Do guys really care about weight?

as long as im not FAT! for my height im all good

HAHAHA im in the chick thread again woohoo :dance:

I think Asian guys really do care about weight <_<

The guys over 50% in Korea think this girls is the good example for chubbiness and always talk about her that she's chubby and she has to reduce her weight but they like her because she is pretty looking.

And they even prefer tiny and skinny girls to tall and curvy girls

Sorry if this is a little inappropriate but I think when they say chubby, they really means she gives them a chubby. She's probably at about 12-17% bodyfat wich for a girl is pretty damn good. That's like an offseason bodybuilder.

I think that it doesn't matter if you're skinny or a bit on the heavy side, flat chested or sporting a D-cup. If you're comfortable with who you are, take care of yourself and knows what works for your body (a push up bra can work wonders for an A-cup, and knowing when those tight pants are not for you does too) then others notice that too. Guys aren't neccecarely looking for Adriana's twin, but maybe for someone who breathes the same confidence. And someone who is pleasant to be around with. If that girl happens to have a kickass figure than that's great, but not a necessity. Sure, there will always be really picky guys (one was turned off by a scar on my back, which is barely visible and I wished him good luck with finding Angelina Jolie.) but that's life.

Turn it the other way around. We girls are all talking about celebrity guys with six-packs, but in reality we usually pick the one who has a great sense of humor and makes us feel content. If he has a ripped body alongside that great personality, then that's a nice bonus (and a burden because you know other girls are pining for him the entire time) but in the end it doesn't really matter. If he takes care of himself and has some sense of style, I'm happy. That said, I have to be honest that someone who is really overweight or looks like a walking cadaver has to try a bit harder to appeal to me.

People are always talking about "sex appeal" and I think that's also a factor. A shy girl with a poor posture gives a different vibe than a girl with similar looks who sashays into the building like she owns the thing.

Just my 2 cents.

Soyee! Is she a model? She is very pretty.

And if they prefer skinny tall girls...why is Beyonce so famous in Asia? Why is she still famous period...she is so eight seasons ago. ('o3)

as long as im not FAT! for my height im all good

HAHAHA im in the chick thread again woohoo :dance:

This was really stupid.

I think that it doesn't matter if you're skinny or a bit on the heavy side, flat chested or sporting a D-cup. If you're comfortable with who you are, take care of yourself and knows what works for your body (a push up bra can work wonders for an A-cup, and knowing when those tight pants are not for you does too) then others notice that too. Guys aren't neccecarely looking for Adriana's twin, but maybe for someone who breathes the same confidence. And someone who is pleasant to be around with. If that girl happens to have a kickass figure than that's great, but not a necessity. Sure, there will always be really picky guys (one was turned off by a scar on my back, which is barely visible and I wished him good luck with finding Angelina Jolie.) but that's life.

Turn it the other way around. We girls are all talking about celebrity guys with six-packs, but in reality we usually pick the one who has a great sense of humor and makes us feel content. If he has a ripped body alongside that great personality, then that's a nice bonus (and a burden because you know other girls are pining for him the entire time) but in the end it doesn't really matter. If he takes care of himself and has some sense of style, I'm happy. That said, I have to be honest that someone who is really overweight or looks like a walking cadaver has to try a bit harder to appeal to me.

People are always talking about "sex appeal" and I think that's also a factor. A shy girl with a poor posture gives a different vibe than a girl with similar looks who sashays into the building like she owns the thing.

Just my 2 cents.

I agree, this is well put!!!

And if they prefer skinny tall girls...why is Beyonce so famous in Asia? Why is she still famous period...she is so eight seasons ago. ('o3)

:yuckky: I hate Beyonce and her word bootylicious

I used to like her and thought she was very pretty. But she is just so overrated now and everywhere. Rihanna is my new favorite and she is very cute.

Sure, there will always be really picky guys (one was turned off by a scar on my back, which is barely visible and I wished him good luck with finding Angelina Jolie.) but that's life.

You wait, I'll get Angelina one day :persuazn:

Turn it the other way around. We girls are all talking about celebrity guys with six-packs, but in reality we usually pick the one who has a great sense of humor and makes us feel content. If he has a ripped body alongside that great personality, then that's a nice bonus (and a burden because you know other girls are pining for him the entire time) but in the end it doesn't really matter. If he takes care of himself and has some sense of style, I'm happy. That said, I have to be honest that someone who is really overweight or looks like a walking cadaver has to try a bit harder to appeal to me.

In my experience this is nonsense. The average woman puts (almost) as much of an emphasis on physical appearance as the average man.

This is not a reproach, in fact I think it's only natural that they do. But this notion that women go for the funny nice guy and men go for the best-looking woman they can drag back to their caves is wrong, wrong, wrong.

Paraphrasing a Belgian stand-up comedian, when asked about his experiences with the so-called "sex-appeal" of being funny:

"When women say they are attracted to funny guys, they fail to mention the fact that they like mr. funny-pants to sport a six-pack and a perfect ass as well."

Again, not a reproach, I think it's only fair that men should be held up to similar standards of physical beauty as women.

