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The thing about Sanni is up till about two months ago she seemed completely fine. I spoke with her several times over skype and she was as sweet as could be... albeit a little naive but very sweet. She used to have a good time with everyone on the forum (that I saw), always laughing and joining in on the jokes.. Last time I spoke to her I opened up a lot and all seemed well, she then goes MIA for like two months. When she comes back she seems to have chip on her shoulders. She doesn't laugh or join in, she's overtly sensitive and closed off to the point of becoming hostile or combative if someone says something she doesn't like.  I ignore it for a couple of weeks and then without warning begins to make jabs at me... I did nothing wrong and despite reaching out to her several times she continues to ignore me and takes personal jabs at me.  

I personally would of put her on mod watch, however if I do it, I'm the asshole who is bad, and wrong... I honestly don't see her behavior getting any better and I fully expect her shitty treatment of myself and others to continue on.

Again with the snippy comments at me. This one was in Michael's comp. She's been given another warning, and I told her if she continues baiting, she'll find herself on mod watch.

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Frankly, he might have lost quite a bit of interest when you tried to take over the competition. He’d be too nice to admit to it though. Then add real life stuff…

Update: I got a PM from her, and of course she doesn't see what she's doing is baiting

Sanni

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You seem to have very thin skin nowadays. I don’t think that warning point is valid. I would like a second opinion on it.

I thought it was a bad move from the get go when you were offering him the results even before he had time to officially close the nominations.

My reply to her: @PinkCouture

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I don't care what you think Sanni, I've helped Mike many times in the past, and he's helped me, and frankly that's none of your business. I'm more than done with your snippy comments directed passive aggressively at me. I've done nothing wrong to you, and I keep getting treated like shit from you. I've received so many reports about you baiting people and have ignore them because I wanted to give you space to deal with whatever it is you're going through. Doesn't matter what I do or say, you continue to bait me, or make low blow shitty comments for no reason. If you don't like me anymore, fine by all means, but put me on ignore and stop with the bs. If you'd like a second opinion, please, by all means msg Pinky.

 

Edit: Her second reply

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How am I “baiting” when my message was very clear? I thought you took over the competition by gathering the results for him prematurely. Maybe he would have liked to do the discovery process himself. Me not knowing your history has no relevance to this. My post was very direct, no passive-aggressiveness.

 

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Talk to Pinky, I'm not dealing with you anymore.

I'm so fucking done with her taking any chance she gets to come at me. I leave her alone and it still does nothing. She's turned into a snide little cunt, so fuck that bitch.

@PinkCouture - Sorry to put you in the middle of this. I'm 100000%  she's going to PM you making me into the bad guy who's being unfair and or mean to her I legit cannot deal with her anymore

^ I am about to go out but I will talk to her and hopefully can get her to back off. For now just ignore her and hang in there. It will be ok!

Wow Pinky, just saw the warning you gave to Jeangrim and then the post that caused it. WTF is her problem?

20 minutes ago, SympathysSilhouette said:

Wow Pinky, just saw the warning you gave to Jeangrim and then the post that caused it. WTF is her problem?

Oh the member is female?  Based on reading some of her other posts she seems like a Bregje Superfan. She seem to be upset and having difficulties understanding why Bregje's career hasn't flourish as much as she (JG) thinks it should have. So she is speculating it is b/c Bregje  associates herself with Blacks and she has a Black boyfriend. That might be [unfortunately]  the case with some but I highly doubt it is the case with Bregje. The only reason I noticed the post was b/c Bregje posted it on social media. I don't think anyone reported it which is kinda strange  

I am going to reach out to her and try to do some damage control. But here is what she posted as reference:

Omg.....

@Prettyphile: I spoke to Sanni via PM and she is willing to move on from the drama and stop targeting you  She will try not making any comments, directly or indirectly, regarding you and she will not respond to any of your posts, only if you are willing to do the same  She is also willing to do the same with Dave and Limer if they are willing as well.  I will PM them for their thoughts

Hopefully we could all move forward and not have anymore drama   Let me know what you think  

I messaged Bregje apologizing and letting her know not everyone on BZ are douchebags  Anyway, she posted this : 

EDIT: Her response to my DM...

