Approaching a Female

Dude, I can personally attest, if you have the formula, you can get nearly any girl you want, no matter if you're good looking or not.

Ask yourself a few questions... what are my strong points, what are my weak points? Do I work out? Do I dress appropriately, do I groom, what would suit me, etc., etc. And that's only the start. I've seen ugly ass guys, 5"5, (but ripped... remember, getting ripped only takes a 8 week workout), very ugly, picking up 8s and 9s.

I'm neither good or bad-looking. I just "look".

Dude, I can personally attest, if you have the formula, you can get nearly any girl you want, no matter if you're good looking or not.

Ask yourself a few questions... what are my strong points, what are my weak points? Do I work out? Do I dress appropriately, do I groom, what would suit me, etc., etc. And that's only the start. I've seen ugly ass guys, 5"5, (but ripped... remember, getting ripped only takes a 8 week workout), very ugly, picking up 8s and 9s.

I'm neither good or bad-looking. I just "look".

Don't judge for yourself.. let us see..

Yeah, I don't think so.

Anyways, there's a few people on here who have seen me. But I'll NEVER reveal their identities. But they know I'm nothing special.

Je suis moche mais je m'amuse.

I'm neither good or bad-looking. I just "look".

Anyways, I'm not looking to "bag myself an 8 or a 9". I'm coming to an age where I'd like to meet someone for a real, meaningful relationship.

Dude, I can personally attest, if you have the formula, you can get nearly any girl you want, no matter if you're good looking or not.

Ask yourself a few questions... what are my strong points, what are my weak points? Do I work out? Do I dress appropriately, do I groom, what would suit me, etc., etc. And that's only the start. I've seen ugly ass guys, 5"5, (but ripped... remember, getting ripped only takes a 8 week workout), very ugly, picking up 8s and 9s.

I'm neither good or bad-looking. I just "look".

Don't judge for yourself.. let us see..

Anyways, I'm not looking to "bag myself an 8 or a 9". I'm coming to an age where I'd like to meet someone for a real, meaningful relationship.

Anyways, I'm not looking to "bag myself an 8 or a 9". I'm coming to an age where I'd like to meet someone for a real, meaningful relationship.

That makes sense to me

except.... in that real, meaningful relationship... she has to be at least a 9. Sorry. Call it shallow if you want but I feel like I have a responsibility as the last male of my clan to breed well.

At least you're honest, Toobs.

And who says an 8 or a 9 can't make great partners for a meaningful relationship?! As a 9 myself, I am offended!

I'm honest as well in saying I no longer think in those terms.

It's hard out there for an below average-looking, average-income, average-intelligence, average-personality dude like myself. I'm the Salieri of single males.

Are you packing at least? hehe...

PS. you should go for the asain-chicks. they is easier for some mysterious reason. lol.

you could be one of those people who make me laugh at the mall when I see a hot asian getting followed around the mall by some ugly white dude and a stroller.

Are you packing at least? hehe...

PS. you should go for the asain-chicks. they is easier for some mysterious reason. lol.

you could be one of those people who make me laugh at the mall when I see a hot asian getting followed around the mall by some ugly white dude and a stroller.

I'm not ugly, just not particularly attractive. Average. There is a difference between that and ugly, you know. I don't look like Quasimodo.

Neither am I creep. Nor a desperate loser. And I'm not looking for easy girls.

What I've been trying to argue from the start of this thread is that boy-girl interactions have become needlessly and frustratingly complex.

I do find it funny that when someone states they're not the greatest thing since bread came sliced, they are automatically unattractive. There's an entire spectrum of attractiveness between but-ugly and drop-dead gorgeous. In fact, most of us are to be found in between those extremes.

I didn't really call you ugly either. Sorry for the miscommunication.

You did mention below average though.

Anyway, I agree. The whole boy meets girl thing has been made into something much more complicated than it needs to be.

Why is it so goddamn hard to fall in love with you, or.. fall for you?

Are u so intimidating?

I'm not ugly, just not particularly attractive. Average. There is a difference between that and ugly, you know. I don't look like Quasimodo.

I didn't really call you ugly either. Sorry for the miscommunication.

You did mention below average though.

Anyway, I agree. The whole boy meets girl thing has been made into something much more complicated than it needs to be.

