Approaching a Female

^ a.k.a PIP

Right so...I talked to that Japanese girl today again. For about five good minutes. Our longest conversation to date I think. It was during one of our breaks from our classes outside. Things were a lot better after last week when I thought everything had just gone to hell because of one simple gesture. Of course, I managed to squander my chance again. The main problem I had, was that I couldn't think of anything to say!!! Uggggh, my gosh! It's like she had some mystical power that screwed up my thoughts for casual conversation!!! And I could have asked for some kind of contact information, but then I just settled for "See ya later". And now I'm kicking myself for it.

So...I'm asking for some tips. Any thoughts on keeping the conversation alive and not getting nervous? I totally choked. Next time I was thinking about asking if she wanted to hang out or maybe if I could get her number if I could call her sometime. Good move? Ladies?

^ I'm sorry to say this, man, but you can only go up and talk to a girl so many times without making some sort of move before she loses what interest in you she might have had. And you sound like you're beyond that point.

Girls like a guy who wants something and goes and gets it, after all. And I'm sure she knows what you're talking to her for, so you're not making yourself look very attractive by not making a move.

Write her a damn note.

... but seriously. mbinebri is kinda on the ball with this.

^ I'm sorry to say this, man, but you can only go up and talk to a girl so many times without making some sort of move before she loses what interest in you she might have had. And you sound like you're beyond that point.

Girls like a guy who wants something and goes and gets it, after all. And I'm sure she knows what you're talking to her for, so you're not making yourself look very attractive by not making a move.

^ Think of it this way: you were nervous about approaching a girl before her, you overcame it, and now you can take that experience and use it to do better with the next girl. It was a learning experience. Hell, if you start talking to other girls and this one Asian girl sees it, she might think, "Oh hey, other girls like him, maybe I'm missing out." And that would do you more good in her eyes than you've done so far probably -- not that I'm saying you should use other girls to get to her.

Just play the field, as they say. I can't believe I'm typing this. I need to take my own advice.

^ Think of it this way: you were nervous about approaching a girl before her, you overcame it, and now you can take that experience and use it to do better with the next girl. It was a learning experience. Hell, if you start talking to other girls and this one Asian girl sees it, she might think, "Oh hey, other girls like him, maybe I'm missing out." And that would do you more good in her eyes than you've done so far probably -- not that I'm saying you should use other girls to get to her.

Just play the field, as they say. I can't believe I'm typing this. I need to take my own advice.

blue-- alot of what matt says is dead on, but i dont think giving up is the answer

go at her with strength and confidence, it will throw her off balance, but also

make her give you a second look. unfortunately, us girls*myself not included*

really do respond to that technique- if that doesnt get her thinking twice--

do what matt says, play the field-- bolster your confidence.and if you dont have the confidence, fake it until you make it-baby!!

i always heard a saying, that people decide within the first couple of minutes of meeting

you whether theyll do you or not. her first response was positive, right??

means she already decided. you just have to step it up. like that guy in 'the forty yr old virgin'

says... 'be kind of an asshole, not big time asshole, kinda like david caruso in Jade'

that shit works.. for real!!

^ Think of it this way: you were nervous about approaching a girl before her, you overcame it, and now you can take that experience and use it to do better with the next girl. It was a learning experience. Hell, if you start talking to other girls and this one Asian girl sees it, she might think, "Oh hey, other girls like him, maybe I'm missing out." And that would do you more good in her eyes than you've done so far probably -- not that I'm saying you should use other girls to get to her.

Just play the field, as they say. I can't believe I'm typing this. I need to take my own advice.

I'm not a big fan of these universal truths, I don't believe in a "one size fits all" approach when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex. How can we know if that girl wouldn't like some more attention from Bluestar?

exactly, SS!!

she could be sitting around thinking, 'why doesnt blue make some kind of move?'

many girls dont take initiative, they wait for you guys to take care of it all

but like i said, confidence is a must.. and faking it does lead to it becoming a natural part

of your personality.my 17 yr. old was the same way..i got him to just go up and talk to girls-even though he was painfully shy

and lately, hes approaching females and getting some action!! *protected action im prayin*

Don't stone me here but I'm thinking the biggest mistake here is making a bigger deal of everything than it actually is.

Blue. Sorry buddy but you gotta stop worrying about this chick. If you see her and talk to her again, you see her and talk to her again. If you don't, you don't. It's not that big a deal. She just a pretty face that you've already lowered your standards for ain't she? (That's me trying to think back and recalling you saying something about smoking is gross) In the end dude, you're either gonna hit or miss. Learn to relax.

Pretend she's fat or something. You're only uptight about this because you've put her up on this pedistle.

for some reason with that last pedestal comment it references another 40 year old virgin scene

what pedestal comment? i see pedistle.

har har. i suck at spelling.

and no, i wasn't thinking of a movie when i wrote that. dude is really freaking over this chick.

what pedestal comment? i see pedistle.

har har. i suck at spelling.

and no, i wasn't thinking of a movie when i wrote that. dude is really freaking over this chick.

^^That double-post is thanks to Savvis... the ISP this site has been using that has been below par in performance lately.

Toobok says no, but he's a straight male soo........

Assuming "leagues" exist, is this girl out of mine? Any point in approaching her?

Additionally, I've been friends with her for about a year and a half, so I don't know if there's anyway out of the 'friends' bin.

Get some one on one time.

I don't believe in a "one size fits all" approach when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex.

I hope I haven't caused too much trouble.

scratch my last post...she just asked me on a date. I think.