59 minutes ago, PinkCouture said:

@Prettyphile: I spoke to Sanni via PM and she is willing to move on from the drama and stop targeting you  She will try not making any comments, directly or indirectly, regarding you and she will not respond to any of your posts, only if you are willing to do the same  She is also willing to do the same with Dave and Limer if they are willing as well.  I will PM them for their thoughts

 

Hopefully we could all move forward and not have anymore drama   Let me know what you think  

The fact that she basically admits to targeting us bothers me. I'll be the bigger person and let it slide this once, but if she begins to shit on ppl again I really think she should go on mod watch.

Did she mention any she's been a wretched nightmare to deal with lately?

4 minutes ago, Prettyphile said:

The fact that she basically admits to targeting us bothers me. I'll be the bigger person and let it slide this once, but if she begins to shit on ppl again I really think she should go on mod watch.

Did she mention any she's been a wretched nightmare to deal with lately?

She didn't exactly admit to targeting you but I did tell her she has been coming off that way. I also told the way she sometimes expresses her opinions could be perceived negatively  

I did let her know I have noticed she seems to be upset and angry the past few months but she didn't comment on that part. Her defenses are definitely up  I am hoping maybe once things settle down she will  lower her defenses so we could figure out what is really going on. Perhaps it is wishful thinking but I am willing to give it a try b/c I am worried about her   

10 hours ago, PinkCouture said:

I messaged Bregje apologizing and letting her know not everyone on BZ are douchebags  Anyway, she posted this : 

 

EDIT: Her response to my DM...

 

 

Aaaw!

She's one of my favorite models. Thanks for representing us well Pinks.   Thanks to the group of sensible members as a whole too.

Thanks @PinkCouture for taking care of that , Great messaging 

I wish I knew how to do that kind of damage control that well 

So more drama in Adriana's thread between Luna verses the World.

I haven't had the time to look over everything that was said because I'm pretty sick atm and don't want to get out of bed to do much of anything let alone read a bunch of drivel, but I don't know wtf to do about the situation. From what I read Luna didn't appear to  be at fault for anything, but everyone is still all butt hurt about anything and everything she has to say.  Apparently all this stems from the latest posts in Adriana's candid's thread.

I have no idea how to handle this because frankly I don't see anything luna is doing is wrong, but no one can seem to get along with her or ignore her.

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^ I locked the thread so I could look more into it after work and class tonight. I have a general idea what is going on and have some insight but want to look more closely before forming any opinions

I just cleaned Adriana's Candid thread. Based on what I gathered a bunch of the Adriana Fanatics were making speculations about her love life, criticizing her boyfriend and basically implying she's too good for him. Luna commented, "And the over analyzing has begun yet again  Dude can’t do anything without getting criticized." And from that point forward all these members started attacking & bashing her.  Luna got pissed and attacked back. Back & forth they went I warned, suspended (1 week) and put ramires on Mod Watch for telling Luna (refer to screenshots for more detail):
 

- " You’re just a piece of **** "

- " #UselessMemberOfSociety"

- "if I were you i’d quit breathing"

He (?) really crossed the line. No amount of anger or frustration merits for anyone to say that to another person especially over something as trivial as Adriana's personal life

I personally did not find any issue with Luna's comment that started the whole fiasco. It seems like all the Adriana Fanatics did not like someone pointing out something negative. And they view Luna as an easy target so they all ganged up on her, and created excuses & reasons to attack her. 

Luna has made a lot of improvements in her tone and approach. Is it perfect? No and it probably never will but she is making progress. I think it is important to keep encouraging her to be mindful of her tone & approach. Also, to pick and choose her battles and to know when to walk away. There has been a few times she had already "won" a discussion but she kept on going and it was unnecessary.

Could someone edit hollanders name to include a capital "H".

https://www.bellazon.com/main/profile/16474-hollander/

They sent me a message on instagram requesting this, and I totally forgot how to do it Thanks!

3 hours ago, katchitup said:

Could someone edit hollanders name to include a capital "H".

 

https://www.bellazon.com/main/profile/16474-hollander/

 

They sent me a message on instagram requesting this, and I totally forgot how to do it Thanks!

 

 

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