and I know that I'd feel kinda bad or jealous if I found out that she was dating someone less than a month after we broke up... I don't know, I think it's just my masculine nature that tells me to just "find a girl, fuck her and leave". Well, maybe not that rough, but you know what I mean. And I don't wanna hurt anybody - neither my ex, nor my will-be... I need time and I don't wanna hurry up... But if things turned out faster than I thought, I don't know if I could have enough strength to say "stop" and just don't engage myself in another relationship too soon.

Right now, I just don't know what to think...

I think your logic is spot on. Take it easy bro. Come January, if there's still something there, worry about it then. Otherwise Cosmos will take care of itself, you just make sure you have a good time yourself.

Thanks I'm trying to face it all like a man

I'm single because Vladimir Ivanov is hetero.

I'm single because my love-life in the last year has been more depressing than AIG's Fall 2008 balance sheet.

In fact, AIGs Fall 2008 balance sheet would take such pity on my love life, he'd buy it some ice-cream.

I'm single because my love-life in the last year has been more depressing than AIG's Fall 2008 balance sheet.

In fact, AIGs Fall 2008 balance sheet would take such pity on my love life, he'd buy it some ice-cream.

I'm single because my love-life in the last year has been more depressing than AIG's Fall 2008 balance sheet.

In fact, AIGs Fall 2008 balance sheet would take such pity on my love life, he'd buy it some ice-cream.

I should just get it over with and buy a record store, shouldn't I?

nice Frederick

I'm single because Vladimir Ivanov is hetero.

sorry for you maybe travis hanson is gay .............. (is not )

anyway, i'm not single.

anyway, i'm not single.

well good for you

i am. because i always want the wrong guys, the ones i can't have

and i don't fall in love with the ones that want me.

oh those gays, always oh so picky, aren't threy? :trout:

i still intend to get him, though. Some super cute and hot guy i know. I want to fall in love with him and he's supposed to do the same with me.

Problem:

He's into tall, muscular/bulky, dark skin.

I am... thin, as tall as him and have a light skin colour lol

we'll see.

I'm single because Vladimir Ivanov is hetero.

sorry for you maybe travis hanson is gay .............. (is not )

I knowwwww...Maybe I can catch him (Travis) when he's drunk!

anyway, i'm not single.

well good for you

i am. because i always want the wrong guys, the ones i can't have

and i don't fall in love with the ones that want me.

oh those gays, always oh so picky, aren't threy? :trout:

True...LOL same here...

i still intend to get him, though. Some super cute and hot guy i know. I want to fall in love with him and he's supposed to do the same with me.

Problem:

He's into tall, muscular/bulky, dark skin.

I am... thin, as tall as him and have a light skin colour lol

we'll see.

Oh...cute story

You'll see that sooner or later he will be yours!

anyway, i'm not single.

hmmmm...I think I know why you aren't single. Is that you? The one in your avatar?

anyway, i'm not single.

well good for you

yes...i'm so happy about this

hmmmm...I think I know why you aren't single. Is that you? The one in your avatar?

in my dreeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaams

he's tyson paige :heart:

anyway...i'm not ugly :laugh:

hmmmm...I think I know why you aren't single. Is that you? The one in your avatar?

in my dreeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaams

he's tyson page :heart:

He's hot!! *Searching*

anyway...i'm not ugly :laugh:

Cool

I'm single because I'm only 17 years old and I had been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, which I thought was a bit too much (if that can make any sense to any of you guys) . Summer's here and I'm off to college in fall, I just didn't wanna miss out on anything because of some high school boyfriend who I'm obviously not going to stay with forever anyway.

i'm single because i always fall for my best friends, who treat me like sister. Uch.

I'm single cause i'm too lazy to put out an effort to try and get a girlfriend

Yeah... I'm kind of lazy too.

Sometimes I'll meet a girl I really like and hang out with her a lot. I'm also a compulsive flirt, I don't even realize I'm flirting.

But... I'm not looking for any sort of relationship really. I don't feel it's something I should go out of my way for at this point of my life. If it happens, it happens but usually my bad habbits leave me with quite a few sexually tense aquaintances. Eventually though, they get frustrated and find other dudes which is okay by me... I guess... for now.

I'm not ready for a serious relationship right now. I think I still haven't gotten over my ex. I'll think about her once in a while and sometimes I have those "let's start all over again" thoughts... I'm kind of dating somebody right now, and I'm afraid that she might be treating our hang-outs a little bit too seriously. I don't wanna hurt her, she hasn't had a boyfriend for like 3 years now and I think she's a bit desperate. But I just need something casual, nothing really binding or whatever. Right now it's mostly about sex and stuff, no actual feelings involved. I'm almost sure that we're not going to be together, it's just a temporary thing. Just casual relationship - at least on my part. I told her that she can't expect anything serious from me, but I suppose that she treats it too seriously anyway.