Can boy and girls be just friends?

I say yes

I have a lot of male friends and nothing has happened with any of them. I don't have feelings for them and they don't have feelings for me. I've only had 1 male friend get feelings for me and that just ended badly so he's no longer a friend and doesn't count now.

Yes, but I'm bi so maybe this thread shouldn't apply to me haha

Though, I have groups of friends which consist of both female and male members (ajority of which are straight), so I think so.

I do have female friends but they are more like casual friends. I've had women that I'm not particularly interested in attracted towards me (for close friendship, that is). But time and time again, the trend persists: 1. Intense friendship- we talk a lot about our life stories, etc. 2. Talk about our interests for a time, do things together. 3. We run of out stuff. The situation turns over and I become "that guy" and she starts using me for emotional support for what is...seemingly forever. I am now the free social worker. I am ready to repeatedly radiate warmth, understanding, and logical solutions. I get all the baggage and little of the pleasure. Then I deliberately cut off the intensity. 4. Repeat with some other woman...

I know that my psychological buildup/value system is fairly different from most people.

Why don't you just let them know that you're not doing things for free?

Why don't you just let them know that you're not doing things for free?

I do. But it is against my values to not help someone close to me. The cycle I am describing repeats, flows, and then ebbs. There is no great drama. The close friendship dies with a whimper.

Is it also against your values to be honest with them before things get too far?

I'm always honest in close friendships. Some people tend to cling onto me.

So maybe it's just the ladies' fault, then?

Yes, it is. You're making too many assumptions.

Or maybe you're just leading me towards them?

I did not write about the underlying conditions and am quite confident of my answers here.

I do have female friends but they are more like casual friends. I've had women that I'm not particularly interested in attracted towards me (for close friendship, that is). But time and time again, the trend persists: 1. Intense friendship- we talk a lot about our life stories, etc. 2. Talk about our interests for a time, do things together. 3. We run of out stuff. The situation turns over and I become "that guy" and she starts using me for emotional support for what is...seemingly forever. I am now the free social worker. I am ready to repeatedly radiate warmth, understanding, and logical solutions. I get all the baggage and little of the pleasure. Then I deliberately cut off the intensity. 4. Repeat with some other woman...

I know that my psychological buildup/value system is fairly different from most people.

Is it also against your values to be honest with them before things get too far?

How is he being dishonest with them?

hm, I think casual friends its possible, but for a boy and a girl to be each other's best friend, no. sooner or later, one of them is going to want more than just being friends.

Its possible, ive had the same male BFF for the past 3 years, yes we had some rough patches, ups & downs, but for the most part, i find guy friends alot more reliable than girl friends, not to say there arent some really wicked good Girl BFF's out there, but girls are catty, & tend to be jealous, thats ONLY MY in experience & opinion, that doesnt goes for anyone else

thanks LMS. right back at ya.

i think it depends on the people involved as well. If one o both are looking or wanting more, than obviously it is a set up for disaster. But if both can see that friendship and the bonds that go with it are just as special as any romantic relationship, than it can and will work. And the results will be something that most people will just not be able to understand.

When it comes to me, I enjoy what I have with my bff who is a woman. Someone who will kick me in the arse (or the other side) when I need it, or can give me insight into the female mind when needed, and who I can always rely on. Though at times we want to kill each other, we both know that when it's all said and done, we wouldn't change anything.

Unfortunately I think a lot of people just automatically think that if a guy and girl are that close there must be more to it, but at some point, when you are that close of friends, the person stops being your "male friend" or "female friend" and just becomes your best friend.

All my male friends are "just friends" and it will remain so

im gonna say NO, and describe two cases.

First, me and guy became like best friends freshman year in college. Togther all the time, in all classes, before after class, lunch, dinner, everything you can imagine.I will tell him things, he will tell me, we shared so much. I truly loved him, as a friend. However, time pases, he cut all connection with me and it turns out, it is because he developped feelings for me, but never told me. I had absolutely NO clue he liked me, just because he seemed such a cool friend. Now we havent spoken for years and lost track of each others lives.

Second, me and another guy. Again in college...hahah...im starting to repeat myself. Together all the time, hang out, besot fiend,s whatever, but at one moment i started realizing i had feelings for him, and slowly but surely i fell in love with him like crazy. On the other hand, he didnt like me like that. Just as a friend, and it was killing me. I didnt even know how fast i started liking him but was fooling myself, saying...ooh we re just friends.

So my conclusion is, sooner or later, one or the other party will develop feelings, and therefore, it is not possible to be exteremely close friends (which i consider true friendship) and yet not fall for each other

Ooh and btw, now ive lost contact with both guys, and they were like my best friends at one time!!! hahah

Only if one of them isn't straight.

There will always be sexual tension

They can be friends, but one will always be uglier than the other or is average looking.

One of my best friend of all time is a guy We've known each other since middle school. We are ridiculously close, in fact, I've shared a bed with him. Nothing, not even an inkling of romantic feelings occur on either of our sides. He's my baby and his girl, but we are just that, best friends.

I honestly believe that a girl can be just friends with a guy because MOST of my friends are guys and while I might've developed a little crush for one or two, it quickly subsides because my guys are like my annoying brothers... In fact, I have better friendships with men than I do with women because like I told my boyfriend, women are either: cunts or bitches. Bitches make better friends than cunts, but most are cunts. I'm only half-kidding, of course. But women tend to be catty and possessive and honestly, female friendships can be way too superficial and complicated. My female friends are few and far between.