AND I absolutely agree that women are under much more scrutiny for the way they look than men. But this does not change the fact that looks factor in greatly when a woman chooses a partner.

In my experience this is nonsense. The average woman puts (almost) as much of an emphasis on physical appearance as the average man.

This is not a reproach, in fact I think it's only natural that they do. But this notion that women go for the funny nice guy and men go for the best-looking woman they can drag back to their caves is wrong, wrong, wrong.

Paraphrasing a Belgian stand-up comedian, when asked about his experiences with the so-called "sex-appeal" of being funny:

"When women say they are attracted to funny guys, they fail to mention the fact that they like mr. funny-pants to sport a six-pack and a perfect ass as well."

Again, not a reproach, I think it's only fair that men should be held up to similar standards of physical beauty as women.

AND I absolutely agree that women are under much more scrutiny for the way they look than men. But this does not change the fact that looks factor in greatly when a woman chooses a partner.

I'm not implying to be the kind of saint who doesn't care about the appearance of her hubby, because coming to this forum would be rubbish if that was the case. Why look at Eugen Bauder's abs and jensen Ackles' piercing green eyes when you'd easily walk away with Jake the funny Pimplehead?

So, to rephrase: I don't think either side has looks as the number one factor, not really (unless you're a really picky bastard ), BUT I do think that both guys and girls expect the other sex to take care of themselves. You're right if you don't want to go out with that guy in the sleazy jeans and the greasy hair, because he can DO something about it. You're right when you don't fancy the girl who always puts her bum in unflattering tight jeans, and has her hair in a tangled mess, because she can do something about it.

I think if you want someone to care for you, you have to take care of yourself first. If your standards towards the opposite sex are high, then you better live up to it yourself. It's useless looking for a Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie when you look like some homeless person (okay that's a bit extreme, but you get my point )

You can't help your genetics, but you can work with what you've been given. Average looking people can boost their looks & their appeal dramatically by simply buying the right clothing, get a hairstyle that suits their face, and improve their manners. (This is also for girls ) They can tan that otherwise deathly pale shade of skin a bit and shape up in the gym. Girls can use makeup to cover up a couple of blemishes and accentuate their attributes. As long as they don't overdo it.

I'm just pointing out that only really picky people turn down that cute girl, who takes care of herself and dresses nicely, but happens to have an A-cup. Or the guy who has a nice sense of style a cute face, but a scar on his cheek. (just an example)

Now before I'm getting sick of my sounding-dangerously-close-to-Oprah ramble, I'm gonna post this shit.

Ofcourse my words will probably be taken the wrong way, but I can't help it, I'm no miracle of literature (would've written a book already if I was, and be undeniably rich :evil: now that's true sex appeal! )

"When women say they are attracted to funny guys, they fail to mention the fact that they like mr. funny-pants to sport a six-pack and a perfect ass as well."

The perfect ass part can be crossed out....I don't look at asses.

In my experience this is nonsense. The average woman puts (almost) as much of an emphasis on physical appearance as the average man.

This is not a reproach, in fact I think it's only natural that they do. But this notion that women go for the funny nice guy and men go for the best-looking woman they can drag back to their caves is wrong, wrong, wrong.

Paraphrasing a Belgian stand-up comedian, when asked about his experiences with the so-called "sex-appeal" of being funny:

"When women say they are attracted to funny guys, they fail to mention the fact that they like mr. funny-pants to sport a six-pack and a perfect ass as well."

Again, not a reproach, I think it's only fair that men should be held up to similar standards of physical beauty as women.

AND I absolutely agree that women are under much more scrutiny for the way they look than men. But this does not change the fact that looks factor in greatly when a woman chooses a partner.

I'm not implying to be the kind of saint who doesn't care about the appearance of her hubby, because coming to this forum would be rubbish if that was the case. Why look at Eugen Bauder's abs and jensen Ackles' piercing green eyes when you'd easily walk away with Jake the funny Pimplehead?

So, to rephrase: I don't think either side has looks as the number one factor, not really (unless you're a really picky bastard ), BUT I do think that both guys and girls expect the other sex to take care of themselves. You're right if you don't want to go out with that guy in the sleazy jeans and the greasy hair, because he can DO something about it. You're right when you don't fancy the girl who always puts her bum in unflattering tight jeans, and has her hair in a tangled mess, because she can do something about it.

I think if you want someone to care for you, you have to take care of yourself first. If your standards towards the opposite sex are high, then you better live up to it yourself. It's useless looking for a Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie when you look like some homeless person (okay that's a bit extreme, but you get my point )

You can't help your genetics, but you can work with what you've been given. Average looking people can boost their looks & their appeal dramatically by simply buying the right clothing, get a hairstyle that suits their face, and improve their manners. (This is also for girls ) They can tan that otherwise deathly pale shade of skin a bit and shape up in the gym. Girls can use makeup to cover up a couple of blemishes and accentuate their attributes. As long as they don't overdo it.

I'm just pointing out that only really picky people turn down that cute girl, who takes care of herself and dresses nicely, but happens to have an A-cup. Or the guy who has a nice sense of style a cute face, but a scar on his cheek. (just an example)

Now before I'm getting sick of my sounding-dangerously-close-to-Oprah ramble, I'm gonna post this shit.