I guess I did.

fast forward to 50 seconds into the trailor.. the technique he uses at this point works

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q6wEAmjbmh4

... occasionally

One that works for me. Talking to a girl. High touch factor. Not in a creepy way, just slaps on the shoulder, and if you can let her hold you anywhere (hand, shoulder) whatever, that's a great help. Now, as she's talking, smirk slightly. If she smirks, say (laughing, and slightly... mischievously) "what...?" she'll say "nothing" or giggle. Then I just look at her for a second, and when she catches my eye, laugh slightly. It sounds odd in text, but you'd know what I mean if I mimed it. It's very effective, because it is turning on the "romance" not "just friends" switch, and you're basically accusing the girl of doing it.

I've used this one a few times:

two girls talking.

me: "where are you guys from?"

girl: "uh... here?"

me *inquisitive look*

girl:"what?"/"huh?"/"well I was born [blabla]"

me: Oh... I thought I heard an accent.

girl: "haha no.."/"well I was born [blabla]"/"maybe it's cuz..." [whatever]

me: i like your voice anyway. [it sounds so... "innocent" (if the girl is clearly slutty), "sexy" (if the girl is clearly innocent), "smooth", "adventurous", whatever]

If she returns with a compliment you're on a definite winner, if she smiles or says thanks, you're doing well, if she seems a bit irritated, move on.

If a girl makes eye contact with you, make a little gesture with your face as if you're trying to tell her something (kinda furrrow then raise your brows). If she says "what?" or does the "huh" face, then tell her something. If she's really hot, try (with a cheeky smile) "You've got something on your cheek" or similar. If she's not hyper-hot you can smile and throw a direct compliment (no girl expects that confidence and it generally brings a good result). If she seems freaked out, you can say "I didn't mean that... wrong/whatever... dude I've got a girlfriend anyway."

Which brings us to the next topics. De qualifying openers. If you open with something that immediately says "I don't want to have sex with you right now... or at least I'm hard to get", you knock off half the difficulty. That's why I like to dress EXTREMELY metro. It adds a slight sense of intrigue (many straight guys dress that way, but so do many gays... so if you're just friendly with her she doesn't know if you're interested in her or not... thus leading her to express interest in you, from which you build).

Back to topic. De qualifying openers. "Excuse me... what brand are those boots? They are so sexy... I want to buy them for my girlfriend." Confident, a sort of indication you like her, but immediately a challenge if she likes you.

If you hold a conversation without ever turning on sexual tension, you've lost. But if *you* turn on the sexual tension, it's easy to come across as needy.

So speak like she's turned it on. Accuse her of being forward. Laugh. Pretend she is making you blush. Then put her down, while expressing interest. Expressing interest in a girl is immediately a submissive gesture. Submissiveness for a guy is unsexy. So don't do it. Make it a dominating gesture. "It's a pity you're so [inexperienced, innocent, adventurous, logical, changable, emotional, ] or I'd totally date you [/you'd so be my type]". You've just [really] told her "I want to sleep with you," but there's no good turn down. If she turns you down... good, she's just listened to what you said you wanted. If she tries to play for you, good, you're winning...

Or you don't even need to express any interest. Until the first date. Then the question is getting the first date.

The trick here... pull the conversation onto a 'date topic'. That is...

her [in this case a store clerk]: oh yeah, I'm intending to go to Norway.

me: I'm sure. And the tall blonde guys are nothing to do with it. (sarcastic, while also accusing her of being shallow/horny)

her: *laughs*

me: I never knew why girls liked Hayden Christensen....

her: [blbala]

me: did you hear about Jumper?

her: (i'm assuming she expresses some interest in the movie... if she doesn't, keep switching topics until you find something she likes, and pretend you like it too... but try to predict what she'll like, that way it's far more realistic).. yeah, I heard it was a pretty good movie.

me: you get weekends off, right?

her: yeah..

me: well I was going to go see it tomorrow or sunday... what's the best time for you?

her: [either has to answer, hence 'yes', or says 'ooh I don't want to see it' which is difficult]

me: alright, cool. what's your number?

In other words, keep it so that at every point, for her to turn you down would make her AWKWARDLY UNFRIENDLY. Give her no leeway.

Player 101 taught by SOLO

you should write a book or go on a talk show on the play boy channel

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yeah, Solo seems very sure of what he is writing !!!

In my experience, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to interacting and communicating with women. I just wing it according to the situation and mood. Frankly, I'd feel a bit silly if I was following some sort of "strategy" inside my head.

In my experience, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to interacting and communicating with women. I just wing it according to the situation and mood. Frankly, I'd feel a bit silly if I was following some sort of "strategy" inside my head.