Ofcourse my words will probably be taken the wrong way, but I can't help it, I'm no miracle of literature (would've written a book already if I was, and be undeniably rich :evil: now that's true sex appeal! )

This is a great post and I agree 100%!

I've definitely garnered a lot more attention since I've grown more confident and happy with my life (which has been reflected in my posture and how I take care of myself).

All I have to add to this thread is that I think women scrutinise and judge each other more harshly than men do. My mum-in-law is always pointing out that I have stretchmarks and saying I've gained weight, and my mum is always asking if I'm anorexic because I look too thin, or pointing out a spot on my face, whereas all the men in my life never notice a thing. Either that, or men are just more polite and considerate of people's self-esteem than women are! LOL

In my experience this is nonsense. The average woman puts (almost) as much of an emphasis on physical appearance as the average man.

This is not a reproach, in fact I think it's only natural that they do. But this notion that women go for the funny nice guy and men go for the best-looking woman they can drag back to their caves is wrong, wrong, wrong.

Paraphrasing a Belgian stand-up comedian, when asked about his experiences with the so-called "sex-appeal" of being funny:

"When women say they are attracted to funny guys, they fail to mention the fact that they like mr. funny-pants to sport a six-pack and a perfect ass as well."

Again, not a reproach, I think it's only fair that men should be held up to similar standards of physical beauty as women.

AND I absolutely agree that women are under much more scrutiny for the way they look than men. But this does not change the fact that looks factor in greatly when a woman chooses a partner.

I'm not implying to be the kind of saint who doesn't care about the appearance of her hubby, because coming to this forum would be rubbish if that was the case. Why look at Eugen Bauder's abs and jensen Ackles' piercing green eyes when you'd easily walk away with Jake the funny Pimplehead?

So, to rephrase: I don't think either side has looks as the number one factor, not really (unless you're a really picky bastard ), BUT I do think that both guys and girls expect the other sex to take care of themselves. You're right if you don't want to go out with that guy in the sleazy jeans and the greasy hair, because he can DO something about it. You're right when you don't fancy the girl who always puts her bum in unflattering tight jeans, and has her hair in a tangled mess, because she can do something about it.

I think if you want someone to care for you, you have to take care of yourself first. If your standards towards the opposite sex are high, then you better live up to it yourself. It's useless looking for a Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie when you look like some homeless person (okay that's a bit extreme, but you get my point )

You can't help your genetics, but you can work with what you've been given. Average looking people can boost their looks & their appeal dramatically by simply buying the right clothing, get a hairstyle that suits their face, and improve their manners. (This is also for girls ) They can tan that otherwise deathly pale shade of skin a bit and shape up in the gym. Girls can use makeup to cover up a couple of blemishes and accentuate their attributes. As long as they don't overdo it.

I'm just pointing out that only really picky people turn down that cute girl, who takes care of herself and dresses nicely, but happens to have an A-cup. Or the guy who has a nice sense of style a cute face, but a scar on his cheek. (just an example)

Now before I'm getting sick of my sounding-dangerously-close-to-Oprah ramble, I'm gonna post this shit.

Ofcourse my words will probably be taken the wrong way, but I can't help it, I'm no miracle of literature (would've written a book already if I was, and be undeniably rich :evil: now that's true sex appeal! )

Good post, and I agree. If you're seeking a hot partner, you better bring something to the table as well.

mhmm.

I don't care very much

juz like me....the same..

I don't like skinny boys.. They don't make me feel sexually attracted.

Hello to all. I don't stop by this thread as often as I should. I agree with what a lot of you have said. A guy is more likely to go for a girl that is nice looking, takes good care of herself and is radiating with confidence. Than a girl that has an amazingly beautiul face but is a slob, dresses like one, slouches. You get the idea. That reminds me of a story of a woman in our church. I go to a spanish church. This woman before she got married was gorgeous. But a while after the wedding she started gaining a ridiculus amount of weight. About 150 pounds in a year and a half. She would no longer fix her hair, would no longer wear nice outfits or make-up. And instead you would see her come in big gray dresses. The color varied but you know what I mean. If you want a good picture of what I mean think of Adriana Lima but add 150 pounds to her, picture her skin messed up from the terrible diet and instead of her long smooth hair it looks dry and tangled. I apologize to Adriana wherever she might be right now for using her in this example. I just want you to get the picture people. No way would Adri do that to herself. Anyways I felt really bad for her husband because he would complain to the reverend. Shed always say your stuck with me till death do us part. He won't divorce her because he's one of those really religeous guys. I feel sorry for him. This brings me to say that someone shouldn't try to look nice just for getting a guy or to impress someone. People should take care of themselves out of respect for themselves. And honestly I gotta admit that most of the negative comments one gets about one's looks comes from girls. A guy won't notice if you gain 3 pounds or if you happened to forget your mascara that morning.

me neither The Shooter!

mmm Curious.

I've been getting more dates, and receving more phone calls and invitations since I lost weight